Posted by Racer on July 25, 2005, at 1:50:59
In reply to Re: Anybody remember Gracie? » Nikkit2, posted by shar on July 25, 2005, at 0:20:22
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> I certainly hope her widower husband gets whatever he deserves....be it riches or...something else.
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> xoxoxoxo
> SharThis is something that I've mused about, on and off, for years. Since before the man who molested me died, but especially after his death. He was never charged, although he was investigated a couple of times for various girls. You can imagine that I had some feelings of unfinished business, since it seemed as though he died without ever experiencing any unpleasantness, despite what he had done to me, and to others.
I never did figure anything out, although I tried on a number of ideas -- they ranged from a Hell where perpetrators experienced their victims' pain, to the old standby: Life Is Unfair. I don't know.
It would be nice to think that there was some justice, that those brutes would be punished for their crimes, in proportion to their crimes. I don't think that happens. I don't think that it's any sort of punishment to them if we manage to get over what they've done. I don't think that there is any sort of divine justice.
I guess the only thing I've ever come up with is to try to strengthen myself, to unlearn the lessons I learned at his hands, and move on. I think I've given him more than enough time and attention in my life, that even reacting the way he taught me to is more than he deserves.
I'm not sure that really means anything, but it's the closest I can come.
Gracie's ex-to-be? I hope he rots in Hell. I hope that, if he did help her away from life, he is punished in this life. And I wish that all of us here could decide his punishment.
But maybe it's best just to remember Gracie, and celebrate all of our lives?
Shar, I'm glad you're in my life.
(And we all know how chuffed I am about Nikki, right?)
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