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Posted by madeline on December 19, 2006, at 13:18:05
10. Use it to justify how nothing ever goes right for you.
9. Use it to rationalize how things will never be good for you no matter how hard you try.
8. Use it as proof that the world is against you
7. Use it as an excuse to rehash in your mind every single time you have been disappointed in your life, starting from childhood.
6. Use it as a reason to hate someone even though the situation was really out of their control.
5. Channel your disappointment into hostility at sales clerks, bank tellers etc...
4. Use it a proof that no matter how much you give and give and give you will never get anything back.
3. Use it as a reason to just give up something you love.
2. Use it as justification for spending too much money.
1. Don't let it make you cry.
Maddie
Posted by Phillipa on December 19, 2006, at 14:35:46
In reply to The top 10 ways NOT to handle disapointment, posted by madeline on December 19, 2006, at 13:18:05
Maddie something happen? I know that if I do one goal that I've set when I get home something bad has happened and I blame it on doing something good for me. Love Phillipa
Posted by madeline on December 19, 2006, at 16:01:41
In reply to Re: The top 10 ways NOT to handle disapointment » madeline, posted by Phillipa on December 19, 2006, at 14:35:46
Yes something bad happened. It's kind of stupid and I just feel like a total loser for not handling this well.
But...
One of the reasons I took a relatively long vacation this christmas was so I could get in extra horse riding lessons before it got too cold. I had one scheduled for today, but not just a lesson but I was going to watch MY riding instructor's lesson with her dressage teacher - who evidentally is really really good.
I've been excited all week. To be honest, I kind of fixated on what to get my instructor for christmas and ended up spending way too much money - but what the heck, I don't live in the cheapest place in the world...
Well anyway, she called this morning about nine and cancelled. But the message didn't show up on my cell phone until I was at her farm.
She and her family had the stomach flu.
I know it sounds sooo stupid, but I love riding and I knew that I would learn a lot from her instructor as well. I was really disappointed because I don't know when I will get this chance again.
I was going to get to spend the day with the horses, I bought pounds of carrots.
I have a very bad tendency to let one bad thing just spiral into a really heartbreaking poor me session and I'm trying to see this as an adult would see it - not a child.
But, yes I am upset. It's going to be two weeks before I can get back to riding.
Maddie
Posted by All Done on December 19, 2006, at 16:29:52
In reply to The top 10 ways NOT to handle disapointment, posted by madeline on December 19, 2006, at 13:18:05
> 1. Don't let it make you cry.
>
> Maddie
(((Maddie))),I'm sorry you're feeling so disappointed.
I'm probably the last person who should talk about being able to cry, but just recently, I've been doing it a lot. My T is trying to convince me that crying is okay sometimes and I don't necessarily have to stop it or figure out why I'm crying "over nothing". (My words for my situation.)
You were looking forward to something that was going to be a very nice time for you. It was a special opportunity and your disappointment is justified. Although it's hard and sucks, maybe you could just let yourself feel the disappointment even if it does make you cry. Maybe it will help to let some of it out?
Like I said, I'm not sure I should be talking about this topic, but I'm trying to learn myself. My T wonders if I could just let myself "be" with my feelings. I'm trying it in baby steps, I guess.
I'm sorry you're so sad.
Lots of hugs,
Laurie
Posted by Phillipa on December 19, 2006, at 20:04:38
In reply to Re: The top 10 ways NOT to handle disapointment » Phillipa, posted by madeline on December 19, 2006, at 16:01:41
Maddie so sorry and it's supposed to be the last day of the warm weather for a while at least. And yes it's an expensive area for sure. Love Phillipa
Posted by madeline on December 20, 2006, at 16:32:27
In reply to Re: The top 10 ways NOT to handle disapointment » madeline, posted by All Done on December 19, 2006, at 16:29:52
I do feel better today. I just tried to do some things that I enjoyed yesterday instead of riding.
I'm going home for christmas this friday, maybe I can find a place there to go ride.
Thank you for your post.
Maddie
Posted by karen_kay on December 23, 2006, at 9:41:40
In reply to The top 10 ways NOT to handle disapointment, posted by madeline on December 19, 2006, at 13:18:05
listen lady with the beautiful name,
i'm sorry you're sad, but you are much too beautiful to be upset. if you like, i'll wear a saddle (and knee pads. this is starting to sound kinky, isn't it?) and you can ride around on my back (in a nonsexual way of course. UNLESS??).
i'm sorry sweetie. did you find another way to overcome your disappointment? i find ben and jerry's always helps when i'm upset or disappointed. chunky monkey's a great choice (oh, but that new york double fudge works just as well)
((((((((((my beautiful bride)))))))))))))
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