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Posted by Deneb on November 27, 2006, at 14:56:39
I don't know how to make people feel better. It's all my fault. Saying sorry doesn't seem to be enough. I don't know what to do now. I'm sad.
Deneb*
Posted by Deneb on November 27, 2006, at 15:07:09
In reply to I'm sorry I made people upset, posted by Deneb on November 27, 2006, at 14:56:39
Does it matter anymore that I still feel sad? I hurt others so now it doesn't matter what I feel. Do people still support me? Or have I been outcast? I feel bad, bad as in horrible and as in evil. I'm a terrible person. Do people still like me? I wish we could still be friends. I don't hold grudges, do you?
I feel bad. I need hugs.
Deneb*
Posted by Dinah on November 27, 2006, at 16:24:01
In reply to Re: I'm sorry I made people upset, posted by Deneb on November 27, 2006, at 15:07:09
You aren't evil, Deneb. It does matter what you feel, and I still support you.
I don't hold grudges, but I don't know if it's useful to think of others as holding grudges so much as actions having consequences. It isn't holding a grudge to be self protective.
The good news is that because actions have consequences, repair of ruptured relationships is also possible. There was a time when a lot of people on this board were wary of me because of my actions here. I was more than a bit volatile. But with time, many of them learned to trust me again.
You may need to give people a bit of time, and space if they need it. But people here want you to feel well, Deneb. They want the best for you. They may be angry, but people get angry and get over being angry.
Nothing is permanent in life, Deneb. It may feel that way, and heaven only knows I have trouble remembering that things aren't always the way they are now, and I don't always feel the way I do now. So I'll remind you, and you can remind me from time to time. Ok?
Posted by Gabbi~G~ on November 27, 2006, at 17:05:38
In reply to I'm sorry I made people upset, posted by Deneb on November 27, 2006, at 14:56:39
Deneb. I support you as well. Everyone has personality traits they can't seem to get a hold of, some people's are just less noticable than others, or don't involve other people, so they aren't judged.
I've seen a remarkable difference in you since you first started posting, as far as respecting how other's might feel about something you say. I don't mean to sound condescending, It's a fine line, being true to yourself, and also respecting others. This will fade.
Posted by Deneb on November 27, 2006, at 19:13:58
In reply to Re: I'm sorry I made people upset » Deneb, posted by Dinah on November 27, 2006, at 16:24:01
Thank-you for your post Dinah. You really made me feel better. ((((Dinah)))) I'll think about what you wrote whenever I start feeling bad about the situation again.
I just have to continue to try to be a better person. Hopefully in time people will forgive me.
Deneb*
Posted by Deneb on November 27, 2006, at 19:15:59
In reply to Re: I'm sorry I made people upset » Deneb, posted by Gabbi~G~ on November 27, 2006, at 17:05:38
Thanks Gabbi
Thank-you for understanding. I'm trying to be a better person, but sometimes I go back to my maladaptive ways. I just hope people can forgive me.
Deneb*
Posted by Phillipa on November 27, 2006, at 22:48:32
In reply to Re: I'm sorry I made people upset » Gabbi~G~, posted by Deneb on November 27, 2006, at 19:15:59
Deneb did you ever start theraphy? Might be a good place to get out these thoughts.Love Phillipa
Posted by James K on November 28, 2006, at 3:40:09
In reply to Re: I'm sorry I made people upset » Deneb, posted by Phillipa on November 27, 2006, at 22:48:32
Hi Deneb. I was just wandering through here late tonight. Your story of your camping and NYC trip stays with me. You were brave and you had fun. Have some more if you can.
Phillipa, I lost my address book screwing with the pc, but I will look in the archives and try to contact you. I come here in very small doses.
James k
Posted by Michael83 on November 28, 2006, at 6:10:20
In reply to I'm sorry I made people upset, posted by Deneb on November 27, 2006, at 14:56:39
Hi Deneb, I want to respond to your post, but I don't have anything to say. But just wanted you to know that although I don't know you, or even have communicated with you extensively on this forum, your posts are some of the first I read because there is something about you that makes me root for you. You just have a lively personality/spirit/etc from what I can tell in your posts.
I know others feel the same too. It would be hard for anyone to not forgive you. =D
Posted by Deneb on November 29, 2006, at 1:39:06
In reply to Re: I'm sorry I made people upset » Deneb, posted by Michael83 on November 28, 2006, at 6:10:20
Thanks Michael (((((((((Michael)))))))))) I hope you are right.
Deneb*
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