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Posted by Lamdage on August 6, 2011, at 2:45:00
Heres a story id like to share.. it happened about 2 weeks ago in the grocery store. I do have mild to medium ADD. At this early evening though, there was nothing mild anymore about it lol. Its a little bit long but funny nevertheless
So i went into the grocery store to do my errands and simply couldnt find jelly in the store. I was about to ask the security guy for jelly because i mean he walks through the store 7 hours a day.
When i did ask him suddenly the word for "jelly" was missing.. I was like "do you know where .. eeh.. eehm ..eh, whats that word... eehm.. ah jelly! its right over there i can see it now". I needed so long to find the word it was awkward. He went off and i dropped a comment like "that word isnt used too often anyway".I went to the register and gave the money to the cashier. Put the foods into my bag and went out. Not far away from the store it hit me: I have to take the nardil now so i need something to drink. So back in the store, lemonade, cashier, walking out...
Then the security guy came up to me and asked me to open my bag. I was like sure no problem. Then he goes: where is the jelly? Did you pay for the jelly? I was young once too and made mistakes. Give me your receipt. Already i was nervous, because i just put stuff like that somewhere or throw it away. For sure i dont know where exactly it is. I saw a receipt saying "rewe" (the grocery store) and gave it to him.
The jelly was missing on the receipt, but it was in my bag!! So he takes me back in this infamous room that all bigger stores have. On the way there i was still joking, saying "i dont need to apply for a job here anymore, do i? Thinking it d be no problem and the issue would resolve in a heartbeat. He laughed about my comment and talks stuff to me and is not too unfriendly. Yet.
Now when we sat in that room there was another worker from rewe and he suddenly is way less friendly and goes like "Ok we have to options now. We have everything on Video so we will be able to see you stole it. EITHER YOU ADMIT YOU STOLE IT OR WE CALL THE POLICE!!"
Further "i was young once too blabla". I was very insecure by now, knowing myself, there is a chance I have just put the jelly into my bag instead of the basket mindlessly. So I told him the truth. The truth was that I just dont know for sure wether or not i have put it into the basket or into my bag, and that I might have taken it, but in a mindless way and not with the intention to steal it. So I sort of admitted I stole it but took it back with telling him that if I took it I didnt do it intentionally but out of carelessness or mindlessness.Now he goes crazy angry. Ok thats it. Well call the police.. Do you really think we are that stupid? You think you can hoax me?? Call the police! And so the other rewe worker did. Now I was, of course, discussing with them and the guy started to scream. I told him he had manipulated me into admitting it and I kind of really did. I admitted it and he called the police anyway. I had to listen to all sorts of crap by now like do you have a job? No? Well there you go. I kept discussing and the guy was infront of me like he wanted to slap my face. He screamed again you try to hoax me... He also told me to SHUT UP several times like he wanted to kill me. Well I told him I wont shut up anyway.
Said something cool to him you FEEL hoaxed.. but I, for my part, didnt hoax you really. So I start putting all the errands onto the table like he asked me to, and they looked on the receipt if I paid for the other stuff. I did not remember wether or not I have put the marmalade infront of the cashier. The two workers start realizing that more goods were missing on the receipt.
But for those goods I remembered putting them on the table and sort of sweared by god the cashier checked them out and told them to not tell me I try to hoax them. They didnt. It might have been the cashier who made a mistake. Still they are angry that I blame them, but they begin to wonder. They were puzzled, looked at the receipt, then at the goods.
This receipt isnt even from today. Its from yesterday. I started searching my bag. And I found another receipt, which was from that day!
Showed it to them, we all checked it.And: everything I bought was on that receipt. By the time we realized the police came in only to hear that everything had resolved. Practically I didnt only forget the word for jelly, couldnt memorize wether or not I paid for the jelly, but also I gave the guy a receipt from a different day.
The guy said he had to apologize and looked at me puzzled: are you REALLY that forgetful?
Posted by Phillipa on August 6, 2011, at 12:46:48
In reply to Doesnt get much more ADD than this, posted by Lamdage on August 6, 2011, at 2:45:00
What a terrible humilitating experience. Glad was resolved. Hey I forget things all the time especially with anxiety. Phillipa
Posted by floatingbridge on August 7, 2011, at 2:45:05
In reply to Doesnt get much more ADD than this, posted by Lamdage on August 6, 2011, at 2:45:00
>the guy said he had to apologize and looked at me puzzled: are you REALLY that forgetful?
I'm thinking, Lamdage, what about this man's own ablity to check the date on the receipt? That he flew into such fury and accusation without being able to get his facts straight speaks more about him than you.
I often have old receipts shoved in my bags, wallet, pockets.
This could have easily been me. I may have some ADD, but I do not have the desire to humiliate people nor am paranoid to think a potential thief was trying to hoax me. That's taking his job a little too personally, and he should not have that particular sort of job. I think that guy could use a reality
check through a report to his manager. What happened to you sounds wrong.Sometimes I feel like, if the world is so insane, why am I the one on medication?
The humor here is black indeed. You okay?
Posted by B2chica on August 11, 2011, at 13:04:30
In reply to Doesnt get much more ADD than this, posted by Lamdage on August 6, 2011, at 2:45:00
OMG!
i cant believe there's someone else in this world that is so much like me.
i would have admitted to it as well, not only cuz i cant remember squat, but i ALWAYS self-doubt and naturally assume i've done the more stupid of the two options!i'm am Very glad things worked out (mostly) in the end. But sorry for your experience.
My anxiety would have been through the roof!i'm always scared to death the cops will pull me over for routine stop and see all my meds and accuse me of selling my adderall as i have such a large quantity of them.
sure their in Rx bottles...but my luck..well.
i need to make sure and drive the speed limit!thank you for sharing.
b2c.
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