Posted by CarolAnn on May 29, 2000, at 9:24:44
In reply to question for everyone, posted by kathy on May 29, 2000, at 1:57:45
kathy, I just finished writing to you in the messages up where you were thinking of suicide. If you missed my note, please try to find it.
I'm so sorry about your baby, and the whole experience confirms what I wrote in my first note to you, "He was a bad, bad, husband!", and not only that, HE IS A BAD, BAD, PERSON! It's hard to believe right now, but someday you will truly be glad that you are rid of him.
The thing for you to do now, is to think only about yourself and what you need to do to start getting over this. You are much more important then anyone else in your life right now, and don't let anyone try to tell you different! Just concentrate on learning who you are and what your real needs are.
One more thing, losing your baby was sad, but you are wrong to think that if you had the baby, you would never be sad again. I know this is true, when I had my baby, I went through the worst depression I have ever had. And, even though she is the love of my life, I spent the first year and a half of her life wishing I could kill myself. I'm still suffering depression, because my psychiatrist is still trying to find the right anti-depressant drug for me. This is where the "hope" that johnL was talking about comes in. Remember that no matter how bad things are today, there is *always* a chance that something will happen to make things good tommorrow.
Love, your friend, CarolAnn
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