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Posted by Cass on April 13, 2009, at 16:01:17
I have felt okay for five days now and am reasonably functional compared to the last four months. My concentration has improved a bit and I feel more alive. It's really amazing to feel this way. I feel like I got lost in a dark pit and I'm seeing a glimmer of light. I do miss my husband terribly still. I miss his love and his enthusiasm and his spirit. I lost him at the end of last year. I went into grief and a profound depression. I've had lots of personal and professional help since then, and I know it won't be all smooth sailing, but right now I'm feeling better.
Posted by Sigismund on April 13, 2009, at 16:26:50
In reply to 5 days, posted by Cass on April 13, 2009, at 16:01:17
My T had this big thing about how missing someone was (although painful) a really good thing.
So when you say you are out of the pit, but missing him still, this sounds excellent to me.
Posted by Kath on April 13, 2009, at 19:07:19
In reply to 5 days, posted by Cass on April 13, 2009, at 16:01:17
Dear Cass,
thanks so much for this very welcome update!
do you think the grief sessions (sorry, can't remember what they're called) have helped specifically?
hugs, Kath
Posted by Cass on April 13, 2009, at 23:00:06
In reply to Re: 5 days » Cass, posted by Kath on April 13, 2009, at 19:07:19
Thanks for the support, you two.
Kath, I do think the grief support group has helped because it helped me understand that the various conditions, confusion, lack of concentration, suicidal feelings are all very normal and to be expected.
Posted by Kath on April 14, 2009, at 13:06:32
In reply to Re: 5 days, posted by Cass on April 13, 2009, at 23:00:06
> Kath, I do think the grief support group has helped because it helped me understand that the various conditions, confusion, lack of concentration, suicidal feelings are all very normal and to be expected.~ ~ Cass that's good. Are you still going to it?
hugs, Kath
Posted by Cass on April 14, 2009, at 22:00:18
In reply to Re: 5 days » Cass, posted by Kath on April 14, 2009, at 13:06:32
The grief support group that I was in ended. Now I am going to do the grief recovery handbook with a friend.
Posted by Kath on April 15, 2009, at 9:37:08
In reply to Re: 5 days » Kath, posted by Cass on April 14, 2009, at 22:00:18
way to go Cass. I'm glad you have something to go on with & also a friend to do it with you!
((you))
love, Kath
Posted by Phillipa on April 15, 2009, at 12:50:03
In reply to Re: 5 days » Cass, posted by Kath on April 15, 2009, at 9:37:08
Cass I'm really glad for you. Love Phillipa
Posted by Cass on April 15, 2009, at 20:23:57
In reply to 5 days, posted by Cass on April 13, 2009, at 16:01:17
Today I'm feeling sad again. I started feeling really down again last night. At least I had some good days.
Posted by Deneb on April 15, 2009, at 21:15:21
In reply to Re: It was nice while it lasted, posted by Cass on April 15, 2009, at 20:23:57
((((((((Cass))))))))
You can and will feel better again. Hang in there.
Posted by Kath on April 16, 2009, at 8:30:01
In reply to Re: It was nice while it lasted, posted by Deneb on April 15, 2009, at 21:15:21
Posted by Sigismund on April 17, 2009, at 19:55:05
In reply to Re: It was nice while it lasted, posted by Cass on April 15, 2009, at 20:23:57
Sad is one thing, depression another. Maybe the way out of depression is through sadness? I don't know, of course.
Posted by Cass on April 18, 2009, at 16:11:51
In reply to Re: It was nice while it lasted, posted by Sigismund on April 17, 2009, at 19:55:05
Sis, You may be right. I just started reading the grief recovery handbook which I hope will give me a little guidance through sadness.
Posted by Sigismund on April 18, 2009, at 19:34:15
In reply to Re: It was nice while it lasted, posted by Sigismund on April 17, 2009, at 19:55:05
Consider the difference between weeping and crying.
Weeping is good, sane, curative...I've read that even the chemicals in tears from weeping are different.
It's not that crying is bad or anything, but I couldn't say the same as above for it.
Posted by Sigismund on April 18, 2009, at 19:35:37
In reply to Re: It was nice while it lasted, posted by Sigismund on April 18, 2009, at 19:34:15
Maybe it's this.....
When you weep, you have no angle on anything, no dog in the fight, nothing to lose or gain.
Maybe.
Posted by Sigismund on April 18, 2009, at 19:53:52
In reply to Re: It was nice while it lasted, posted by Sigismund on April 18, 2009, at 19:35:37
So then it's just that it's so damn sad, and the sadness of the world flows through you, and somehow, by allowing that, you can feel a little better.
Maybe that's what I like about the Buddah's response to the woman talking about death....find me a mustard seed from a household that has not known death. Not meaning 'don't complain'. Just meaning that this is the fate of living things and those who love them, and it's terribly sad.
I don't know.
Posted by Cass on April 18, 2009, at 19:58:06
In reply to Re: It was nice while it lasted, posted by Sigismund on April 18, 2009, at 19:53:52
I really like that quote from Buddha. Thanks.
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