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Posted by tampagirl70 on May 11, 2005, at 12:09:51
When I'm depressed, I start doubting my love for my husband, I doubt lots of things and am scared by so many things. Is this normal? I want someone to hold me and tell me its going to be ok, but I also feel like I need to distance myself from him. I don't really know how to explain it, I just know that I look at him differently and feel differently.
Posted by sunny10 on May 11, 2005, at 13:27:03
In reply to Do you feel differently re: spouse when depressed, posted by tampagirl70 on May 11, 2005, at 12:09:51
yes, I feel the same ways.
In my experiece, distancing yourself only helps when it is with open communication with hubby, though.
If he understands that you need to distance yourself from him in order not to harm your marriage while you are depressed, you will be helping your marriage.
If he doesn't understand, the lack of communication could undermine the marriage.
And, of course, this is only my own humble opinion....
Posted by Tamar on May 11, 2005, at 16:27:59
In reply to Do you feel differently re: spouse when depressed, posted by tampagirl70 on May 11, 2005, at 12:09:51
> When I'm depressed, I start doubting my love for my husband, I doubt lots of things and am scared by so many things. Is this normal? I want someone to hold me and tell me its going to be ok, but I also feel like I need to distance myself from him. I don't really know how to explain it, I just know that I look at him differently and feel differently.
Yes, I feel the same way. I don't feel much love because I don't feel much of anything. I don't want him too close to me but I do want to be comforted. It's very confusing. I'm not sure what the solution is, but you're not alone.
Posted by Damos on May 11, 2005, at 16:42:09
In reply to Do you feel differently re: spouse when depressed, posted by tampagirl70 on May 11, 2005, at 12:09:51
Never been married but have often felt exactly as you , Sunny & Tamar describe, especially when on a real downer and it's tuff on relationships.
Posted by just so sad on May 12, 2005, at 13:17:30
In reply to Re: Do you feel differently re: spouse when depressed » tampagirl70, posted by Damos on May 11, 2005, at 16:42:09
About 10 years ago my husband and I actually separated, because I thought HE was making me depressed. Luckily he fought for our marriage and I took him back, mostly due to guilt for the pain I was causing him and the kids, and I ended up not feeling better after he left anyway, but it isn't until now, when I am healthier than I've been in years, that I realize why I did what I did. I mean, we definitely had problems (and these were dealt with and healed during the separation, and set us on a better track) but in hindsight, it was mostly a depression that was causing the black cloud. Personally, I would hate to be married to me (i.e. someone who suffers from depression). Wouldn't it be so much easier for them to marry a healthy person who was relatively the same day in and day out?? Sorry - rambling - but to repeat - you are definitely NOT alone.
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