Posted by FP on May 8, 2000, at 22:58:40
In reply to Re: Work issues?, posted by Rebecca on May 8, 2000, at 19:21:30
> I'm nervous about telling my supervisor because I'm getting to the point where I've been there long enough that I want to and am taking on more responsibility. I don't want to lose that.
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> So far people seem to think I'm doing a very good job, so I don't want to bring up issues that don't really exist. On the other hand, every time I think I'm getting to a nice and stable state something happens to bring that in doubt. If it were anything other than mental health, I think I'd feel comfortable saying "hey, medical things are going on, I might not be totally with it periodically."
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> Is it better to at least make my supervisor aware that there may be bigger problems at some point, or just deal with that if/when it happens?
In a word, NO. Wait till you crack up, first. If you tell him/her you risk never being promoted at all. Some supervisors might be very understanding; others might be totally weirded out. Unless you have a real good sense of you how your supervisor will react, it's not worth taking the chance, IMHO. That kinda talk makes corporations VERY NERVOUS.At the very least, wait until your boss asks if there's some kind of problem at home, or gives other indication that people have noticed your performance is slacking off: odds are, they haven't. (As the Church of Sub-Genuis says, "Act like a dumbsh*t and they'll treat you like an equal")
After all, you may never crack up....
Of course, this is just one person's opinion. I DID have two long-term periods of Disability while at my last "real" job, (pre becoming a highly paid consultant), and I'll tell you, I was never treated the same again - everyone acted as though I was made out of glass. It sucked, and my career advancement at that co. was over.
Obviuosly, YMMV.
I'll say a prayer for you tonight - this is a tough place to be in.
FP
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