Posted by Racer on April 30, 2004, at 12:59:01
In reply to Cold?, posted by SLS on April 30, 2004, at 6:46:04
Hm... You don't strike me as cold, but you do strike me -- almost always -- as having a self-sufficiency and strength, a competance that allows you to give good information and good advice, without necessarily giving a lot of obvious emotional warmth. Now, keep in mind that I suffer a Serious Mental Illness, so anything I say must be taken with a number of large grains of salt. To me, that solid information that you offer is not only worth more than the easier emotional support, but it is a sign of emotional openness. I know that when I give reasoned responses, with hard information that can be verified, it comes from an emotional warmth within me. So, to me, you've always come across as very caring and very generous.
On the other hand, I can see how that could be mistaken for coldness. I think you -- like me -- are an acquired taste, but valued more highly by those who have acquired it. (At least, I hope I'm valued more highly for being a little less easy to appreciate...)
My guess, as far as the non-responses go, is that you always have that air of confidence to your posts, and always seem to have the answers for everyone else, people forget that you need help with things, too. I suspect that no one knows the answers you need, so no one bothers to chime in with plain old, "Gee, Scott, I don't have the answer, but I'm sorry you're suffering."
For what it's worth, I think you're a boon to Babblekind.
poster:Racer
thread:341675
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