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Posted by sleepygirl2 on January 4, 2012, at 6:22:41
I just want to be alone. Sweet wonderful alone time, I want more of it.
But no...
:-(
Posted by Phillipa on January 4, 2012, at 10:05:19
In reply to I'm feeling so avoidant, posted by sleepygirl2 on January 4, 2012, at 6:22:41
I fear aloneness I panic if alone. I wonder why we crave opposite. But then you work don't you and a reprieve from people is understandable and needed. Phillipa
Posted by gadchik on January 4, 2012, at 10:25:43
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so avoidant » sleepygirl2, posted by Phillipa on January 4, 2012, at 10:05:19
until i discovered klonopin,i was terrified to be left alone after coming out of my breakdown.my hubby had to take me along all day,in his work truck on construction jobs!I even insisted on bringing along our "lap dog".We would sit in the truck,and go for an occasional walk.the first day that I stayed alone,I hiked to the top of biggest hill i could find,and sat and looked out at the world.I felt peace,then had lunch out on the porch.Keep in mind,there was also klonopin!(zoloft,and remeron too)I dont mind being alone,yet I always have my pets w/me
Posted by sleepygirl2 on January 4, 2012, at 11:51:15
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so avoidant » sleepygirl2, posted by Phillipa on January 4, 2012, at 10:05:19
I like being alone. I need the time alone. I can entertain myself pretty well. There's always something to do though.
When I was a kid I'd go wandering off by myself.
I didn't fit in so being alone was easier.
Posted by sleepygirl2 on January 4, 2012, at 11:53:35
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so avoidant, posted by gadchik on January 4, 2012, at 10:25:43
That sounds like a good way to recover.
Posted by Beckett on January 6, 2012, at 12:24:28
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so avoidant » Phillipa, posted by sleepygirl2 on January 4, 2012, at 11:51:15
> I like being alone. I need the time alone. I can entertain myself pretty well. There's always something to do though.
>
> When I was a kid I'd go wandering off by myself.
> I didn't fit in so being alone was easier.Could this be feeling more overwhelmed than avoidant?
For me, avoidant usually carries some negative psychological connotations like 'you really should but you are avoiding for
obscure, complex, rooted-in-childhood reasons just sub-threshold beyond your control but you really ought to do something about it.'Maybe you just have too much to do.
And not near enough downtime :-(
And too many people saying, 'you should!'
Posted by Phillipa on January 6, 2012, at 21:20:21
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so avoidant » sleepygirl2, posted by Beckett on January 6, 2012, at 12:24:28
What if it is you that is saying you should, you must, why can't I others can? That's my problem I should Phillipa
Posted by sleepygirl2 on January 6, 2012, at 21:25:07
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so avoidant » sleepygirl2, posted by Beckett on January 6, 2012, at 12:24:28
You make good sense :-)
I suppose I think of myself as less able than most to tolerate a lot of social interaction. There's reasons for that, past and present, if it's true.
I don't mind the avoidant word so much, it's just what I want to do, and I could benefit from some time wandering about by myself.
I could think of myself as needing to move at my own pace.
and I don't have enough down time, so I want to hide out, and catch my breath. I feel like my life doesn't belong to me.
Posted by sigismund on January 8, 2012, at 23:13:56
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so avoidant » Beckett, posted by sleepygirl2 on January 6, 2012, at 21:25:07
> I feel like my life doesn't belong to me.
For very good reasons. It's only natural, given the circumstances. I presume of course. I don't know your circumstances. But that doesn't stop me.
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