Posted by Cass on May 12, 2000, at 18:31:29
In reply to Re: How Well Do You Know Your Therapist?, posted by tina on May 12, 2000, at 16:09:18
Hi Kay,
It seems to me that the focus of therapy should be YOU. Many years ago, I had a therapist like yours. Like you, I also had a hard time expressing my feelings, and I was VERY insecure. I felt sort of honored that he was discussing his personal life with me. He was very complimentary toward me, and I developed a crush on him. We sson went outside the boundaries of a psychologist/patient relationship. For example, he asked me out once, and we had a lot of physical contact (but never intercourse). I was in "therapy" with him for about 2 years which I consider a complete waste. It was even damaging because toward the end I think he got scared about the inapropriateness of our relationship, and he suddenly became formal and distant and acted like the relationship had never been anything but. That was a real head trip for me. I'm not saying I think your pdoc will behave that innapropriately, but don't waste your time in therapy if it's not YOU who is getting something out of it.
P.S. To anyone who read my "Pdoc gone bad?" post. The psychologist I just wrote about is the one who referred me to the pdoc who eventually went to jail for raping a patient. Overall, it was a horrible initiation into the world of therapy.
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