Psycho-Babble Social Thread 1044615

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What Fresh Hell Is This????....hi

Posted by Jay_Original1 on June 1, 2013, at 13:40:58

Back from exile...into today. "Maybe we're just between th Ice Ages anyways...I'd like to talk but I haven't got that much to say.." Sorry I have been absent for awhile my friends....I was just having a wee bit of a psychotic nervous breakdown. (lol..sorry...have to laugh at this or it just doesn't work.) Well, my Mom passed on a few months ago, and we are about to pursue a civil suit against the hospital Mom was staying in. And we are pursuing it with some of the best legal advice in the country, who said we absolutely have a case. This is going to be tough re-living it all, but we are hoping the Hospital will settle outside of court. I don't care if we only get 10 bucks for this...it is the simple fact that the nursing team that day acted highly negligently and with incompetence. And then at least my Mom will know her death wasn't in vain.

I've been going through grief therapy, and I hate to sound egotistical, but being a social worker, I seem to be teaching my 'therapist' more about this topic than she knows. Don't get me wrong..she is good...but I've 'been around', and am a little bit older than she is. Doesn't really matter though, she is a very kind soul, and grief, as weird as it sounds, is a topic I find myself enjoying talking about. My Mom's death seems to hit me hardest in those moments where I run across one of her personal items, pictures, etc. No more tears today...please.

So, I moved in with my Dad, and have a big house to look after as well, but I am going to get some help. Having a housekeeper come in a few times a week, and my brother and nephew look after the landscaping. And, my Dad is on dialysis, getting weaker every day..I honestly don't know how long he is going to make it. I got him a new GP, and the guy seems kind of useless, once again. Very conservative doctor...my Dad was last on Percocet(sp?)(5mg + tylenol) 3 times a day. This new doctor is hesitant to give him anything stronger than Tylenol 2! My Dad is 76 years old..fer chripes sake!He likely doesn't have a lot longer to live, so addiction (I know addiction..I was an Addiction counselor fer gawds sake!) is not an issue to worry about. It is about quality of life, and I WON'T settle for anything less for my Dad.

Okay..I've taken up enough of your time...thank you all for reading this far, and any comments would be appreciated.

 

Re: What Fresh Hell Is This????....hi » Jay_Original1

Posted by Phillipa on June 1, 2013, at 18:25:18

In reply to What Fresh Hell Is This????....hi, posted by Jay_Original1 on June 1, 2013, at 13:40:58

Jay what happened that day to your Mom and how and what was the negligence? Phillipa

 

Re: What Fresh Hell Is This????....hi » Phillipa

Posted by Jay_Original1 on June 1, 2013, at 22:50:31

In reply to Re: What Fresh Hell Is This????....hi » Jay_Original1, posted by Phillipa on June 1, 2013, at 18:25:18

> Jay what happened that day to your Mom and how and what was the negligence? Phillipa

Philipa...thanks for responding. I've been away from the board for many months, and honestly thought I'd get a few more replies. :( But, it was kind of you to reply...and that is good enough for me. Well, with my Mom, what happened was she was recovering from a stroke, as well as hydrocephalus(sp?)...fluid build up in the brain, and an infection in the brain. She had been moved out of ICU to a casual-care floor. She often was now sitting in a wheelchair, doing some physio, and she was always restrained in her chair with either the lap tray, or with a seat belt. But, one day, some very incompetent nurse put her in a wheelchair without a restraint! Mom of course had a very serious brain injury, and they left her in the chair unattended for some time. My Mom must have seen something she wanted to investigate...and stood up, took a step and fell flat on her face. She had shattered her cheek bone, and had two lumps the size of pool-table balls on that same side. She had hit her head so hard, it caused massive major internal bleeding. The doctor said if they kept her alive on the machines, she would live a life of bad pain, and be in a vegetative state. No way we ever could have let her suffer like that. So..they shut the machines down...stepped around the curtain, kissed her and told her how much I loved her, and that we will meet again someday...I promised. And then stepped back behind the curtain, they shut the machines off, and she was gone. I was SO NUMB from shock...I just could not in anyway believe it. So, that is the long answer..sorry lol. We got all of the official records and notes and gave them to our lawyer, and she said we definitely have a case!

Thanks,
Jay

 

Re: What Fresh Hell Is This????....hi » Jay_Original1

Posted by Phillipa on June 2, 2013, at 0:10:03

In reply to Re: What Fresh Hell Is This????....hi » Phillipa, posted by Jay_Original1 on June 1, 2013, at 22:50:31

Jay that's definitely negligence. I used to do medical malpractice as an RN and this is not policy of any hospital that I know of to have a patient that was ordered a type of safety devise to keep her safe being left off. You do have a case. These were the only type of cases I did those where the cause and effect were so clear cut. How did the notes of nurse read? And I'm so sorry for your loss. I know not that many on babble. Phillipa

 

Re: What Fresh Hell Is This????....hi » Phillipa

Posted by Jay_Original1 on June 2, 2013, at 23:26:58

In reply to Re: What Fresh Hell Is This????....hi » Jay_Original1, posted by Phillipa on June 2, 2013, at 0:10:03

> Jay that's definitely negligence. I used to do medical malpractice as an RN and this is not policy of any hospital that I know of to have a patient that was ordered a type of safety devise to keep her safe being left off. You do have a case. These were the only type of cases I did those where the cause and effect were so clear cut. How did the notes of nurse read? And I'm so sorry for your loss. I know not that many on babble. Phillipa

Ohhhh gawd I really get quite emotional just reading this back. The tears won't give me a break. Thank you so kindly. I am actually a very timid guy, but when the Coroner called two days after my Mom's passing, and told me he was going to rule her death as 'accidental', I hit the roof and asked him how the hell he came up with that? I told him the original nurse who had contacted me said Mom only had 'two small bumps' on her head. We got to the hospital, and they wouldn't even let me in her ****ing room to see her! It took them almost 4 hours to transport her to the major hospital about a half hour away! In all that time, she was in pain, and I will sure as hell make sure somebody pays a price for that. Sorry....it's just all so fresh. And then there is the huge heated argument between my sister and I. When my Mom was alive, all my sister kept talking about was thinking she could just shove my Mom and Dad into a Nursing home. Well, sucks to be her, because I had the full power of attorney, and any such decision would not be made until I got a full scope of my Mom's future needs. I got so mad at my sister I swore at her and hung up the phone on her. Then I sent her the email from Hell which maybe I shouldn't have, but I had a ton of pressure on my shoulders. It just all went so damn wrong...everything. And I feel guilt that I wasn't there to protect my Mom, like I promised her I always would. (And like she did for me...). Sorry for dragging this out...I don't really have anyone to talk to. My own brother, who lives five minutes around the block from my Dad and I, stops 'in' once every few weeks. Nice family, eh?

Thanks..I really mean it!!!!
Jay


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