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Posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 20:16:24
Well just found out as I posted on a previous thread that my husband and I are both on that Facebook page. A year or so ago was trying to help xxx and he had my e-mail address and I had his. But we didn't join his facebook page as I don't interract other than on the board with him for many months. My husband said he joined facebook on his computer to look for old friends and my grandson. I joined an old friend of mines from here that I met in person. But didn't join his so how did he get both of us on his friend page . I thought you had to be invited. Can anyone shed some light on this as I can't take anymore of bad talk about me. I come here to try and help others the best I can and for friendship no more or less. Phillipa
Posted by Kath on March 18, 2008, at 20:26:29
In reply to May I Set Something Straight?, posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 20:16:24
I don't know anything about it, but I thought that a person had to 'invite' you to be on their 'friend list' & that to be ON it, you had to 'accept'!!!!
If NOT, that's sorta scarey to me.
Kath
Posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 21:04:47
In reply to Re: May I Set Something Straight? » Phillipa, posted by Kath on March 18, 2008, at 20:26:29
Me too and that would also mean Dr. Bob accepted? Please everyone feel free to ask anything about me you want to know. First I know there was a rumor going around that I never was a nurse but a waitress. Not true. I graduated from Bridgeport CT Hospital of nursing as a diploma nurse in 1985 magna cum laude. Also I'd like to know if there are any ohthers out there I don't know about. And the massive e-mail that made me a person no one trusted was done by xxxxxxx when we change ISPS and Greg said for him to do it as I wasn't home and half the people are people that were realtors, friends from the beach, family and old posters I haven't heard from in years. I've made myself sick over this and can't take anymore. I just want to help people so I don't feel useless as I turn 62 in two days and can't nurse anymore as would have to go back to school and part of that is physical things my body can no longer do and age is a grief issue now for me too. Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on March 18, 2008, at 22:55:34
In reply to Re: May I Set Something Straight? » Kath, posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 21:04:47
Who's bad talking you? I hope you didn't think I was!
-T
Posted by TexasChic on March 18, 2008, at 23:05:30
In reply to Re: May I Set Something Straight? » Kath, posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 21:04:47
I really really don't think you have anything to worry about. The whole facebook/myspace thing is not a big deal in my opinion. The only info out there is what you have chosen to make public. I don't know exactly how facebook works (I'm a myspace person myself), but making someone a 'friend' isn't anything to be scared of. Its just listing you as someone they know, and gives a link to the page that you created when you opened your account. That's it. If you want me to check it out, babblemail me your facebook info and I will. Otherwise, I really wouldn't give it another thought if I were you. And don't ever worry about what other people might say about you, you are a very special, sincere, loving person in my eyes. Try to take it easy.
-T
P.S. I have got to go to bed so I may not respond to any responses from you until tomorrow. I don't want you to think I'm ignoring you or anything.
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on March 18, 2008, at 23:22:02
In reply to May I Set Something Straight?, posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 20:16:24
In the Facebook World, it seems pretty easy to get on someones friends list. Yes, there is an invite, but it can come in really odd ways, like a person of a friend of a person, and say you see one name you recognize, so you say yes, to add me to friends list.
Philipa, despite Dr. Bobs insistence on what you say..could be used against you policy, which I dont exactly agree with, just send out a message that you wish to be kept out of conversations, and can even go as far as do not post to mes if needed. (Geee..I hope I am not on that list..lol.) I find myself very loyal to the posters who have slaved it out on here for many, many years, going back to at least close to the beginning. (I wasnt around at THE beginning.) I know people who complain about that, but then there are so many people who seem to keep on changing their name/handle, and yes I think trust has to be earned. So, this is meant with respect, but I think changing handles is not a good idea. (Unless there where concerns about privacyetc.)Its been a few years, and many of us have matured, and many have healed and some have hurt in different ways. I remember my *anger* phase on here, brought on by hypomania courtesy of Wellbutrin and a dreaded hot summer, and I just got myself all razzed up and hurt myself more then anything. Now, I think Ive made a sort-of Zen Peace with the board. I still have issues Id like see addressed, and I will keep working on them. This board is not a democracy, it is an owned entity of Dr. Bob H., and he profits from using us as his personal virtual laboratory. I see it as a place where I can gently express SOME of what I feel. Even in democracy, too, you cant just say whatever you want to whomever. Okay /soapbox lol.
Jay
Posted by Deputy 10derHeart on March 18, 2008, at 23:32:48
In reply to Re: May I Set Something Straight? » Kath, posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 21:04:47
> was trying to help xxx
>And the massive e-mail that made me a person no one trusted was done by xxxxxxx
Phillipa,
I know you have been upset over this issue today, but I need to ask you to please not use posters' IRL names or post anything that could lead others to feel accused.
I have deleted the names in question, and I have had to do something like this several times on this one thread (not all your fault, I know) and just from a time perspective, would appreciate if maybe, especially if you know you're distressed when posting, you read over posts to be sure they are civil, not revealing private information without posters' permission, and free from actual names.
I don't mean to be insensitive, and I do know, more than you maybe can imagine, what it's like to be upset by things on Babble. Thanks in advance for your help.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be directed to Admin and should of course be civil. Dr. Bob has oversight over deputy decisions, and he may choose a different action.
--10derHeart, acting as deputy for Dr. Bob
Posted by Glydin on March 19, 2008, at 5:21:33
In reply to May I Set Something Straight?, posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 20:16:24
Facebook accounts can scan the email address book associated with the account and IF any of those email addresses listed in the address book are tagged to another Facebook account there is an option to list them on a Friends' List.
I suspect that is probably what happened in your case.
Posted by fayeroe on March 19, 2008, at 9:23:57
In reply to May I Set Something Straight?, posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 20:16:24
> Well just found out as I posted on a previous thread that my husband and I are both on that Facebook page. A year or so ago was trying to help xxx and he had my e-mail address and I had his. But we didn't join his facebook page as I don't interract other than on the board with him for many months. My husband said he joined facebook on his computer to look for old friends and my grandson. I joined an old friend of mines from here that I met in person. But didn't join his so how did he get both of us on his friend page . I thought you had to be invited. Can anyone shed some light on this as I can't take anymore of bad talk about me. I come here to try and help others the best I can and for friendship no more or less. Phillipa
I hope that in my casual conversation about Facebook that I didn't upset you, Phillipa. I certainly didn't me to as I was only giving my experience there. xoxox pat
Posted by adelaide curtis on March 19, 2008, at 9:28:58
In reply to May I Set Something Straight?, posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 20:16:24
i feel really uneasy that you are talking about other people (xxx) in this public forum..does this not warrent a block because you have been warned before?
Posted by Phillipa on March 19, 2008, at 10:36:40
In reply to Re: May I Set Something Straight? » Phillipa, posted by adelaide curtis on March 19, 2008, at 9:28:58
Yes I was wrong and I apologize from the bottom of my heart. I don't know what else I can do to rectify it. Please forgive me. Phillipa
Posted by Deputy Dinah on March 19, 2008, at 11:01:05
In reply to Re: May I Set Something Straight? » Phillipa, posted by adelaide curtis on March 19, 2008, at 9:28:58
> does this not warrent a block because you have been warned before?
You've been reminded on another board to please follow site guidelines in reporting posts you believe to be uncivil.
Dinah, acting as deputy to Dr. Bob
Posted by Phillipa on March 19, 2008, at 16:38:05
In reply to Please follow site guidelines » adelaide curtis, posted by Deputy Dinah on March 19, 2008, at 11:01:05
To the support what you've said is probably right as I responded to old poster and never posted my pic or ever used that site. Just not my thing. But I do wish my husband had said he had a pic there I don't. And he did find my grandson and sent him a message. So people just take your name and address? I don't think I like that at all. And don't remember even how I got there or how to delete my name from her account. Wish I did. Phillipa
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