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Posted by Slavegirl on December 25, 2004, at 18:50:27
Do you think it's better to be with family or away from them over Christmas? We live in another country for 5 years or so, and although the run up to the crappy day is sentimental and quite emotional (the kids are still young)...I feel quilty sometimes for being happy to be away from the whole lot, specially when I phoned the far away country, and 'felt' the bickering, the tensions, and all that crap. Glad I'm not there to decide whether to spend it with my mum or my dad who abandoned us and now decides he wants to be grandfather of the year and angry with my brother for going there instead of my mom and lying to her (and we don't even live there)....then listening on the phone to my dad telling me how wealthy and well my brother is doing in life (well - great...but money isn't everything) and then listening to my brother later going on about his money and business (sigh!). Not jealous...but really! When kids have golf lessons at school at the age of 8...what can you say? Scary stuff? Glad we don't live there..the materialism is frightening and Christmas just makes it worse. Should I feel guilty about spending it with my little family, over here, no fighting, no bickering, just peace and calm and mess and all the rest? Any thoughts, experiences???? And...I survived the day, depression not too bad, anxiety not THAT BAD..had a few tranqs...but that is all that can be expected. Glad it's all over now. Wish New Year's eve and all that crap would go away!!!
HUGS TO YOU ALL!
sg
Posted by Toph on December 26, 2004, at 19:50:30
In reply to Family and Christmas time, posted by Slavegirl on December 25, 2004, at 18:50:27
sg, I sounds to me like you've got it figured out. It's all about your kids now. I hope they had fun. As for the family, well, your brother needs to find out that true wealth is a state of mind. And your parents can't seem to realize that the greatest gift they could give their children is to bury the hatchet and cooperate for once for the benefit of all. It sounds like staying home was the best thing for you. Besides, it's OK to turn the tables and give your parents a little well deserved coal for Christmas every now and then.
-Toph
Posted by slavegirl on December 28, 2004, at 13:11:48
In reply to Re: Family and Christmas time » Slavegirl, posted by Toph on December 26, 2004, at 19:50:30
You're right...just that I'm a sentimental emotional fool who feels I can change the world and make people love one another and all that cr*p! Oh sure..wouldn't it be great. Hope you had a good one!!
SG
Posted by Toph on December 31, 2004, at 9:41:04
In reply to Re: Family and Christmas time, posted by slavegirl on December 28, 2004, at 13:11:48
I did, SG, thanks. I went pretty well, considering my role in my family is the instigator.
-Toph
Posted by Angel Girl on December 31, 2004, at 22:47:32
In reply to Family and Christmas time, posted by Slavegirl on December 25, 2004, at 18:50:27
sg
I think you have to do what's right for you and your own family with your kids and it looks like you did just that. Don't worry about the others. I'm glad you enjoyed your Christmas. Don't feel guilty about it.
AG
Posted by fairygirlop on January 4, 2005, at 22:38:48
In reply to Re: Family and Christmas time » Slavegirl, posted by Angel Girl on December 31, 2004, at 22:47:32
I choose to do the same thing as you did for Christmas for much the same reasons. Unfortunetly for me, I felt extreamly guilty and it led to be being depressed the whole week. I congratulate you on doing what was best for you and for accepting your descion, probably much better than I did.
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