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Posted by lynn971 on March 20, 2006, at 19:46:19
My husband wants to move to Tennesse. (His brother lives there)
I told my mom that we would probably be moving and she hung up on me. She said, "I cant believe you would want to go meet his family and leave your mom." I tried calling her back and she doesnt want to talk.
My dad said that she is in bed, depressed. I know that I did not do anything wrong, but she is always doing this to me. I then worry about her. She once told me that if she would ever commit suicide it would be my fault.
My husband just stays on his macintosh all night. He gets on my nerves. I dont know if I want to move. I have wonderful friends here.
Maybe I need to get away from my mom. I will miss my mom and dad. She is 60 and he is 65.
Peace,
Lynn
Posted by JenStar on March 20, 2006, at 21:31:53
In reply to ahhhhhh!!!!!, posted by lynn971 on March 20, 2006, at 19:46:19
hi lynn,
what a terrible situation! (((lynn)))I'm sure your mom will miss you dreadfully, although that doesn't make it OK to manipulate you by threatening suicide or acting out. I'm sure she's only doing it b/c she so badly wants you to stay...she's pulling out all the stops (in her mind) that might work to get you to stay.
If you did leave, could you come visit her on a regular basis? Or have her fly out to visit you? (I don't know if the finances could support this!)
In an ideal world, if your mom was supportive, would you want to move?
good luck!
JenStar
Posted by Phillipa on March 20, 2006, at 22:23:41
In reply to Re: ahhhhhh!!!!! » lynn971, posted by JenStar on March 20, 2006, at 21:31:53
Lynn that is not very nice to do to you. Let your Mother know you will miss her but have to move. Love Phillipa
Posted by crazy teresa on March 21, 2006, at 7:33:02
In reply to ahhhhhh!!!!!, posted by lynn971 on March 20, 2006, at 19:46:19
Don;t buy into that emotional blackmail crap from her!
Besides, you'll be closer to me! ;~}
Posted by wildcard11 on March 21, 2006, at 15:44:39
In reply to ahhhhhh!!!!!, posted by lynn971 on March 20, 2006, at 19:46:19
but i do understand the 'guilt' thing w/ your mom. mine is the SAME way but i finally realized that i am grown (kinda) and she is an adult. her decisions are NOT my fault...there not yours either. gosh, you'd be the next state over and depending where in Tennessee, possibly a few hours away ;o)...ha~we could put your hubby and my hmmm together in a house and we cld. get a place..lol
Posted by ClearSkies on March 21, 2006, at 16:44:49
In reply to ahhhhhh!!!!!, posted by lynn971 on March 20, 2006, at 19:46:19
> I told my mom that we would probably be moving and she hung up on me. She said, "I cant believe you would want to go meet his family and leave your mom." I tried calling her back and she doesnt want to talk.
>OK, so that takes you off the hook right there.
> My dad said that she is in bed, depressed. I know that I did not do anything wrong, but she is always doing this to me. I then worry about her. She once told me that if she would ever commit suicide it would be my fault.
>Not ever true, and you can not be held accountable.
> My husband just stays on his macintosh all night. He gets on my nerves. I dont know if I want to move. I have wonderful friends here.
>You might have found friends where he has not been able to??? It takes a long time to take root when I move to a new location. Practicing patience in both directions goes a long way. Some of us take longer to find the niche in which we are comfortable.
> Maybe I need to get away from my mom. I will miss my mom and dad. She is 60 and he is 65.Both your parents face a lovely long lifetime together. I wish them both well,
>
> Peace,
> Lynn...and to you,
ClearSkies
Posted by lynn971 on March 21, 2006, at 19:36:34
In reply to Re: ahhhhhh!!!!! » lynn971, posted by ClearSkies on March 21, 2006, at 16:44:49
Thanks so much! That is so very comforting.
Love ya,
Lynn
Posted by lynn971 on March 21, 2006, at 19:37:29
In reply to Re: ahhhhhh!!!!! » lynn971, posted by crazy teresa on March 21, 2006, at 7:33:02
How far is Hendersonville from where you live?
Posted by lynn971 on March 21, 2006, at 19:39:25
In reply to you'd be closer to meeeeee!!! » lynn971, posted by wildcard11 on March 21, 2006, at 15:44:39
Oh, oh, this may not be good!!!! lol. We might get into trouble together.
We can make my husband and "hmmmm" watch the kids while we go....... somewhere.
COOL!!!!!
luv ya,
Lynn
Posted by lynn971 on March 21, 2006, at 19:44:27
In reply to Re: ahhhhhh!!!!! » lynn971, posted by JenStar on March 20, 2006, at 21:31:53
Thanks for your response, Jenstar. If my mom was supportive I think I would not have some of the issues that I have.
Is it wrong to blame some of the anxiety/depression on her?
I was kinda sad at the first thought of moving, but now I am kinda excited. I want what God wants for us. I have now just put it in His Hands. I have been praying about it.
My mom called to apologize. When I told her that I had anxiety all night, she said "That is Good because I had it too." I am telling you, I know that she loves me, but she has got issues.
Thanks again. I really appreciate the help.
peace and love,
Lynn
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