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Posted by rjlockhart37 on December 3, 2014, at 22:51:20
there's a girl in my class, well a program that im in at my local college, i had the chance to ask her out, and i didint do it, i mean i talked and all the regular things people do when go to somewhere, if a person truely wants to connect with someone they just do it naturally.....talk, go out to eat, start talking to them like a friend, im not like that, i used to be.....but it's like i feeling a need for someone see over me, i have constantly put up a social frount, same thing i did, just kinda let them fade away, get into a friendship and not direct it what it's suppost to be.... reason why im writing this post to get off my chest.....
if someone really likes someone, they will get into the groove to know them, i didnt, i just said hi, talked about random things but didnt take the relationship farther......
ill still have a chance but she's moving.....i don't know how im going to make the fastest relationship move to start, but how im sensing she's already said you had the chance, and now bye bye......
i can't stop thinking about it, drive myself crazy, maybe if im crazy enough ill do something about it
use charm abilities in less 4 days to see if the relationship can start.....she's moving farther off, i have no idea now, if it's worth all this worry to talk to girl that i have not good biorythams.....it's all with the biorythams, some people are natural and know what the other person is feeling and how to change it and make the relationship work.....use all my abilities in less than 4 days till monday......
there's no reason for me to complain and yak about it because if i don't anything, ill yak the rest of my life......get out of float boat relatinships.....
any thoughts????
Posted by alexandra_k on December 3, 2014, at 23:40:47
In reply to i did it again....., posted by rjlockhart37 on December 3, 2014, at 22:51:20
maybe instead of thinking that you need to hurry up and have a relationship with her because she is moving away in 4 days...
you could do something nice like get or make her a card... say that you will miss her, you are sad she is moving, that you didn't get to know her better or something like that, that moving can be hard, and give her your email address or something like that so if she wants to stay in touch, she can.
then chill... and see whether / where the relationship develops.
Posted by rjlockhart37 on December 4, 2014, at 21:39:09
In reply to Re: i did it again....., posted by alexandra_k on December 3, 2014, at 23:40:47
yea.....but the only thing she has my number but the guy is the one who is suppost to inciate the start.....she hasnt called me, and either two things, she is shy and is waiting, or acting this entire time and not really intrested.....
i have class tommorow so....ill try to do convesation, if you don't talk or say the right thing to girls....get's turned off....and walks away.....already happened to me in the past, so.....can't force this convesation throuhg deperate terms, i did have 4 months to call, but i just didnt do it, showed up, talked had good conversaation, but didnt really turn it up to the next level in relationship....just kept it at the same.....i've thought about it, it may be a good option but if it doenst, it's not a big loss, it's just not making new relationships good, hopefully later if i meet another i won't do the float my boat relationship acts
ill see what happens tommorow....ill post about it.....
thanks alex:)
Posted by rjlockhart37 on December 6, 2014, at 0:56:55
In reply to Re: i did it again....., posted by rjlockhart37 on December 4, 2014, at 21:39:09
talked and bought h something at the bookstore on campus, it's pretty much staying where it is....i didnt get anymore deeper than what i've been doing , she left right after class....so obviously i think the intrest in whatever has ran out.....i was going to just ask to go to dinner and coffee and maybe see a movie, it didnt work, and monday is not gonna work either because that's the going away day, and she moves......
really if think about it, she's far away, i have a hunch she will not return phone calls, and will meet someone new.......
and that's a lesson to me to make good friendships as a priority.....instead of faking it with a face, and then not really intrested in people......i got hurt alot in the past so that's why i backed off and started faking face
but really....what i feel, she likes me for my face appearnce, not really my personality.....and everry day i go, i'm nervious about saying the wrong thing, or not saying anything at all besides saying hi, how are you doing, and end it at that.....and that's exactly what happened.....never focus on a nightmare happening, always focus on something good that is gonna happen, 1 way to think......im gonna screw this up, i can't do this, im scared, something bad is gonna happen, and usally that is what happens because the mind is focused on the energy.....and then another way, what can get accomplished and how good am i going to feel today... and make myself feel better, im going to ask her out to dinner and im going to learn how to talk smooth and charming.....and it's gonna work, biorythams....
not really intrested....that's the bottom line...if i was then i would of desperated to hang out
and stop feeling guilty for not attempting to ask out.....
.....
im not feeling good.....
1800 PATTY CAKE....
ring riing
ring ring
ughh god patty pick up the phone
ringgggg
:yes....
:patty! it's me
:oh no.....
:patty i got to talk you about somethin....
:go...
:there's a girl in my class that liked me but now ignores me and i feel guilty
:well does she make you feel guilty?
:yes....walking away and and rolling her eyes
:well roll your eyes back and look up like you annoyed to see her
:that's not very nice patty...
:well a mean look in the mirror only see's the same mean look back
:what's that mean patty?
:if she makes you feel guilty, then make her feel guilty.....just like lookin in a mirror
:patty that is not how a relationship works, it can be worked out even with ugly looks and additude
:well is this chick giving you any indication that she is gonna take it farther, even after you say your last "goodbye" speech to her....
:i don't know patty......this all makes me so frustrated because the past relationships that where similar
:why don't you just kiss her
:she'd slap me ... and never talk to me again
:give her a hug
:i do but it's only a social hug
:say she's pretty
:already do that alot.....flattery has no substance with someone who doesnt like you
:how you know she doesnt like you?
:she walks away now, rolls her eyes, and talk in disintrested tone
:well, this is a game that is almost over....you either press the right button on the nintendo video game or it's over.....
:which button do i press???
:her number
:oh patty your such a flirt
:im only a student of observation
:but what happens if the botton slips and and the sega controller falls out of hands?
:that means she got in her car, and left....
:what does this mean after i lost this game?
:if you think this is a game you shouldnt be in true relationships fakey fake face
:stop that patty, we don't talk this around here...
:so.....im guessing your going to sit and think of 10000 ways to save thev relationship and forget it all by tommorow
:maybe so patty.....
:well....does she like to shop?
:yea....i think so....
:we'll ... usally if guy shops with a girl and tries on clothes is gay, but why don't ask her out to the mall and move your directions over how the relatinship can build.....and really not be intrested in shopping at all.....
:i don't like to shop....
:i didnt ask you if you like to shop....i said take her to the mall and start getting ideas connecting a better relationship
:ok....we'll first patty....she is not going to go with me and all this is bunch of intellectual b*llsh*t that im going to forget about by tommorow....
:there's always the cheezeburger option and take her to burger king
:shut up patty, this is material wise, not food
:well, rj......why don't awnser your own questions, and observation of social hints
:i quit patty....
:quitting shows you don't care about certain things.....and will show more of a pattern of it happening in the future....
:yes patty....your the grandmaster and know everyhting
:yes i do.....
:last words?
:nuuuuummmmmmmbbbbbbeeeeerrrrr which you hold you hand and talk into
:a phone?
:call her, and if she get's off the phone in less than 5 min than there's another statistical calucation ... not intrested....
:ok patty....
:now by date is waiting on me at pizza parlor....romantic drive into the parking lot....
:have fun patty....
clickguess i should call her! lol
r
Posted by rjlockhart37 on December 6, 2014, at 1:11:13
In reply to Re: so...., posted by rjlockhart37 on December 6, 2014, at 0:56:55
but anyways, i've made some friendships that are solid so.....it's always good to know people are not going to judge and walk away with saying 1 wrong thing.....
yea.....wait till monday, where having a end of semester party.....so, all of this stuff over one person when there's tons of more people to be intrested in.....
ughhh....yea but thanks alex for posting
Posted by rjlockhart37 on December 8, 2014, at 19:13:08
In reply to Re:, posted by rjlockhart37 on December 6, 2014, at 1:11:13
so...last day, i gave her my phone number she gave me mine and gave me romance looks all day long which was really strange, and then at the end at the party....she ignored me and said talk to me after i move....so, i went on first instinct and left after that........
i don't think i like her.....if i did it would flow natrually, not forcing myself to do something im not intrested in doing....
anyways, all these writings and postings maybe will help me in the future to not do what i did in the past, i had the chance and got the hint not intrested....and left on first chance....
it's like that feeling where i go somewhere, stay there chat with people, and go home and do my own intrests, reseraching and pintrest, and babble, facebook......the cyber world is a miracle for me, begin writing and using simple philosphy on the web.....and oppurtunities are endless on the web
well.....who ever she was, it was nice knowing her but the relationship would of faultered, so it's a no.....in a way it's relieving, others it's dreadful for failure.....
we all have a purpose....only choosing the purpose and attaching people along with it that will go that way....
r
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