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Posted by Poet on April 29, 2004, at 16:01:21
I wasn't fired, I was forced to resign. I got there this morning and my personal stuff was in a box. My boss refused to talk about it, just told me I'd get paid for two more weeks, because I gave proper notice.
Yesterday, my boss told me that I shouldn't undersell myself and that I'm talented. Today I'm out the door.
I'll admit things weren't great. But I was great at the job. Someone in the department had also interviewed for the job and didn't get it. She and her gang would run to my boss and tell all kinds of tales. I wasn't allowed to defend myself or confront the individual. Direct quote from Boss "you and I are professionals, Poet, we just have to take it from the support staff."
I know that I am not to blame, I just can't stop my negative thought train. The Queen of Employment Losers is back, I should have known I'd fail.
Poet
Posted by shadows721 on April 29, 2004, at 19:13:34
In reply to The Sad Return of the Queen of Employment Losers, posted by Poet on April 29, 2004, at 16:01:21
First, I want to say that I am very sorry that you had this experience. But, now, I want you to ask, "What can I learn from this?" Think about positive things here. You have gained experience from this position. You didn't fail. There isn't failing in this matter. There is learning. You don't need to punish yourself. You need empowerment. I know that doesn't feel right for the moment, but you need fuel for the next adventure. Your life isn't over. You have much to learn.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on April 29, 2004, at 22:08:32
In reply to The Sad Return of the Queen of Employment Losers, posted by Poet on April 29, 2004, at 16:01:21
For what it is worth I do not think you failed at all...you held a job thats more than I can do..and you put up with the lower people saying stuff...you did good....and will do good again
HUGS
Posted by octopusprime on April 30, 2004, at 7:39:22
In reply to The Sad Return of the Queen of Employment Losers, posted by Poet on April 29, 2004, at 16:01:21
Hi Poet,
I'm sorry to hear of your job troubles. I highly recommend that you call an attorney ASAP to review your rights. Most lawyers will hear you out for low to no cost while you consider your options. And file for unemployment insurance.
Oh and ice cream, and maybe a weekend camping trip and a long bubble bath. Take care of yourself.
Good luck!
Posted by poet on April 30, 2004, at 10:27:32
In reply to The Sad Return of the Queen of Employment Losers, posted by Poet on April 29, 2004, at 16:01:21
Posted by TexasChic on April 30, 2004, at 15:19:57
In reply to The Sad Return of the Queen of Employment Losers, posted by Poet on April 29, 2004, at 16:01:21
Wow, I had a similiar situation happen to me. At my last job, I had trouble with some of my female co-workers. A group of them decided to go over everyone's head, and go to the president of the company to complain about me. The situation was I didn't stay and work until midnight with them one night because I knew the job would not be completed anyway and it was ridiculous. Also I got permission from my supervisor. When they didn't finish like I had predicted, they decided to blame it on me. Lucky for me, I had a friend who saw them go complain, and we figured it out. It all came down to a meeting with the president, the vice president, my supervisor, his supervisor, and me. The president's first statement was, "So I hear you don't like to work overtime." I immediately responded and said, "Look, I know what this is about", and then I preceded to tell him everything that happened. You could tell they were all shocked that I knew all about it, and they weren't expecting a legitimate defense out of me. After I finished my explanation they we're kind of like, "okay then, I guess that's settled". It was great, but the girls never got in trouble for doing something so out of line.
At the same job I had a situation with my supervisor which was a scapegoat issue too. He wanted to be able to hand in his work anytime he wanted in a deadline oriented environment. And since everything was handed in to me so that I could lay out the magazine, that meant he made me late everytime. Then he had the nerve to write me up about it! When that happened, I went home, applied for every job I could find, got a job offer in two days, and handed in my resignation. And that's where I'm working now.
So I guess the moral is, people at work aren't always nice or fair, and some are even going to be out to get you. You just have to handle these situations as best you know how, and move on when its time. But don't blame yourself or think you failed. That will do nothing to change the situation. Its where you go from here that really matters.
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