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Posted by alesta on May 7, 2005, at 12:19:12
i tend to give myself positive strokes sometimes ('toot my own horn'), usually when my self-esteem is low. it doesn't do anything to make me feel better about myself, and usually backfires. so, i am happy to report that i will be eliminating this behavior from my repertoire :)....aim
Posted by Slinky on May 7, 2005, at 14:44:02
In reply to self-esteem, posted by alesta on May 7, 2005, at 12:19:12
Hehe..did I understand your post correctly
Posted by alesta on May 7, 2005, at 16:46:22
In reply to Re: self-esteem » alesta, posted by Slinky on May 7, 2005, at 14:44:02
> Hehe..did I understand your post correctly
OMG LOL..i'm dyin here slinky! you have me laughin SO hard!.:-)..i had no idea that could be viewed as suggestive!! i love it..
glad to see i'm not the only one with a dirty mind around here..
:-) amy
Posted by alesta on May 7, 2005, at 16:59:13
In reply to self-esteem, posted by alesta on May 7, 2005, at 12:19:12
p.s. i would *never* eliminate *that* behavior from my repetoire! :)
amy
Posted by Slinky on May 7, 2005, at 19:19:46
In reply to Re: self-esteem, posted by alesta on May 7, 2005, at 16:59:13
I wasn't certain if you meant self pleasuring but I couldn't read it any other way..sorry if it meant something else..but it made you giggle anyway.
Slinky
Posted by sunny10 on May 9, 2005, at 9:12:28
In reply to Re: self-esteem » alesta, posted by Slinky on May 7, 2005, at 19:19:46
is that what you young ones are calling it today???!!!???
But, seriously, Amy, why do you feel that your affirmations are backfiring???
-suuny10
Posted by alesta on May 9, 2005, at 13:57:29
In reply to Re: self-esteem, posted by sunny10 on May 9, 2005, at 9:12:28
hi sun:) guess my post was pretty general and obtuse..no one knows WHAT in the HECK i was sayin..lol..let's see. i was referring to when i would sort of complement or give myself credit for something aloud, around another person or people.
i don't do this often at all, but whenever i *do* do it, i always feel this negative vibe from others. like they think i think i'm great, when really i don't..that's why i was saying it in the first place..to try to boost my self-esteem or perhaps try to convince the other person that i have worth. i more often feel 'unworthy' when depressed. and i usually get depressed when under extreme, unrelenting stress, which is most of the time...:)
so i've decided to just quit doing that. i guess i'm being a bit hard on myself cause i'm usually pretty modest.
<is that what you young ones are calling it today???!!!???
sunny i'm not that much younger than you dear!!!:-) but thanks sweety..i appreciate any comments implying that i still have a vestige of youthfulness.:) i shall cherish them...for eternity.:)
amy;)
Posted by sunny10 on May 9, 2005, at 14:12:39
In reply to Re: self-esteem » sunny10, posted by alesta on May 9, 2005, at 13:57:29
so go on saying them silently to yourself then!!!
It means more to your "self" than it does to them, anyway...
And don't think that the same people who look at you funny aren't saying the same things silently to themselves...
Lots of people think I'm weird until they realize that I talk to other drivers while I'm driving...I'll be talking away, mid-conversation with someone else in my car, then I'm suddenly talking to the driver of the car ahead of me that's just done something really stupid... it's the talking to yourself thing they look askance upon!! Once I explained that I take home less stress if I pretend the other drivers can hear me AT THE TIME, my friends stopped thinking I was weird...
Okay, so really my friends KNOW I'm weird, but they like me this way...
Gee, what IS age, anyway??!! I guess i just feel old today... feel about a hundred today- with the weight of the world on my shoulders..Okay, realistically, the weight of MY own little world on my shoulders...
Posted by alesta on May 9, 2005, at 14:31:48
In reply to Re: self-esteem, posted by sunny10 on May 9, 2005, at 14:12:39
> Gee, what IS age, anyway??!! I guess i just feel old today... feel about a hundred today- with the weight of the world on my shoulders..Okay, realistically, the weight of MY own little world on my shoulders...
i know, sunny, i find that out of all the potential differences that can cause difficulty in relating to others, age is usually not even one of those factors for me. how long a person has been on this planet tells me virtually nothing about them.
mentally i feel really old, too, sunny. i feel like i've been on this planet a loooooong time. i'm feeling particularly 'old' and out of sorts today as well...b/c i'm depressed i'm finding it so hard to get the energy up to do anything..it's so hard..but we'll be ahite.:-)
XOXOXO
amy
Posted by sunny10 on May 9, 2005, at 14:55:37
In reply to Re: self-esteem » sunny10, posted by alesta on May 9, 2005, at 14:31:48
yeah, some days are crap....
I had to go to the rental agent's office to finally sign the key return and get a copy of the release of contract letter today.
And, as if I wasn't having a crappy enough time lately, I run over something on the road that punctured my tire. I have to buy a new tire now...
Gack- can't ANYTHING GO RIGHT????? (sigh)
Posted by alesta on May 9, 2005, at 15:24:23
In reply to Re: self-esteem, posted by sunny10 on May 9, 2005, at 14:55:37
> I had to go to the rental agent's office to finally sign the key return and get a copy of the release of contract letter today.
oooh, that sounds like fun!
> And, as if I wasn't having a crappy enough time lately, I run over something on the road that punctured my tire. I have to buy a new tire now...
i am *so* experienced with having f^&&^ed up tires, it's not even funny. i know how bad that sucks sunny...at least you don't have to replace all of em...right? <encouraging smile>
> Gack- can't ANYTHING GO RIGHT????? (sigh)
the universe is out of kilter my dear...we must simply ride it out and hope for a cosmic revolution of sorts to manifest itself...god, i am in a weird mood today!! hope your day gets better girl!:)
amy;)
Posted by damos on May 9, 2005, at 21:49:37
In reply to Re: self-esteem, posted by sunny10 on May 9, 2005, at 9:12:28
Wouldn't know it even if I tripped over it.
Posted by sunny10 on May 10, 2005, at 8:38:42
In reply to Re: self-esteem, what's that?, posted by damos on May 9, 2005, at 21:49:37
Posted by Damos on May 10, 2005, at 17:04:19
In reply to Re: splat (nm) » damos, posted by sunny10 on May 10, 2005, at 8:38:42
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