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Posted by Tanzanite on March 26, 2006, at 14:18:20
Well, in the midst of one of my emotional upheavals with my dear hubby. I was having a lot of bad thoughts. He decided to fall asleep on me, since he can never stay awake and never stays around no matter how bad I am emotionally. He just doesn't deal with me, nothing. Just gets mad. I walked out of the room and chopped my hair all off. It was past my shoulders. All gone and in the garbage. Over two and a half years of pain gone into the trash. I have been denied real love for this long that I feel worthless. I am worthless to him. The scars that I have right now are so deep from emotional abuse I don't know how to feel better ever again.
Who am I anymore? An old shoe.Chelle
Posted by Dinah on March 26, 2006, at 15:37:49
In reply to Trigger My long hair, posted by Tanzanite on March 26, 2006, at 14:18:20
I've done that. :(
You aren't worthless, and you have a lot to offer.
You're angry, and that's understandable.
I suppose marital counselling is out of the question, but have you tried reading books on the topic? It's true that what you can do is limited if only one of you is participating, but it might be worth trying anyway.
If I remember correctly, the two of you are under a lot of stress right now? That's bound to have its effect on your relationship, but maybe there are things you can do to hold on. Since it doesn't sound like leaving is a good option either.
I'm sorry you're in this situation. :(
Posted by Phillipa on March 26, 2006, at 20:16:38
In reply to Re: Trigger My long hair » Tanzanite, posted by Dinah on March 26, 2006, at 15:37:49
I relate and as far as the hair goes two years later and mine just wont grow back in. Couseling? Love Phillipa
Posted by special_k on March 27, 2006, at 0:38:49
In reply to Trigger My long hair, posted by Tanzanite on March 26, 2006, at 14:18:20
(((((Chelle)))))
I"m sorry sweetie. I don't know what to say. But I really feel for you right now. SOunds like you are going through a really hard time.
People here care about you you know. I'm so sorry things are hard... I wish I could make it better for you. I"m there holding your hand - ok?
(((((Chelle)))))
Posted by Tanzanite on March 27, 2006, at 9:04:39
In reply to Trigger My long hair, posted by Tanzanite on March 26, 2006, at 14:18:20
I do get counseling but not as much as I need and I always have to change my appointments because of my husband's work schedule. It really gets stressful. I won't get into details now. All I can say is I am doing my best, and right now I feel like I got run over by a semi. Emotionally and mentally I am drained. But I am here, Alive...and my hair will grow. I just hope this relationship gets better. Sometimes, only some of us are willing to get the help we need. Sometimes, we cannot make choices for others in our lives that need help and have anger issues but won't face the music. So, for now I am just gonna keep my mouth shut. HUGS to you all
Chelle
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