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Posted by verne on March 12, 2005, at 3:15:13
Nascar racing, massage therapy, and any movie without Sandra Bullock.
The gardener wants to take me out on a "date". I'm so screwed up. My whole sex life is on the internet and I can't deal with anything real.
The gardener is also a certified massage therapist (many hints), yet I'm terrified - or, at least, stupid. She wants my bod yet I'm holding out for some cyberdream.
I kid you not. Me, complete idiot. My family heritage goes way back to the crucial moment when pre-hominds were first considering whether to come down out of the trees and evolve.
My family ancestral kin argued against it. But evolution swept away everybody - it was a high time, no one could resist. We used to listen to Henri Bergson's lectures before we evolved.
Back to the gardener. I'm so jaded, princess and the pea, goldilocks and the porridge, sensitive, I'm petrified.
I'm holding out for true love.
Verne
Posted by AdaGrace on March 12, 2005, at 7:11:27
In reply to Wet, posted by verne on March 12, 2005, at 3:15:13
Verne,
It will be okay. You have to try.........
AdaGrace
Posted by Toph on March 12, 2005, at 7:45:22
In reply to Wet, posted by verne on March 12, 2005, at 3:15:13
>
> I'm holding out for true love.
>I'd take the messages in the mean time.
Toph (fully expecting porcine comparisons to follow)
Posted by Jai Narayan on March 12, 2005, at 16:40:18
In reply to Re: Wet, posted by Toph on March 12, 2005, at 7:45:22
Vern, take babby steps....
maybe not a massage yet...
how about tea or coffee date first.
take is slow...
this person could end up being a good friend...
and these's nothing wrong with that.
It sounds like you are out of your comfort zone.
who on the internet are you interested in?
you don't have to answer that.
My sister met her husband through newpaper personals.
I met my mate at a spiritual community.
you never know...
you know fear is just excitement turned on it's ear.
my advice:
go slow....
little steps...
but most of all have fun...
enjoy yourself...
thinking of you
Ja*
Posted by KaraS on March 12, 2005, at 16:43:23
In reply to Wet, posted by verne on March 12, 2005, at 3:15:13
> Nascar racing, massage therapy, and any movie without Sandra Bullock.
>
> The gardener wants to take me out on a "date". I'm so screwed up. My whole sex life is on the internet and I can't deal with anything real.
>
> The gardener is also a certified massage therapist (many hints), yet I'm terrified - or, at least, stupid. She wants my bod yet I'm holding out for some cyberdream.
>
> I kid you not. Me, complete idiot. My family heritage goes way back to the crucial moment when pre-hominds were first considering whether to come down out of the trees and evolve.
>
> My family ancestral kin argued against it. But evolution swept away everybody - it was a high time, no one could resist. We used to listen to Henri Bergson's lectures before we evolved.
>
> Back to the gardener. I'm so jaded, princess and the pea, goldilocks and the porridge, sensitive, I'm petrified.
>
> I'm holding out for true love.
>
> Verne
Hi Verne,I was just thinking about you last night and what a loss it was that you haven't been posting. It was nice to see your name on the board again today.
Are you positive that "true love" can't result from a relationship with your gardener? Is it possible that you're telling yourself that you could never find love with her because you're afraid to get involved? If you're positive that it would only be a fling, and if that's all that she wants, then what's the harm?
Kara
Posted by alexandra_k on March 12, 2005, at 16:50:51
In reply to Wet, posted by verne on March 12, 2005, at 3:15:13
Yay, it's verne!!!
Welcome back :-)I dunno...
How well do you know your gardner?
It could turn into something good.
Posted by verne on March 12, 2005, at 22:04:54
In reply to Wet, posted by verne on March 12, 2005, at 3:15:13
Thanks all for the kind responses. I'm really hurting in more ways than one. This morning, hungover, I turned on the computer, it whirred, clicked, spoke something in chipmunkise, and died.
My best friend happens to be a forensic computer pathologist and he came over. After several hours and beers, we couldn't revive it. I'm now using an old 1996 antique with a 32k modem - and yes, psychobabble is slow.
I'm finally ready to go with DSL and a new computer but I'm so stressed out emotionally I can't deal with the change. I was on such a high horse yesterday and everything was falling into place - including the mixed metaphors that came home to roost.
I had rounded up all the empties (beer bottles) in the garage for recycling. This took several hours and I felt like I was at a dig. When I was through I had 696 bottles bagged and ready. But sometimes I had to pour out the undrunk, undead, unopened, unnatural beer that survived the binges. Whilst occupied with this grusome task, I succumbed to the urge to take a swim in 18 fresh beers, got blasted,later lost a bunch of meaningless tokens at texas-holdem, made some regrettable posts, and awoke in shame to a dead computer.
My bible-thumping friend would have said I'm being punished by God. Actually, I don't think I'm that significant.
I hesitated even looking at this thread, not sure what I had written. In fact, I've been somewhat suicidal - but not actively planning anything. I'm just in too much emotional pain to be hungover and have computer trouble. I can afford a new computer but I can't deal with the hassle. I would rather just "check out" than even hook it up.
I'm glad I did review my post and your responses. I usually have little regard for cyber relating. My idea of a date is looking at a photo and dreaming.
Jai, I don't have a cyber relationship with anyone, I was just being my usual cryptic self. Thanks Kara, for the especially kind words.
Thanks all. Earlier this evening I hoped somehow I wouldn't see tomorrow. Sometimes my perspective is so clouded by borderline personality disorder, atypical depression, PTSD, and alcohol.
I'm really hoping for a dry spell. Not sure about the gardener. Being borderline, I can add sex addict to my many excesses, yet a fling holds no promise for me. Nothing spiritual or midlife about it, just don't grab me. I mean, I'm actually trying to talk myself into an affair with the gardener/massage therapist without success! She isn't unattractive, and best of all, doesn't wear make-up. I like all real, all natural, people.
Borderline personality disorder seems to "mellow" with age in some ways - I make less angry phone calls for example - yet the emptiness and complete lack of self seems to get worse.
And what's really wild is that I would rather watch an exercise video (like the 20 minute workout) than go out on a date with a massage therapist. I'm sure a poor excuse for a sex addict.
Verne
Posted by alexandra_k on March 13, 2005, at 2:44:04
In reply to Thanks All, posted by verne on March 12, 2005, at 22:04:54
Posted by Jai Narayan on March 13, 2005, at 9:02:08
In reply to Thanks All, posted by verne on March 12, 2005, at 22:04:54
what would be the traits and physical desires you have?
1. no make up
2. cyber mate only
3. ?
4. ?
5. ?
6. ?
Posted by AdaGrace on March 14, 2005, at 8:40:09
In reply to ideal cyber partner, posted by Jai Narayan on March 13, 2005, at 9:02:08
3. Outward apperances take a back seat to inner beauty.
4. Privacy
5. No outside distractions during a conversation.
6. No worry about how you are going to get up out of bed and go to the bathroom while ripping the sheets off the bed in order to cover your whaling figure.
Posted by just plain jane on March 14, 2005, at 12:18:55
In reply to Re: ideal cyber partner » Jai Narayan, posted by AdaGrace on March 14, 2005, at 8:40:09
hey AdaGrace, not to be hurting your feeling or nothing...
i think susan was esking for traits, qualities, attributes in an ideal cyber partner... like, what would you like yours to be, have, do, say... et cetera
mine can be:
male,never pesters, badgers, harangues, picks, annoys, aggravates or any other synonymous shytty behavior
buff,
work and sweat with me, need no sex
know not to talk about when or if i will ever feel like it is not a phuking attack on me
is online when i want him and leaves me alone when i want to be left alone
doesn't threaten to contact my family (who really couldn't care less, but i don't like that kind of behavioral trait)
needs not to tell me how much better he is, or how i need to have a man come do the things i do constructively,
never tells me he is picking his nose.
his voice is deep, a little gravelly
actively participates in converation, complete with paying attention, thinking, engaging in reciprocal thought sharing.
strong, yet vulnerable
faithful,
honest,
true,
optimistic.could go on, but i really have work to do.
and he doesn't mind...
just plain idealizin jane
Posted by AdaGrace on March 14, 2005, at 13:37:28
In reply to ideal cyber partner, posted by just plain jane on March 14, 2005, at 12:18:55
Listen Sister,
You can't dissapear for weeks on end and expect to come in here and harrass me.
Just kidding Janey, I know what you meant.
Nice to see you around........
Tell us about the pups.
Mine bit me for the first time last night....the b**ch got offended when I tried to get her out of the trash........
She's on my shyte list right now.
AdaGrace
Posted by Jai Narayan on March 14, 2005, at 19:20:56
In reply to Re: ideal cyber partner » just plain jane, posted by AdaGrace on March 14, 2005, at 13:37:28
someone funny, bright and responsive.
doesn't matter what they look like.
well read and interesting with tip bits about nature, politics and philosophy.
someone with tons of chrisma...
sexy but not demanding
flexible and honest
fair and non possesive
kind and endearing
bold and exciting
caring and gentle
intelligent...
okay that's enough for right now.
Ja*
Posted by alesta on March 15, 2005, at 17:18:59
In reply to Wet, posted by verne on March 12, 2005, at 3:15:13
> Nascar racing, massage therapy, and any movie without Sandra Bullock.
>
> The gardener wants to take me out on a "date". I'm so screwed up. My whole sex life is on the internet and I can't deal with anything real.
>
> The gardener is also a certified massage therapist (many hints), yet I'm terrified - or, at least, stupid. She wants my bod yet I'm holding out for some cyberdream.
>
> I kid you not. Me, complete idiot. My family heritage goes way back to the crucial moment when pre-hominds were first considering whether to come down out of the trees and evolve.
>
> My family ancestral kin argued against it. But evolution swept away everybody - it was a high time, no one could resist. We used to listen to Henri Bergson's lectures before we evolved.
>
> Back to the gardener. I'm so jaded, princess and the pea, goldilocks and the porridge, sensitive, I'm petrified.
>
> I'm holding out for true love.
>
> Verne
hi verne,
it's nice to see you.:) maybe you just don't have the right chemistry with the gardener..but i am surprised you don't like sandra..you're an INFJ..you're supposed to be attracted to ENFPs, right? or maybe the personality theorists are wrong..i know sometimes i'm attracted to people who are similar rather than opposite, so this 'opposites attract' theory has always confused me..ugh..so sorry to ramble. may we all find the person of our dreams!take care!:)
amy
Posted by alexandra_k on March 17, 2005, at 0:14:53
In reply to Re: Wet » verne, posted by alesta on March 15, 2005, at 17:18:59
> maybe you just don't have the right chemistry with the gardener..
Hmm. That reminds me of an experiment that I heard about in psychology... Might have the details wrong (as usual) but someone may be able to correct me.
People were given t-shirts (or something) that had been worn by members of the opposite sex (and had thus acquired their odour). They were asked which one they preferred. Turns out that they liked the smell of the people who turned out to be the most different from them genetically.
An evolutionary reason for 'chemistry' perhaps... Genetic diversity and all.
Posted by alesta on March 24, 2005, at 18:38:02
In reply to Re: Wet » alesta, posted by alexandra_k on March 17, 2005, at 0:14:53
> People were given t-shirts (or something) that had been worn by members of the opposite sex (and had thus acquired their odour). They were asked which one they preferred. Turns out that they liked the smell of the people who turned out to be the most different from them genetically.
>
> An evolutionary reason for 'chemistry' perhaps... Genetic diversity and all.
hi there, alex, :)
i think i've heard about that experiment, too..and that they were repelled by the scents of close family members or something? i can't remember..maybe i just invented that last part..anyway, that is interesting! (and, i agree, would serve an evolutionary purpose.) thanks for reminding me of that. pretty cool stuff.:)amy :-)
Posted by alexandra_k on March 26, 2005, at 15:49:04
In reply to Re: Wet » alexandra_k, posted by alesta on March 24, 2005, at 18:38:02
Hey, I just saw your response :-)
Yeah, I think they didn't much like the scent of people who were too similar to them (genetically) - and that would tend to be close family members.
:-)
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