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Posted by gardenergirl on June 2, 2004, at 21:45:08
Howdy,
First, I can't access Yahoo messenger with my Babble-friendly ID, and I miss chatting with my buddies. To make it worse, I can't seem to get in to Open with that ID either. I miss chatting live with my buddies and whoever else I can get to know. So I feel out of touch and out of sorts.
Plus, this is my last week at my practicum placement. The reason I am there this week is to have a shared week (it's a 53 week contract) with my replacement in order to train him. He's gone due to a death in the family. So I really don't have a necessary task this week. My voicemail and mailbox at the center are gone. That's usually the first thing I do when I walk in, is to check mail and voicemail. I feel so homeless at work! Like I no longer have any right to be there. No identity.
And to make it worse, my friends from work are already done. I don't have my buds there to joke with and support each other. The new trainees all started yesterday. They are so green and yet so anxious. I worked my butt off the last two days helping get them set up with voicemail, computer log-ins, answering questions, etc. I feel like a consultant in my own office! And I have to give up my keys!
I know this is silly, but all happening at once is kind of surreal. It has been such an intense part of my life for so the last year, and now I feel like a stranger. Yuck! And I can't chat about it!!!!!!!
Please say hi to me in this thread. Please stay in touch until I get my stupid yahoo thing straightened out. I know I can count on Babble. Thank God Dr. Bob hasn't booted my ID.
Thanks for listening!
gg
Posted by spoc on June 2, 2004, at 23:01:56
In reply to Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by gardenergirl on June 2, 2004, at 21:45:08
> Please say hi to me in this thread.
<<<< HI GG! That part I can handle. I kinda have a headache and am pretty much useless right now, but 'hi' I can do! And I can remind you about fluffy clouds, skipping down the driveway, dandelion chains, fish sticks and peas! Ya know, the important things! :- )
I really hope you feel better, that all does sound like a surreal transition to have to make. And so sorry to hear about your Open/Messenger problem. I'm about ready to log you into my account! Heck, I never use it! Yahoo indeed takes its time answering questions, if ever.
I wonder if there's a forum about Yahoo chat rooms out there on the general Internet, where people post questions? I'm a big fan of getting various answers that way. Yahoo itself had a link to a "member experts" kind of forum on its own site, but weeks ago when I tried the link it wasn't working. Maybe you could check it? I recall that it was buried in one of the help areas.
Or maybe you should just treat yourself and open another account for now? You deserve it! Good luck with everything!
Posted by tabitha on June 3, 2004, at 2:15:23
In reply to Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by gardenergirl on June 2, 2004, at 21:45:08
Hi. I never use Messenger, so I'm no help there. And spoc already remembered skipping and dandelion chains.. so um, how about pink fluffly slippers? Full moons? Watermelon seeds? -cue music- Shiny gum wrappers and girls with white mittens. Snow on the ground and some big sloppy kisses. Brown paper packages tied up with string.. these are a few of my favorite things..
I don't think I quite got the right words to that song
Posted by cubic_me on June 3, 2004, at 6:26:38
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by tabitha on June 3, 2004, at 2:15:23
here's a *hello* from me to you.
Messenger and open is 'off-limits' on my university computers - I feel so left out not being able to talk with you all in 'real-time' - even though I'm on the other side of the world so might not be online when anyone else is!! Hopefully I'll be online at home within the next few months, and I'll be able to chat all day long (...and doing a little work in between...!)
Posted by fayeroe on June 3, 2004, at 7:04:40
In reply to Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by gardenergirl on June 2, 2004, at 21:45:08
Hey, gg, hang on, I'm coming. Are you familiar with that song by Sam the Sham? (think I have the name right) I was fired from a job (my only time at being told to leave) and I felt like I had been exiled to my own home. I lost all of my support system. Oh, they called and came by but it was that system at work that I loved. (incidentally, I took them to court and won!)I feel for you big time.....you're on the verge of big and new things......Pat
Posted by karen_kay on June 3, 2004, at 8:01:26
In reply to Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by gardenergirl on June 2, 2004, at 21:45:08
((((((GG))))))))))))
if it helps any, i know that when i've always started a new job, i've always looked up to the person i replaced. they not only 'showed me the ropes' but also reminded me that i have a chance to move on as well. and that in a few years, i'll be them, training the 'future me' (what a lovely job, eh?). i've always been in awe of that person, since s/he was moving on, moving up and moving out! plus, s/he always knew so much! how is that?
perhaps you could wear your sunglasses all day long, just to lighten them up a bit? it is rather challenging trying to figure out the personality (s) of others (especially those who are superior or seem to be) in just a few short days. maybe you could try to joke with them, to help your anxiety and theirs as well?
and don't forget, vermont is always an option too :)
Posted by Angela2 on June 3, 2004, at 9:03:48
In reply to Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by gardenergirl on June 2, 2004, at 21:45:08
Hi gg,
Hello there
You are not a stranger here:)Angela
Posted by justyourlaugh on June 3, 2004, at 9:44:37
In reply to Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by gardenergirl on June 2, 2004, at 21:45:08
gg,
"one" is a terrible number...
it is great that you know how important and rewarding people can be..
you are very special
"hi gg"
i hope things are coming together more smoothly today.
jyl
Posted by fallsfall on June 3, 2004, at 10:31:27
In reply to Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by gardenergirl on June 2, 2004, at 21:45:08
I hate feeling forcibly out of touch!
I am thinking of you, and had noticed you hadn't been on so much.
I think that NikkiT2 has been the best source for "It doesn't work" kind of computer help. Maybe she can help you.
Email still works, doesn't it??? How about AIM?
Posted by partlycloudy on June 3, 2004, at 11:54:07
In reply to Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by gardenergirl on June 2, 2004, at 21:45:08
Hi, gg! We are here, we are here, we are here, we are here!!! Hope today is a better day for you.
Posted by gardenergirl on June 3, 2004, at 21:19:50
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated » gardenergirl, posted by partlycloudy on June 3, 2004, at 11:54:07
Thanks to everyone who posted. It made me feel less disconnected and lonely. I will probably take spoc's advice and get a new yahoo acct. I am tired of waiting. Plus, I really need to chat because my week went from bad to worse today due to a car accident that was not my fault. I'm okay, but the car may be totalled. I've never been in a wreck like this. It's really surreal.
Thanks again. Babblers are awesome!!!!!
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 4, 2004, at 1:08:16
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by spoc on June 2, 2004, at 23:01:56
Thanks for reminding me of what makes me happy! Take care,
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 4, 2004, at 1:09:15
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by tabitha on June 3, 2004, at 2:15:23
Great song, and all good things except for the watermelon. For some reason, I can't stand melon of any kind. I think it's the texture.
Thanks for the cheeful thoughts!
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 4, 2004, at 1:10:56
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by cubic_me on June 3, 2004, at 6:26:38
Oh, cubic,
Sorry about your university putting up that block. Mine also is concerned about using up space for stuff like that, but one: they were more worried about illegal music downloads, and two: they just put in several new trunk lines, so there is more network space available.Looking forward to your live appearance!
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 4, 2004, at 1:13:53
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated » gardenergirl, posted by fayeroe on June 3, 2004, at 7:04:40
Thanks for sharing that and for you kind words. That song escapes me now, but I'm a bit foggy at the moment: see pst in reply to Racer in thread below.
It's amazing how much of sense of self is caught up in what we do, isn't it? All of the things that make me ready to be done with this practicum because I am burned out are also all of the things that made it such a great experience. But intense. And exhausting. And if those newbies would ever stop with their questions! Read the manual, why dontcha?
Okay, I wouldn't really say that. But tomorrow I AM hiding.
Take care, and thanks again.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 4, 2004, at 1:20:50
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated » gardenergirl, posted by karen_kay on June 3, 2004, at 8:01:26
Oh KK,
What a great thing to say. I hope that my replacement looks up to me, at least metaphorically. (He's a really big guy. It will be interesting to see what adding all of that testosterone will do to the place...four guys coming this year as opposed to the usual one.)My gosh, I forgot about my giant orange sunglasses! I haven't had a chance to pack up my desk yet, so I can put them on and walk around. Might as well go out as a goof. That will show them not to take things so darn seriously.
They are so earnest, though. It's really kind of cute. And I feel very confident, at least with the clients that I transferred, that they will be in good hands. I managed to avoid transferring any to the one person who is an as*. He said "I'm not getting paid, I'm only putting forth minimal effort." What a dork! This is the best training opportunity the school offers. You will never get training and supervision like this again. You need to suck every drop that you can from this opportunity. You get out of it what you put into it, and dude, you ain't gonna get squat with that attitude. And then there's the girl who is so eager, she is driving me crazy because she has zero patience and impulse control. She thinks it, it needs to be done RIGHT NOW! Chill, mama-la! It's only your second day!
Take care sweetie. If I happen upon a pony in my travels, I'll be sure to hang a post-it on it with your name.
And thanks again. You always know the perfect cheery thing to say. Too bad you weren't (okay, not in the car during but after-- during the wait.) That would have made the time pass easier.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 4, 2004, at 1:21:38
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated, posted by Angela2 on June 3, 2004, at 9:03:48
thanks, I don't feel quite so lonely and disconnnected now.
Take care,
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 4, 2004, at 1:23:29
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated » gardenergirl, posted by justyourlaugh on June 3, 2004, at 9:44:37
jyl,
Thank you for your lovely thoughts. I wish I could say that things went smoother today. Actually, as far as work goes, it was smoother because I barely made it in. See post in reply to Racer in lower thread. But I'm okay, and I see my T tomorrow a.m.You are special too! I'll have to try for a ten later today. Sure could use one.
thanks again,
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 4, 2004, at 1:24:46
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated » gardenergirl, posted by fallsfall on June 3, 2004, at 10:31:27
Glad you suggested those, and it was nice chatting with you. I feel better now that I have access again. Although I wish I knew what stupid thing went wrong.
Take care and talk to you soon!
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 4, 2004, at 1:25:38
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated » gardenergirl, posted by partlycloudy on June 3, 2004, at 11:54:07
Partly,
I LOVE Horton Hears a Who! It's one of my favorites. I love to say that, too. How cool is that? Thanks for the smiles.Take care,
gg
Posted by fayeroe on June 4, 2004, at 7:44:20
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated » fayeroe, posted by gardenergirl on June 4, 2004, at 1:13:53
You know that was the first time that I realized how much of my "self" could be in a job. I've always been self-employed (except for a three year stint at a psych hospital teaching phototherapy) and I definitely had different feelings about the ER job. I lost 16 pounds in a very short time and just felt awful. Now I find myself preparing for finishing nursing school (one can't have too many careers, even at my old age) and very excited about combining therapy and nursing. I'm very proud of what you've achieved and I know you are going to do well because I see a very big heart in you. Pat
Posted by gardenergirl on June 5, 2004, at 11:59:30
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected and discombobulated » gardenergirl, posted by fayeroe on June 4, 2004, at 7:44:20
Wow, thank you for the support. I'm feeling especially poopy today because I'm certain now my car is totalled. And the other driver seems to have disappeared, so I'm sure the insurance companies will be battling for awhile. Lovely.
Regarding multiple careers, I agree. I'm on my third. So many undergrads I worked with this past year were so anxious about majors and jobs etc. I kept holding myself as an example that you are not a failure in life if you drop out or change majors or careers. I don't know if they believed me or not. ;) But I'm enjoying combining the principles I learned in my occupational therapy career with psychotherapy.
But I sure hope this is my last degree. I'm whooped!
Take care and good luck with finishing nursing school. I know that is a lot of work.
gg
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