Posted by Cindy W on February 8, 2000, at 21:54:15
In reply to Re: Harry, you can do this, posted by Cass on February 8, 2000, at 19:51:39
> Harry,
> I have had a similar experience with a friend. We clicked immediately: I felt extremely validated and understood by her. It is easy to become "addicted" to that feeling when you have had little of that in life. I needed to talk to her everytime the most insignificant thing happened to me. I became too dependent, and she became defensive. Fortunately, I was able to maintain the friendship by detaching myself from her enough to give her her space back. I did this by keeping busy and broadening my social circle. College classes are great for that. Also, community activities, i.e. volunteering or involvement in a church. Or if you like to read, you could start a book club. Did your friend cut off the friendship all together, or did he just pull away? Then again, if he was narrow-minded or cruel about your treatment of depression, perhaps you are overrating his support (I know that is hard to think about objectively when you miss some one and feel lonely.) I hope that he is a good friend, and that you can maintain the relationship.
> Cass
harry, hope you enjoy this virtual hug and smile.--Cindy W (formerly of the 2000 guinea pigs, and now lots of treefrogs)
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