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Posted by AdaGrace on February 17, 2005, at 22:10:38
Seriously
I don't know who I am, or who I am supposed to be.
I am not liked for who I am, and i don't like who I am supposed to be......so who do I be?
Posted by Toph on February 18, 2005, at 2:59:34
In reply to I've forgotten who I am, posted by AdaGrace on February 17, 2005, at 22:10:38
> Seriously
>
> I don't know who I am, or who I am supposed to be.
>
> I am not liked for who I am, and i don't like who I am supposed to be......so who do I be?
>I and many others like who you are. But I hope that you like who you are going to be.
Toph
Posted by partlycloudy on February 18, 2005, at 8:11:04
In reply to Re: I've forgotten who I am, posted by Toph on February 18, 2005, at 2:59:34
Hear, hear. You have to be making yourself happy, AdaGrace. Trying to please others in order to keep the peace doesn't even work temporarily. It just makes you miserable.
AdaGrace is fine by me, but you need to be fine in yourself.
Posted by AuntieMel on February 18, 2005, at 9:20:31
In reply to I've forgotten who I am, posted by AdaGrace on February 17, 2005, at 22:10:38
You should be who you are - with any improvements that *you* think you should work on.
And nobody should tell you otherwise.
Posted by sunny10 on February 18, 2005, at 10:50:55
In reply to Re: I've forgotten who I am » AdaGrace, posted by AuntieMel on February 18, 2005, at 9:20:31
I kinda had to invent "me"... I realized that I was depressed because it seemed like life was only ever work.
It is very hard work to be what other people expect... especially when you take each individual's idea of you into account...that's a whole lot of roles to play. And no Emmy's either...
I chose the things I admire most about other people (thank goodness none of them was "money"... don't know how I would've worked THAT out!!)
Stuff that is very important to me. Honesty, integrity, stuff like that...And I just decided to act in those ways.
Granted, I haven't honed anything yet- most of the time I am now considered "brutally honest" ( I am really working hard on this one... but as you can see, I haven't exactly perfected it for human consumption yet...)
I still have times of extreme anxiety- especially like right now... I will see my sister tonight for the first time in ten years and am struggling not to fall into who I was back then...
But I'm woking on it....
Don't know if this helps, but I hope so...
Posted by Angielala on February 18, 2005, at 11:18:53
In reply to I've forgotten who I am, posted by AdaGrace on February 17, 2005, at 22:10:38
What would you have to do in order to say good bye to him?
> Seriously
>
> I don't know who I am, or who I am supposed to be.
>
> I am not liked for who I am, and i don't like who I am supposed to be......so who do I be?
>
Posted by Susan47 on February 18, 2005, at 11:32:35
In reply to Re: I've forgotten who I am, posted by sunny10 on February 18, 2005, at 10:50:55
Good luck with tonight, it's only a few hours away now.... I wish I had some wisdom to give. Oh, maybe I have something. Here, be an observer of everyone including yourself. Just observe. Would that be helpful?
Posted by sunny10 on February 18, 2005, at 12:03:53
In reply to Re: I've forgotten who I am » sunny10, posted by Susan47 on February 18, 2005, at 11:32:35
Posted by AdaGrace on February 19, 2005, at 7:02:16
In reply to Re: I've forgotten who I am, posted by Toph on February 18, 2005, at 2:59:34
Because you see dear Toph. The me I am is the real me, but not the wanted me. And by trying to be me, I am apparently ruining my marriage and relationship with my husband. Go figure. Once again it's "my fault".
Posted by AdaGrace on February 19, 2005, at 7:04:26
In reply to Re: I've forgotten who I am, posted by partlycloudy on February 18, 2005, at 8:11:04
Because it's just to hard to have to listen to all the belly aching about the things the real me does. Self destructive, yes. I know that. I don't need to be constantly told that. I just feel so very controlled. Backed into the corner, and my claws are starting to come out. I'm afraid I will really blow it this time. I am the kid left in the kitchen with the candy jar, and told not to get in it. I am tempted to do it just because I have been told not to.
Posted by saw on February 28, 2005, at 12:46:08
In reply to Re: Too much struggle » partlycloudy, posted by AdaGrace on February 19, 2005, at 7:04:26
Ada, you know, I am "hearing" a growth in you. You are writing differently. Almost not so desparate anymore. Am I right?
In any event, I like what I am reading.
Sabrina
Posted by AdaGrace on March 1, 2005, at 16:07:09
In reply to Re: Too much struggle, posted by saw on February 28, 2005, at 12:46:08
Wow a new post to a dead thread.......lol
Yes, I think I am growing, but these past two months have been almost as hard as the previous 4. Just a different kind of hard.
Thanks for the encouragement.
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