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Posted by Susan47 on December 24, 2004, at 23:56:48
As many men are...
my ex-T was killing me.
Posted by Dinah on December 25, 2004, at 8:00:17
In reply to He's a Very Pragmatic Man, posted by Susan47 on December 24, 2004, at 23:56:48
Your pain resulting from you relationship with your ex-therapist doesn't seem to be getting better, Susan. I hate to see you in such pain, and I think that it *is* possible for things to be better for you. I would wish for things to be better for you.
Is it possible for you to see a therapist to process your pain? Maybe a female therapist or an ugly old fat therapist if being attracted to authority figures or nurturers is something of a pattern for you.
My neurologist said the other day that she sees far too many people with untreated pain. She was happy to hear that I went to therapy twice a week, although I was hesitant to admit it. I hate to see *you* in pain. A *good* treatment team, pdoc and therapist, is a start to helping you with that pain.
Posted by Susan47 on December 25, 2004, at 20:49:47
In reply to Re: He's a Very Pragmatic Man » Susan47, posted by Dinah on December 25, 2004, at 8:00:17
Honestly, the pain is getting much, much better now. I can see things in retrospect, which is a big step. It means I'm detaching successfully. And I am. Actually, as far as transference is concerned, I'm finding that a lot of healing is happening in my life, but I also know that I need to express my heart. I seem to be so unlike most people in that respect, though. I find that most people are so reluctant to be who they are, to share themselves with another; but I seem to have a talent for bringing out the vulnerability in many as well, and I honestly find that fulfilling and rewarding.
I don't know if it works that way here on PB, but I know it does in my life. However, when people DON'T respond in kind, it depresses and upsets me. My ex-T was one of those people, at the end. He was pushing me away so hard, I think it was hurting him as well, in ways he maybe didn't understand or realize. But I could be wrong, I mean, he may have been doing this for so long with some of his more emotionally feeling clients, that it no longer affects him.
In any case, I'm understanding I have real value to people, albeit not everyone; and I'm understanding that I need people, lots of them, and interesting, exciting, have-it-going-on ones, in my life. It keeps me happy. Happy, happy, happy... Susan.
Posted by Dinah on December 26, 2004, at 9:18:51
In reply to Re: He's a Very Pragmatic Man » Dinah, posted by Susan47 on December 25, 2004, at 20:49:47
Well admittedly that's a difficult thing to ascertain online. If you feel you're getting better and expressing it helps, express away.
It sounds as if you're a true extrovert and find renewal from contact with others. Acknowledging that about yourself is as healthy as it was for me to acknowledge that I'm a true introvert. It helps us get what we need to feel better.
Posted by Susan47 on December 26, 2004, at 22:12:31
In reply to Re: He's a Very Pragmatic Man » Susan47, posted by Dinah on December 26, 2004, at 9:18:51
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