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Posted by floatingbridge on November 4, 2010, at 12:17:52
I can't be the only person who's felt this way.
My pdoc has been away for almost a month, today is our appt, and I'm sick.
My son cries almost every morning before school. Sometimes I feel like crying, too.
Hope is in very short supply.
Posted by ron1953 on November 4, 2010, at 16:14:22
In reply to tired of trying?, posted by floatingbridge on November 4, 2010, at 12:17:52
> I can't be the only person who's felt this way.
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> My pdoc has been away for almost a month, today is our appt, and I'm sick.
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> My son cries almost every morning before school. Sometimes I feel like crying, too.
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> Hope is in very short supply.
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>When I feel that way, I keep reminding myself that I survived all the previous times I felt that way. As they say, "When you're at the end of your rope, there's always a little more rope". Hang in there.
BTW, I don't blame your son - being trapped in school sucks.
Posted by floatingbridge on November 4, 2010, at 16:44:04
In reply to Re: tired of trying?, posted by ron1953 on November 4, 2010, at 16:14:22
Hi Ron,
Thanks for the words of encouragement. Last week when I had a major realization about my MIL, I thought to myself, well I made it this far without a rational parental figure.... Kinda like what I think you're saying. After awhile, though, I just feel so worn out. Made it this far? Where am I and for what? Sigh.
Oh, my boy. No, I don't get angry at him for crying. He's little and his teacher says some kids (like her own for example)
want to stay close to their parents. He really needs to be there, and when I pick him up, he's tired but happy and growing. Part of the issue is mine. When I am so down, I barely have any will to get him out the door. Thanks for sticking up for him--he's a great guy.
Posted by ron1953 on November 4, 2010, at 16:55:08
In reply to Re: tired of trying? » ron1953, posted by floatingbridge on November 4, 2010, at 16:44:04
As a shrink once told me, sometimes we have to be our own best parent. I pat myself on the back all the time.
Posted by sigismund on November 4, 2010, at 18:52:35
In reply to Re: tired of trying?, posted by ron1953 on November 4, 2010, at 16:55:08
>As a shrink once told me, sometimes we have to be our own best parent. I pat myself on the back all the time.
You can do that in various ways.
That's how I get myself to do the exercise I need for my back.
Posted by Dinah on November 5, 2010, at 8:13:48
In reply to tired of trying?, posted by floatingbridge on November 4, 2010, at 12:17:52
I get tired of trying so often that I tend to assume everyone does. The world seems so large sometimes. And I feel so ill equipped to deal with it, and too lacking in energy to try.
I'm sorry you're feeling that way.
When do you see your pdoc?
(If your son seems happy at school when you pick him up, it might just be the transition that bothers him. If he cries before school and seems upset when you pick him up, that might indicate problems with other students or with the teacher.)
Posted by floatingbridge on November 5, 2010, at 11:29:20
In reply to Re: tired of trying?, posted by sigismund on November 4, 2010, at 18:52:35
I have back exercises to do, too. I'll try it.
Posted by floatingbridge on November 5, 2010, at 11:44:04
In reply to Re: tired of trying? » floatingbridge, posted by Dinah on November 5, 2010, at 8:13:48
Thanks Dinah. I didn't assume what you did, but when I read your post, it does seem natural.
I am pretty low right now, and I see my pdoc in a few hours.
My son dislikes (he'd use the verb hates) school because this teacher is getting him to work. Homeschool (lol) and his last teacher spent so much time on discipline, all the kids wiggled through. A free-for-all I call it. This teacher is kind and firm and can manipulate kids into behaving in her sleep.
Of course, I assume that crying at transitions is an expression of 'my' depression--so I don't have the healthiest vantage yet. His teacher says her boy sometimes still cries (he's 8) and she ain't depressed. She also mentioned
that my son seems to be a complainer--he'll do all the hard work, but first he'll tell you about it--just so I don't take to heart his contrary nature and tendency to find fault. Gee. Where'd he get that from?I just went on and on. Thanks for addressing my son, Dinah.
We're setting up some sand play time for him.
Posted by obsidian on November 5, 2010, at 23:36:23
In reply to tired of trying?, posted by floatingbridge on November 4, 2010, at 12:17:52
((((((fb)))))))
I know what it feels like to feel like you can't try anymore.
I hope things are brighter soon.
Posted by floatingbridge on November 6, 2010, at 0:49:23
In reply to Re: tired of trying? » floatingbridge, posted by obsidian on November 5, 2010, at 23:36:23
Hi Sid, I think those hugs helped. Today was better. I wrote a very, very simple list, and am prepared to go glacially slow. More than I've done in a long time.
((((hugs back))))) and hoping you are well (enough).
Posted by floatingbridge on November 6, 2010, at 15:48:12
In reply to Re: tired of trying? » floatingbridge, posted by obsidian on November 5, 2010, at 23:36:23
Today during my monthly massage, I became quite aware of places on (in) my body that just said 'no'. Not traumatic (at least today) just unwilling, unable?
Interesting to see physical resistance in such a neutral, matter of fact way.
Resistance is a psychology term, isn't it?
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