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Posted by JH on February 22, 2005, at 19:05:10
I'm mostly just a reader on this board. Maybe posted once or twice. But today I feel like my world has fallen apart. We had a big layoff of people at work and no one is left on my team and I have to go to a new project.
I've just recently switched off of Remeron to Zoloft and so I'm guessing that change is magnifying some of my feelings. I just want to cry. I thought I was getting better and now it feels like I've taken a huge step backwards.
Maybe tomorrow morning things will seem better but right now it feels hopeless. It's like I lost all of my fiends in one big swish.
I probably need to go back to the therapist but right now I don't know what will happen if I asked for time off to do that.
Why can't life just be easy and fun?
Sorry, I just had to vent.
Jean
Posted by Susan47 on February 22, 2005, at 19:39:01
In reply to I'm feeling so blue today., posted by JH on February 22, 2005, at 19:05:10
Of course you're feeling blue, you're sad because a very bad thing happened today. You did lose friends, you lost the friends you work with, unless you can find another way to keep those friendships going. The people who lost their jobs are probably feeling badly too. Can you call any of them and talk?
Posted by JH on February 22, 2005, at 19:47:37
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today., posted by Susan47 on February 22, 2005, at 19:39:01
Thank you for the reply. Calling them will help. I think I need to wait until at least tomorrow to call them. It was such a sad day at work as one by one they were let go. They would get "the call" and then 30 minutes later would come back to their desks to collect their personal items.
Posted by Damos on February 22, 2005, at 19:49:20
In reply to I'm feeling so blue today., posted by JH on February 22, 2005, at 19:05:10
I hear you Jean.
Just recently come off Effexor-XR and am still feeling a little emotionally ragged. Actually went on to the 'E' after a nasty reaction to Zoloft so wish you good luck.
Funnily enough I had to give up project work because re-engineering good people out of jobs in the company interest (read bottom-line) just didn't work for me. Luckily I have bosses that understood that and that also understand the challenges my depression poses generally. Guess I'm also lucky that I've somehow survived a number of downsizings in the time I've been here. But just like you I went into emotional freefall for a while after all of them.
If there's one thing I'm slowly learning it's not to load up every event with extra meanings and importance based on other things that have happened (been doing it most of my 40 years). It's easier said than done and I still suck at it a large percentage of the time, but at least I'm trying.
Hang in there okay, I'll be thinking of you.
Damos
Posted by Jai Narayan on February 22, 2005, at 20:26:29
In reply to I'm feeling so blue today., posted by JH on February 22, 2005, at 19:05:10
So, all these people are gone.
I can't but wonder if maybe you might feel vulnerable as well
My sister went through so many of these layoffs and she had a very hard time with all the tension.
One never knows when it's their turn....
So putting all the medications aside...
there's enough tension just about the layoffs.
As I get older, I have more vulnerability around my job.
I feel like a sitting duck...
waiting for the fatal flaw...
just a down turn of the market will do it.
With Mr. Bush working on social insecurity...
it's a free fall
Well with all this said,
I can relate to your story...
none of us do not suffer...
you are going through a lot.
Ja*
Posted by jay on February 22, 2005, at 20:53:25
In reply to I'm feeling so blue today., posted by JH on February 22, 2005, at 19:05:10
> I'm mostly just a reader on this board. Maybe posted once or twice. But today I feel like my world has fallen apart. We had a big layoff of people at work and no one is left on my team and I have to go to a new project.
>
> I've just recently switched off of Remeron to Zoloft and so I'm guessing that change is magnifying some of my feelings. I just want to cry. I thought I was getting better and now it feels like I've taken a huge step backwards.
>
> Maybe tomorrow morning things will seem better but right now it feels hopeless. It's like I lost all of my fiends in one big swish.
>
> I probably need to go back to the therapist but right now I don't know what will happen if I asked for time off to do that.
>
> Why can't life just be easy and fun?
>
> Sorry, I just had to vent.
>
> JeanJean,
The differences between Remeron and Zoloft are quite a bit, so it's hard to compare them on the same scale. Was the Remeron not doing it's job...or you just didn't like it? I understand and feel for you greatly. Out of the two, which one did you feel better on? Just don't give up...there are alot of meds and combo's out there to try. Here is wishing the best for you really quick...
Sincerely,
Jay
Posted by anastasia56 on February 22, 2005, at 21:28:36
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today., posted by JH on February 22, 2005, at 19:47:37
oh god, i'm so sorry you had to go thru that. i've been at a company where that happened and one by one the people that got the word came back crying. very, very traumatic.
you are in an awkward position because you still work there. if you speak with the laid off individuals you of course sympathize with them...but you also don't want to jeopardize your job either. very thin line to walk.
it would be nice if you could find out if you have a secure future for yourself with this company. unfortunately in situations like this not many people are honest that you would ask. are you starting your own job search?
sending you positive vibes. just keep taking deep breaths.
ana
Posted by JH on February 23, 2005, at 19:37:51
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today. » JH, posted by Damos on February 22, 2005, at 19:49:20
Hi Damos,
Thank-you for your words of encouragement. Today was a bit better but little by little I kept hearing more names of the people who were let go. Our company is in a small town and so many spouses both work at the company. It seems liked quite of few of the couples had at least one person fired. I just heard that one of my good friend's husband was let go. yikes!I also called the doctor, and he told me use Lorazepam to get through the tough days and nights. He said that it was too soon for the zoloft to have kicked in. And he also suggested that I go back to the therapist again. So hopefully this will only be a small step backwards.
I'm hanging in there.
Jean
Posted by JH on February 23, 2005, at 19:52:57
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today. » JH, posted by jay on February 22, 2005, at 20:53:25
Hi Jay,
Oh wow, why the med change? I would guess it was time. I was on 30mg Remeron and 225 mg Effexor XR. It was just what I needed at first. But after three years, I was starting to feel like a zombie. So he cut the Remeron to every other night. That didn't work. And cutting it to 15mg would have made me more drowsy. And the kicker is that I was just diagnosed as diabetic. So the weight gain from Remeron wasn't helping that at all and I had gained a whole lot of weight. So that's why he replaced Remeron with Zoloft. But it's only been a couple of weeks and not long enough for Zoloft. And then the world fell apart this week and the rest is history. Hopefully I'll get some sleep tonight and things will feel better in the morning.Jean
Posted by KaraS on February 23, 2005, at 21:54:17
In reply to I'm feeling so blue today., posted by JH on February 22, 2005, at 19:05:10
> I'm mostly just a reader on this board. Maybe posted once or twice. But today I feel like my world has fallen apart. We had a big layoff of people at work and no one is left on my team and I have to go to a new project.
>
> I've just recently switched off of Remeron to Zoloft and so I'm guessing that change is magnifying some of my feelings. I just want to cry. I thought I was getting better and now it feels like I've taken a huge step backwards.
>
> Maybe tomorrow morning things will seem better but right now it feels hopeless. It's like I lost all of my fiends in one big swish.
>
> I probably need to go back to the therapist but right now I don't know what will happen if I asked for time off to do that.
>
> Why can't life just be easy and fun?
>
> Sorry, I just had to vent.
>
> JeanHi Jean,
Sorry to hear about your horrible day at work. I experienced something similar a few years back and it was very painful. I kept in touch with some of the people so that helped but it was just so sad. It's maddening that these corporations have so much control over our lives and all we can do is react to their decisions. You'll get through this though and hopefully you'll like your new situation as much as the older one.Kara
Posted by JH on February 24, 2005, at 6:56:57
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today. » JH, posted by KaraS on February 23, 2005, at 21:54:17
Thank you for the words of encouragement.
Posted by Damos on February 24, 2005, at 16:28:27
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today. » Damos, posted by JH on February 23, 2005, at 19:37:51
Hi Jean,
Glad to hear you're hanging in there. It's okay to feel sad and you're right to want to be supportive of your friends, and they'll need it.
Just don't sign up for Survivor - The Guilt Trip. Won't do you or your friends any good.
1 breath, 1 minute, 1 hour, 1 day at a time.
Thinking of you.
Posted by antigua on March 4, 2005, at 11:37:09
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today. » JH, posted by Damos on February 22, 2005, at 19:49:20
I'm behind on reading, so just got to this and almost spilled my coffee. Took me many, many years to understand my reactions today were based on earlier reactions I had as a child. Now I always know if I have an extra-strong reaction to something that happens, I look behind it to figure out what's really going on.
How'd you get so smart? Or why did it take me so long to figure this out?
best,
antigua
Posted by Damos on March 6, 2005, at 15:23:58
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today. » Damos, posted by antigua on March 4, 2005, at 11:37:09
> I'm behind on reading, so just got to this and almost spilled my coffee. Took me many, many years to understand my reactions today were based on earlier reactions I had as a child. Now I always know if I have an extra-strong reaction to something that happens, I look behind it to figure out what's really going on.
>
> How'd you get so smart? Or why did it take me so long to figure this out?
> best,
> antiguaLOL!!!!!! Now let's see, how did I get so smart? Oh yeah I made the same dumb mistakes over and over again for the best part of 40 years, then woke up one morning and decided I just couldn't do this anymore and started looking for some answers. Didn't feel real smart when I started to look back and see the same patterns repeating over. My new mantra is "Just this, here now". The amazing thing is how everything else around me has begun to change too. Still struggle each and every day but doing okay. Let's just be happy we've finally learned this lesson and hope the next one's not so hard.
Take care,
Damos
Posted by antigua on March 7, 2005, at 16:17:43
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today. » antigua, posted by Damos on March 6, 2005, at 15:23:58
Naah, don't believe a word of it. Sounds like too much work. I'd rather believe you were filled in an instance with incredible insight, solving all your problems in a moment and now you are rich, happy and fulfilled.
I believe in the tooth fairy, too.
best,
antigua
Posted by Damos on March 7, 2005, at 18:14:15
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today. » Damos, posted by antigua on March 7, 2005, at 16:17:43
> Naah, don't believe a word of it. Sounds like too much work. I'd rather believe you were filled in an instance with incredible insight, solving all your problems in a moment and now you are rich, happy and fulfilled.
Yeh that sounds much better, I think I'll start believing that too ;-)
> I believe in the tooth fairy, too.And there's nothing wrong with that antigua, Santa Claus said so :-)
>
Wishes for happiness
Damos
Posted by antigua on March 7, 2005, at 20:30:03
In reply to Re: I'm feeling so blue today. » antigua, posted by Damos on March 7, 2005, at 18:14:15
Well, I really do have faith in Santa Claus. With three kids I can't believe otherwise.
best,
antigua
Posted by JH on March 20, 2005, at 10:03:44
In reply to I'm feeling so blue today., posted by JH on February 22, 2005, at 19:05:10
Well, it's been about a month. Things are a lot better. The people who were layed off are getting a lot of support from the company and the community. Several other companies have called to interiew the people. And the new project isn't so bad afterall. I've been back to the therapist twice and just talking about things has helped a lot. And everyone's support here has been just so wonderful. Thank-you to everyone!
Jean
> I'm mostly just a reader on this board. Maybe posted once or twice. But today I feel like my world has fallen apart. We had a big layoff of people at work and no one is left on my team and I have to go to a new project.
>
> I've just recently switched off of Remeron to Zoloft and so I'm guessing that change is magnifying some of my feelings. I just want to cry. I thought I was getting better and now it feels like I've taken a huge step backwards.
>
> Maybe tomorrow morning things will seem better but right now it feels hopeless. It's like I lost all of my fiends in one big swish.
>
> I probably need to go back to the therapist but right now I don't know what will happen if I asked for time off to do that.
>
> Why can't life just be easy and fun?
>
> Sorry, I just had to vent.
>
> Jean
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