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Posted by judy1 on April 28, 2004, at 11:27:05
I'm hoping you all (y'all, when my roots are showing :-) wouldn't mind giving me your opinions. My youngest is 2 years old now and (almost!) out of her diapers and my biological clock is ticking loudly and I am seriously considering having another child. My son is approaching adolescence very fast so maybe that's enough stress. But I know you women out there understand that urge to have a baby and how difficult it is to ignore it. I should mention that everyone (docs, husband, son) is against it probably because of my not so stellar history of mental health. Right now I'm surprisingly stable (considering my pdoc terminated me a month ago) and I'm hoping the last few years of instability is over. the only med I'm taking now is klonopin, so that's not an issue. any way, I would greatly appreciate anyone's thoughts.
thanks so much- judy
Posted by Dinah on April 28, 2004, at 11:50:50
In reply to I haven't posted here in a while, but...., posted by judy1 on April 28, 2004, at 11:27:05
Judy, it's delightful to hear from you. I've missed you.
I don't have much useful to say on that subject, because my one and only suits me just fine. I really haven't had much of a drive to have another. And I *know* I couldn't handle another postpartum. My recollection is that you didn't have those problems did you?
Posted by tabitha on April 28, 2004, at 23:45:31
In reply to Re: I haven't posted here in a while, but.... » judy1, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2004, at 11:50:50
Glad to hear you're doing well. I'm childless and I never got that baby urge much-- felt it for a while last year, but it passed before I did anything. It was kind of amazingly compelling. I'm concerned your husband and son don't support you-- do you think they'd come around?
Posted by judy1 on April 29, 2004, at 12:22:33
In reply to Re: I haven't posted here in a while, but.... » judy1, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2004, at 11:50:50
thanks for the nice welcome.
You're right, I had wonderful pregnancies (or maybe I just forgot the bad parts:-). This could be a 'spring feeling', I see all the new life around me- birds, bunnies, flowers, etc.- maybe it's contagious. Another factor is me feeling better mentally, with the absence of a shrink in my life and a different approach by my therp (SE) I don't spend as much time as I did thinking about my disorders, probably obsessing is a better term.
That's probably why I haven't been around as much, I think most people take breaks from here because they are feeling a lot better or they are feeling really lousy (lord knows I've been there too).
I'm glad you are content with having one child (a son, right?). I hope everything is going well for you- judy
Posted by judy1 on April 29, 2004, at 12:32:35
In reply to Re: I haven't posted here in a while, but.... » Dinah, posted by tabitha on April 28, 2004, at 23:45:31
It is amazingly compelling, isn't it? Do you know why it passed? Are you married, if so does your spouse want a child?
I think my son is against it because of normal sibling jealousy. He sees my 2 y.o. taking up so much of my time and since he was an only child for so long probably doesn't want to share mom any more than necessary.
My husband is a different story. His concern is my mental status- I've had a pretty rough time cycling (bipolar disorder) the last few years- and some hospitalizations for manic episodes thrown in along with a lot of financial disaster. I need to show him I can be stable for some time, but I guess I feel like I don't have that much 'fertile' time left, so there lies the pressure.
take care, judy
Posted by TexasChic on April 29, 2004, at 15:25:43
In reply to I haven't posted here in a while, but...., posted by judy1 on April 28, 2004, at 11:27:05
I have baby fever bad. Unfortunately I''m single and have been for a while. I've decided if I reach 40 and still have no children (and am financially better off than I am now), I would like to adopt.
As for your husband being against it, that's a pretty big roadblock. Is he concerned about your mental health or something else? I think the answer to your question would depend on why he's against it and if he can be brought around. I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
Posted by Phil on April 29, 2004, at 15:45:35
In reply to Re: I haven't posted here in a while, but.... » judy1, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2004, at 11:50:50
Wanted to say hi judy but am out of my league on the other question at hand.
Posted by judy1 on April 30, 2004, at 11:52:03
In reply to Re: I haven't posted here in a while, but...., posted by Phil on April 29, 2004, at 15:45:35
Actually, I would have been concerned If you DID feel like I do :-).
I hope you are doing well, judy
Posted by judy1 on April 30, 2004, at 11:56:22
In reply to Re: I haven't posted here in a while, but...., posted by TexasChic on April 29, 2004, at 15:25:43
My husband is concerned about my mental health (and has every reason to feel that way). It is difficult to get around.
As far as being single, you have several options- AI with a known/unknown donor if you want to carry a baby or adoption- China and I believe Russia doesn't penalize anyone for being single (it's more difficult in the U.S. if you want an infant). Whatever you decide I wish you well- judy
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