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Posted by kellyr. on July 26, 2004, at 17:26:20
I have three more weeks til we move to OK from NJ, and i feeling suicidal again i don't want to be like this, i should be happy moving and all, but all i feel is very scared, and suicidal. I can't talk to my husband about it he just gets mad and says that he can't handle this anymore. I don't have a T anymore but i do see the nurse on the mon the 2nd and maybe one more time before we move. so i think its the move that making me sad moving away from my home state,friends,family, and the broadwalks. but i know we can't aford this state anymore and it time to move on.
Posted by AuntieMel on July 26, 2004, at 17:49:09
In reply to feeling down in the dump, posted by kellyr. on July 26, 2004, at 17:26:20
Moves can be so scary, can't they. But I know you'll get through it. You always do - you are stronger than you think.
But if it gets worse, please get emergency help!
It's rough being away from friends and family, for sure. Thank heavens for the internet.
And, Oklahoma isn't that bad, though certainly not as pretty as the east coast. It *is* close to Colorado and New Mexico, though. I personally love going to see the cliff dwellings. Check out Mesa Verde in Colorado and Silver City in New Mexico. Carlsbad (sp?) in New Mexico is great, too. In the evening a huge colony of bats leaves the cave - and it's a sight to see. The cave itself is pretty amazing, but I like new cave better - it's undevoloped.
And if you feel like dropping down to the gulf coast, give me a shout.
Posted by AuntieMel on July 26, 2004, at 17:50:02
In reply to feeling down in the dump, posted by kellyr. on July 26, 2004, at 17:26:20
Posted by shadows721 on July 26, 2004, at 18:45:13
In reply to feeling down in the dump, posted by kellyr. on July 26, 2004, at 17:26:20
Kellyr,
I am sorry your are feeling this way, but I confess that I go through the same darn thing. Happy things make me sad. I wish that I knew why. For my own wedding, I cried for weeks before it. On my birthday, I felt like crying. Lately, that's how I feel a lot. I am on meds and under a doc's care. I get scared that I don't want to feel like this forever.
I have always kept myself safe though. I hope that if you are feeling like acting on your thoughts you will get help. I just wanted to say I can really identify with how you feel.
Posted by cakins on July 26, 2004, at 19:09:41
In reply to Re: feeling down in the dump, posted by shadows721 on July 26, 2004, at 18:45:13
Kelly, let me start by saying, I understand. I know what it feels like I am now having to move back from a place I moved to 6 months ago. It is hard coming back, but believe me, with firends and family and people you love and that love you, everthing will be ok. I know sometime it is hard to see through but trust me, the nice people here helped me, it is good to talk about it. I was scared and so afraid the last time I felt that way, believe in yourself, you can do it, you will do it. Be strong! Please keep us up to date. CA
Posted by partlycloudy on July 26, 2004, at 19:50:44
In reply to feeling down in the dump, posted by kellyr. on July 26, 2004, at 17:26:20
Kellyr, will you be able to keep safe? If you need to, get help ASAP. Moving for what feels like the wrong reasons is devastating for anyone. I was deported from England due to my ex-husband's decisions after being laid off. We had to sell everything, put the hosue on the market, and leave in 2 weeks to nowhere. We had nowhere to go. I made it through that.
Posted by partlycloudy on July 27, 2004, at 7:46:20
In reply to feeling down in the dump, posted by kellyr. on July 26, 2004, at 17:26:20
Posted by kellyr. on July 27, 2004, at 16:12:59
In reply to Kelly - you ok today? (nm), posted by partlycloudy on July 27, 2004, at 7:46:20
I feel a little better today, thanks for asking
I don't know why I get like this sometime but I did get good news today we found a place to live out in OK, so that made me happy for the moment. now all I have to do is drive across the country, that scares me alote that I wish I was dead so I don't have to do it.sounds nutty but thats how I feel.stupit yes?
Posted by partlycloudy on July 27, 2004, at 17:45:43
In reply to Re: Kelly - you ok today? » partlycloudy, posted by kellyr. on July 27, 2004, at 16:12:59
No, it's not the least bit stupid, sweetie. It's such an upheaval in your lives. Having an actual destination (home in OK) is great, at least you get to place house all over again. You know that moving is considered one of the top ten major life stresses, right? It's OK to be unhappy, OK to be scared, OK to be ambivilent about the move. You're entitled to all that and more.
(((kellyr.)))
Posted by AuntieMel on July 29, 2004, at 10:28:22
In reply to Re: Kelly - you ok today? » partlycloudy, posted by kellyr. on July 27, 2004, at 16:12:59
Cross country driving can be scary, especially if you do it alone.
One thing I found that helps is to put some fun (and structure) into the drive. Grab maps and tour books ahead of time, figure out about how far you can reasonably get in a day and then look for something cool to see along the way. That would be your stopping place - so you can book a room in advance.
I personally (I'm a morning person) get up real early, drive a couple of hours and then stop for breakfast/brunch. Then get a few hours further down the road. I get to the destination around 3 - which gives me plenty of time to tour some sight.
Something about knowing there is something cool at the end of the road makes the driving easier. And the planning helps get rid of the jitters.
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