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Posted by Deneb on February 26, 2008, at 23:04:28
OK, at work, there's this guy I seem to notice. He's kind of quiet and takes his job seriously. He has beautiful long brown slightly wavy hair. He's slim and eats healthy. I think he's cute. He looks like a combination of Asian, Caucasian and Native and wears glasses.
I don't know how old he is. He's probably younger than me, but I'm pretty sure is out of high school.
Anyway, I don't know what come over me but today I left him a note when he took a break.
I wrote something like:
Hi XXX,
I'm really shy and I just wanted to tell you that I think you're cute. I hope we can be friends. If you're interested, my email is XXX.
LOL. I wonder if he'll e-mail me?
Posted by obsidian on February 26, 2008, at 23:06:09
In reply to I'm a secret admirer LOL, posted by Deneb on February 26, 2008, at 23:04:28
congratulations on being so brave Deneb :-)
Posted by Sigismund on February 27, 2008, at 1:04:23
In reply to I'm a secret admirer LOL, posted by Deneb on February 26, 2008, at 23:04:28
> He looks like a combination of Asian, Caucasian and Native and wears glasses.
That sounds really nice.
Posted by Kath on February 27, 2008, at 11:13:40
In reply to I'm a secret admirer LOL, posted by Deneb on February 26, 2008, at 23:04:28
Aw Deneb - that sounds really a nice thing to do & brave.
Will he know who it's from (don't know if your email address has your name in it or if you signed the note, or if all the co-workers know each others' names)
I expect most of us would love to get a note like that! He sounds like he might be an interesting person to get to know!
Good for you!!!!! PULEEZ let us know what happens.
luv, Kath
Posted by Phillipa on February 27, 2008, at 12:48:28
In reply to Re: I'm a secret admirer LOL » Deneb, posted by Kath on February 27, 2008, at 11:13:40
Deneb congrats took courage. Phllipa
Posted by Deneb on February 28, 2008, at 2:15:45
In reply to Re: I'm a secret admirer LOL » Deneb, posted by Kath on February 27, 2008, at 11:13:40
He called me "cutie". LOL
He said he would like to be friends.
I just replied and gave him my first name. He'll be able to figure out who I am if he doesn't know already.
I plan on saying, "Hi" to him when I see him next.
Posted by Angela2 on February 28, 2008, at 10:27:44
In reply to He replied!, posted by Deneb on February 28, 2008, at 2:15:45
aw, yay that's so cool Deneb!
Posted by Kath on February 28, 2008, at 18:41:04
In reply to He replied!, posted by Deneb on February 28, 2008, at 2:15:45
AWWw - how exciting. I think that's lovely.
Let us know how it goes, okay?
Kath
Posted by Deneb on February 29, 2008, at 1:04:28
In reply to He replied!, posted by Deneb on February 28, 2008, at 2:15:45
I really wanted to say "Hi" today, but he didn't work today. I don't know his schedule.
I did a crazy thing. LOL I've noticed that he likes tomatoes. I went to the grocery store and bought a tomato. I was going to give it to him, but he didn't come in today.
Now do you guys think giving him a tomato is too much? Is it OK to give him a tomato? Will he get scared away by a tomato? LOL
Posted by Kath on February 29, 2008, at 10:43:37
In reply to Re: Should I do this?, posted by Deneb on February 29, 2008, at 1:04:28
Hey Deneb - I think that you buying a tomato for him 'cuz you noticed he likes them is amazing.
Hey - you want to be 'you', right???
I think it's important to be able to be ourselves without censoring ourselves with friends. Might as well let him get to know you - the real you!
I think it shows you noticed something he likes & care about that & wanted to do something nice AND fun!
I think you're amazing & I think it's a really cute thing to have done.
Since you don't know his schedule, does that mean the tomato goes to work with you every day until:
1) you see him & can give it to him
2) it needs to be 'retired' & you buy a new one?
Keep us posted.
hugs, Kath
Posted by llurpsienoodle on February 29, 2008, at 11:20:29
In reply to Re: Should I do this? » Deneb, posted by Kath on February 29, 2008, at 10:43:37
yes, deneb, keep us posted.
I still remember one time when my friend brought me a lemon that he grew himself. that was a very sweet lemon.
-Ll
Posted by Deneb on February 29, 2008, at 23:07:30
In reply to saga of the tomato, posted by llurpsienoodle on February 29, 2008, at 11:20:29
Today he wasn't at work. :-(
He e-mailed me saying he is going through a rough time and is not ready to interact with people in real life right now.
I hope he is OK. Maybe he is taking a leave of absence?
I told him about my social anxiety and he says he understands. He gets it too.
((((((cute guy))))))) I hope he's OK.
Posted by Kath on March 1, 2008, at 14:33:30
In reply to Re: He replied again, posted by Deneb on February 29, 2008, at 23:07:30
Sorry about that for him & for you Deneb.
At least it sounds as though you're both able to be honest with each other & have things in common & that you're both seeming to feel safe in discussing that type of stuff.
xoxo Kath
Posted by Deneb on March 1, 2008, at 16:24:38
In reply to Re: He replied again » Deneb, posted by Kath on March 1, 2008, at 14:33:30
Yeah, I really hope he's OK.
He said he wants to be my friend, but he's just not ready to talk to anyone in person yet. He said he'll talk to me when he's ready.
I told him he can talk to me online if he wants to, that I'll be there for him.
I don't mind only e-mailing with him. I want him to do whatever is comfortable for him.
I hope he's OK.
((((((cute guy)))))
Posted by Kath on March 1, 2008, at 22:13:01
In reply to Re: He replied again » Kath, posted by Deneb on March 1, 2008, at 16:24:38
Deneb - that sounds VERY nice.
I get a good feeling about this for you.
hugs, Kath
Posted by Deneb on March 2, 2008, at 2:20:29
In reply to Re: He replied again » Deneb, posted by Kath on March 1, 2008, at 22:13:01
I'm developing a bad crush on this guy. I keep thinking about him, hoping he is OK etc.
I can't wait to get another e-mail from him and I can't wait to see him again.
I feel silly. LOL
I hope he isn't too young.
This is the second crush I've ever had. First crush is on Dr. Bob. LOL
Posted by Kath on March 2, 2008, at 15:55:39
In reply to Re: I'm crushing really bad LOL, posted by Deneb on March 2, 2008, at 2:20:29
> I'm developing a bad crush on this guy. I keep thinking about him, hoping he is OK etc.
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> I can't wait to get another e-mail from him and I can't wait to see him again.
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> I feel silly. LOL
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> I hope he isn't too young.
>
> This is the second crush I've ever had. First crush is on Dr. Bob. LOL
***********HOLY CROW Deneb - is this crush getting anywhere near as strong as the Bob one? If so, be a little careful there, girl!!! IRL is somewhat different from online!! LOLAnyway, you're not silly. Crushes are fun & part of life.
I am SO hoping something nice comes of this for you.
luv, kath
Posted by Deneb on March 4, 2008, at 0:52:02
In reply to Re: I'm crushing really bad LOL » Deneb, posted by Kath on March 2, 2008, at 15:55:39
:-)
I'm happy tonight.
He was at work today. We didn't say "Hi" to each other though. I was too afraid to. That was a drag.
However, I just got an e-mail telling me he added me as a friend on facebook! :-)
Plus I found out he's 23, to be 24 soon. And, he is single. :-)
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on March 4, 2008, at 5:04:46
In reply to Re: I'm crushing really bad LOL, posted by Deneb on March 4, 2008, at 0:52:02
Cool Deneb!
you should definitely say hi, or write on his wall or poke him or something-Ll
Posted by Kath on March 4, 2008, at 12:11:05
In reply to Re: I'm crushing really bad LOL, posted by Deneb on March 4, 2008, at 0:52:02
Hey Deneb - does he know who you are??? I mean at work - or does he just know that some female there has been emailing with him??
How about the tomato?
luv ya Kath
Posted by Deneb on March 4, 2008, at 14:37:53
In reply to Re: I'm crushing really bad LOL » Deneb, posted by Kath on March 4, 2008, at 12:11:05
I'm pretty sure he knows who I am. He knows my name and I put up a picture of myself on FaceBook.
There aren't that many asian females at my work. LOL
I just sent him an email telling him about myself. I made sure to write that he didn't need to tell me anything if he didn't want to and he can ask me any questions he wants to. I also wrote he doesn't have to respond if he doesn't want to because I know he is very busy and going through a rough time.
I hope I won't scare him away by telling him about myself.
Posted by Kath on March 4, 2008, at 15:54:07
In reply to Re: I'm crushing really bad LOL » Kath, posted by Deneb on March 4, 2008, at 14:37:53
I think because you made it clear you're respecting him he won't mind.
good luck, Kath
Posted by Phillipa on March 4, 2008, at 18:33:17
In reply to Re: I'm crushing really bad LOL » Deneb, posted by Kath on March 4, 2008, at 15:54:07
Deneb sounds promising now sit the tomatoe on his desk and he will know it is you. Love Phillipa
Posted by Deneb on March 5, 2008, at 13:40:39
In reply to Re: I'm crushing really bad LOL, posted by Phillipa on March 4, 2008, at 18:33:17
I just saw my pdoc. I told her all about tomato guy.
She said relationships have to be balanced. If I send him an email with many paragraphs and he responds with one line, I should respond likewise.
She said if I email him I should wait for him to email me back before emailing again. I'm going to make sure I follow this rule from now on.
I'm afraid I may have scared him off. I'm going to give him some space.
I'm not good at this social stuff. I hope I didn't mess things up.
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