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Posted by Scott in Vermont on May 19, 2004, at 11:41:02
Just dropping a line to say I'm haunting around Babble again. Things are going as well as they can be, my pdoc says that Lexapro should use me as their success story poster boy, and overall I'm very happy with life. Not manic, happy. Satisfied. Content. Trust me, I know the difference.
Big smiles to all. I'm going to read what I missed, I hope everyone is still working towards their own personal goals and are doing as well as they can.
:)
-Scott
Posted by partlycloudy on May 19, 2004, at 12:19:48
In reply to Back, posted by Scott in Vermont on May 19, 2004, at 11:41:02
Posted by tootercat on May 19, 2004, at 14:57:54
In reply to Back, posted by Scott in Vermont on May 19, 2004, at 11:41:02
Hi Scott! Sorry I haven't emailed ya. I am doing ok all things considered. Glad to see you back and it is ok to be happy even when bad things are happening (so I've been told). I was feeling guilty about the fact that I am very much in love and am loved and I am basking in it even tho my papa just died. I have moments and more than moments when I start sobbing but for the most part I am continuing to live my life as joyously as possible. Take care hon, Toots
Posted by karen_kay on May 21, 2004, at 9:45:20
In reply to Back, posted by Scott in Vermont on May 19, 2004, at 11:41:02
i'm glad to see you back. and i'm very glad to hear you are doing well right now. i hope this lasts forever for you! and how are you lovely children and that beautiful porch where you watch the sun go down?
take care scott and i'm very happy to hear how well you are doing right now! it's very wonderful and i'm so very happy for you.
Posted by Scott in Vermont on May 21, 2004, at 15:12:12
In reply to Re: Back, posted by karen_kay on May 21, 2004, at 9:45:20
Actually, I get to watch the sun rise on that porch. I have the back yard for the sunset (although after reading the post Jai left, I don't know if I want to walk barefoot out there anymore... hahha)
The kids are doing ok, and they are weathering this storm as well as can be expected from an 8 and 6 year old who now have a split family. The best thing is that they know my house is safe, and they express feelings. My son likes to play out his frustrations with action figures. The "bad guy" is always some physical incarnation of seperation and divorce. Oddly, the good guy is almost always me. I don't have the heart to tell him I'm never going back to his mother. The freedom I feel since getting out from under her oppressive spite is indescribable... I could have spent the rest of my life being 1/2 alive (or eventually I would have just..."quit"). My daughter is a bit more conventional in her approach, she talks about feelings and says that while she is sad that Mommy and Daddy are not in the same house anymore, she likes seeing a happy Daddy and she knows I'm doing a lot better.
My wife (or whatever she is now) isn't doing as well... and I have no pity whatsoever. I know that sounds bitter and harsh, but there is a reckoning in all things, and I think she is reaping a little bit of the misery she sowed for so very long. My well of empathy runneth low... ha.
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I am being careful with my happiness, and not taking it for granted. My #1 fear is knowing how good I am doing right now, and knowing how very, very far the fall would be if I started heading for the bottom again. I'm sticking to my meds (last time I was "cured" I quit my meds... bad idea) and I'm making sure to find something good to focus on every day. Today my focus is that I get to pick the children up at 5:30 and have them all weekend. Tomorrow is unknown, but I know it's going to be a good day. Every day is a good day. :)
Have a good weekend.
Posted by Scott in Vermont on May 21, 2004, at 15:17:28
In reply to Re: Back, posted by tootercat on May 19, 2004, at 14:57:54
Hi Tooter (Toots sounds so... 1940's black and white "tough guy" ganster film... ha)
I'm sorry about your dad. I read the posts you left. He sounds like he was a man worth knowing. Grief is a tough thing to wrestle with even from a "good" place... but don't feel guilty about living (especially with such a decent reason to be happy!) because when it comes down to it, this is the time we have, and none know when it's up. You have a good thing going on. Honor the memory of your dad by living as well as you can and enjoy life. That might sound a little dramatic, but it's intended honestly.
Feel free to drop an email to me anytime, I have dialup at the house now. It's sloooow, but I can deal with it.
Have a good weekend. :)
Posted by tootercat on May 21, 2004, at 16:57:17
In reply to Re: Back » tootercat, posted by Scott in Vermont on May 21, 2004, at 15:17:28
Thanks Scott....you're right. My papa would not want me to be unhappy. He loved life so much and just accepted things so well. (I DIDN'T inherit that gene!) I hope your life has gotten some balance and that you are finding moments and more of some kind of happiness. I'll stay in touch,
Tooter
Posted by karen_kay on May 21, 2004, at 19:01:29
In reply to Re: Back, posted by Scott in Vermont on May 21, 2004, at 15:12:12
wow! you honestly have a wonderful attitude about today and tomorrow. and it's very great to hear that you are doing so well.
i'm glad that your children are doing well. they seem to be very perceptive. and it's very wonderful that they are able to see how great their dad is doing, even if their dad and mom aren't together. i'm sure it's no accident that you have such wonderful children, as children seem to learn from example. (and i honestly can't tell you the joy i feel when i read about great parents or talk to great parents.)
about your wife (or whatever she is now)... it's fairly recent, isn't it? the seperation (or divorce is it?) i mean. i'm always one for healing feelings and all that jazz, but it isn't always easy or seem possible either. and if it's recent, then i'd think it's normal to not feel sympathetic towards her pain at this moment. i do hope that in time you can be on good terms with her, if for nothing else the sake of your children. but, i'm sure that will come in time.
i hope you have a lovely weekend with your children. and with this lovely weather in my area, i hope you are enjoying it too. perhaps you can catch the sunrise on your porch this weekend? bye scott and take care. and i'm glad things are going well in vermont right now.
Posted by Ivan Michael on May 24, 2004, at 14:33:38
In reply to Back, posted by Scott in Vermont on May 19, 2004, at 11:41:02
well hello there. we've never met but i hope that, in the few times i will visit this site over the summer, we can chat. i'm glad that you're actuallie happie!!! i wish that more of us could say the same. o well. enjoy life my friend. it sounds like you've alreadie started.:)
Posted by Scott in Vermont on May 25, 2004, at 8:21:08
In reply to Re: Back, posted by Ivan Michael on May 24, 2004, at 14:33:38
Thanks Ivan. I've read a lot of your posts. I hope your struggles ease with time. No matter where you are right now, things will change a lot over the next few years. A lot. Work for the best, and focus on making it. Things will change.
-Scott
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