Posted by shar on July 30, 2000, at 2:45:45
In reply to ••setting goals••discovering values, posted by Janice on July 29, 2000, at 23:45:42
Janice,
The most success I've ever had with such an exercise, I was about 23 and had an index card upon which I wrote the things I would like to accomplish. Not boring things, but things I thought would be cool, interesting, mind expanding, enriching, fun, not boring.I think I had--go to the opera, learn to roll "cigarettes" really well, write an article for publication, be fluent in another language, have a wardrobe I loved, own a motorcycle--things like that.
Every once in a while I come across that card, and it's faded (after 25 years) and I have actually accomplished some of those things!
I stayed away from things I thought I "should" do, and focused on things more in the dream category (if I could wish for anything, within limits, ie, I didn't put "be the richest woman in the world").
I am terrible at setting practical every day goals, and I always blow them. I think the point of goals is to get one thinking proactively, moving forward, having something to work toward. This would help people stay out of the depressed here-and-now.
Good luck with yours!
Shar
> I've just been reading about setting goals in Nibor's Undoing Depression webpage in the 'living well' section. It says to take a pencil and paper and list ten things that you feel make living worthwhile. Then to rank them in order of importance. Then to try to spend as much time as possible doing things that help achieve these goals.
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> I have such difficulties with goal setting, setting realistic goals, remembering I've set goals, breaking down big goals into small units, remembering to care about goals I've set, even knowing what it is that makes me feel living is worthwhile.
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> I'm ready to try again and hoping you could give me examples of 'things that could make you feel that living is worthwhile'. Maybe this could help clarify exactly what a value is.
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> As always, thanks, Janice
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