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Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 17, 2007, at 1:24:08
Once again...tonight I had made plans with my brother to go and hang out...some drinks and such on the patio. So, he just doesn't even call me...nadda. I called his place, got the answering machine. Even his cell phone was off.
Now, yes, years ago, I had problems just 'socializing' with anybody, and I didn't show up at some of my brother's parties. But, I took the time to explain how horrifically painful it was for me to socialize and be around people, and what social phobia is all about.
He just thinks I am 'lazy', but that's his prejudice. So, he f*cks off on me again.People just don't seem to like being around me. I went to a going-away party for my nephew last week, and his Mom (my sister) and hubby invited over a hundred people over. I was scared *sh*tless*! All of these 'cool' people, a young couple with a baby...they must have only been in their early twenties. That was so damn painful to experience. My brother-in-law makes a very rude comment, that people over 40 just can't be as good as parents as people in their twenties. He knows that if I don't have a child from a relationship, that I am thinking about adopting a child or two. But noooo..that's too *weird* for them. Anyways...at this party, all of the 'guys' where being their macho selves, drinking beer and trying to show how 'cool' they are. I came very close in feeling like I wanted to start an intellectual argument with one of them. So...it was...'there is Jay...the weird mental guy who just can't keep it together'. Aww well...F*ck them! I should have gotten wasted and fallen into all of the furniture (do a Lehey from Trailer Park Boys...hahaa.). Plastic people....FU*K that burns my *ss!
So, I increased my clonazepam and Prozac doses to try and numb it all out. So I guess I'll always be 'Jay The Freak' to my so-called family. :-( Geezz,,no wonder I haven't taken up heroin.
'Jay' Freaky man
Posted by Phillipa on June 17, 2007, at 11:30:09
In reply to So disappointed in people......esp family, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 17, 2007, at 1:24:08
I like you and just like you I used to be able to socialize but no longer can so lonely. Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on June 17, 2007, at 18:40:13
In reply to So disappointed in people......esp family, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 17, 2007, at 1:24:08
Dear Jay,
I am so sorry. I am so sorry that someone as nice as you has to put up with such ignorance & rudeness & MEANness. The comment about older parents sucks & was totally unnecessary & useless.
Sorry. I'm being pretty outspoken, but it really upsets me when sensitive, nice people are victimized by non-sensitive, unthoughtful people.
Some people just don't seem to realize or care about hurting people's feelings.
(((((((((((((((((((you))))))))))))))))))))
luv, Kath
PS - my son does drugs. If you've done them or consider doing them now, please don't resume or start. In my opinion, it's a dangerous road to go down.
I admire you for carrying on when it is so painful to do so. xoxo
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 18, 2007, at 19:27:38
In reply to Re: So disappointed in people......esp family » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by Kath on June 17, 2007, at 18:40:13
> Dear Jay,
>
> I am so sorry. I am so sorry that someone as nice as you has to put up with such ignorance & rudeness & MEANness. The comment about older parents sucks & was totally unnecessary & useless.
>
> Sorry. I'm being pretty outspoken, but it really upsets me when sensitive, nice people are victimized by non-sensitive, unthoughtful people.
>
> Some people just don't seem to realize or care about hurting people's feelings.
>
> (((((((((((((((((((you))))))))))))))))))))
>
> luv, Kath
>
> PS - my son does drugs. If you've done them or consider doing them now, please don't resume or start. In my opinion, it's a dangerous road to go down.
>
> I admire you for carrying on when it is so painful to do so. xoxo
Thanks so kindly Kath...I still have to get back to your babblemail. I am not exactly the most organized person. Yeah..I've know my brother-in-law for almost 30 years, and he pisses me off sometimes. He is very responsible, and very good to my sister and their kids, and I give him credit for that. But he is a bit of a "Yuppie", and bugs me sometimes. You know...it's ironic too, because the research actually shows older parents are better. They are much more stable, sufficient, because of the parent's maturity. So, I found a bit of comfort with that. :-)Thanks kindly again...I will be back to you asap....
Jay
Posted by Kath on June 18, 2007, at 20:54:59
In reply to Re: So disappointed in people......esp family » Kath, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 18, 2007, at 19:27:38
No hurry Jay, I leave for my camping-by-myself holiday on Thursday. Wednesday might be the last day I check the internet...depends on how organized I am.
hugs, Kath
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