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Posted by Tootercat on April 27, 2004, at 17:54:25
I need all of the positive energy possible for my papa. He is back in the hospital because of this weird disease called Wegener's Granulomatosis. It is winning right now...he is fighting really hard. He's in Florida and I'm in California and it's so hard because part of me wants to be back there (although my sister says he is not very lucid) and another wants to remember him the way he was when he visited last summer. Chicken s**t?
I could take off time from work now(I have vacation)but I'm hoping beyond hope that he will pull out again and I can go when he is at home again...
Sometimes being 3000 miles away is a blessing and a curse. I have avoided so much "family duty" by being so far away and yet I have also missed so much "family joy". I am so confused by my feelings around this whole thing. I am filled with sadness, guilt, anger, and fear. This sucks.
Posted by karen_kay on April 27, 2004, at 18:39:00
In reply to I really need y'all again, posted by Tootercat on April 27, 2004, at 17:54:25
awww ((((toots))))
i'm thinking about you darling. and i know exactly how you feel. you know how i like to say i don't regret anything? i lie. before my father died, i left for school. i didn't need to leave so early. i tried to justify it and say i did, but i know in my heart i didn't. but, it's also very hard to see someone you love so very much so very weak. and my father was my world. i couldn't just wait around and watch him die. and my mother never quite saw it that way. but, she was always very strong, and i really admire her for that strength. but, i had to do what i could to keep my sanity. but, what i wouldn't give for just a few more moments with my daddy. i swear, i'd live it all again.
good luck toots.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on April 27, 2004, at 19:59:13
In reply to I really need y'all again, posted by Tootercat on April 27, 2004, at 17:54:25
I am so sorry and really praying hard for you and dad it must be scary to be so far away....huge hugs
Posted by Ilene on April 27, 2004, at 20:45:34
In reply to I really need y'all again, posted by Tootercat on April 27, 2004, at 17:54:25
> I need all of the positive energy possible for my papa. He is back in the hospital because of this weird disease called Wegener's Granulomatosis. It is winning right now...he is fighting really hard. He's in Florida and I'm in California and it's so hard because part of me wants to be back there (although my sister says he is not very lucid) and another wants to remember him the way he was when he visited last summer. Chicken s**t?
Go. Now. My father died exactly one year ago. It was hard watching him waste away, but it was better than not being there. You will help your papa, and yourself, more than you know by being there.
A dear friend died of WG. Many (most?) people survive and do well in between relapses, but there are no guarantees.
> I could take off time from work now(I have vacation)but I'm hoping beyond hope that he will pull out again and I can go when he is at home again...
Well...
> Sometimes being 3000 miles away is a blessing and a curse. I have avoided so much "family duty" by being so far away and yet I have also missed so much "family joy". I am so confused by my feelings around this whole thing. I am filled with sadness, guilt, anger, and fear. This sucks.
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Yes, it sucks. Death and disease suck. I wish I had had more time with my dad while he was lucid, and I wish I could have figured out a way to overcome the chasm between us.
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Good luck,I.
Posted by fallsfall on April 27, 2004, at 21:48:42
In reply to I really need y'all again, posted by Tootercat on April 27, 2004, at 17:54:25
Posted by gardenergirl on April 27, 2004, at 22:50:52
In reply to Re: I really need y'all again » Tootercat, posted by Ilene on April 27, 2004, at 20:45:34
I'm so sorry about this. How hard for you to be so far away, but I also think I understand how at times it helps. My own dad is about six hours away, which makes it too far really for weekends. I feel guilty sometimes at being relieved by that.
But I will send that positive energy in both directions--to you and to your father. Please take extra care of yourself in this time. That's very important, too.
(((((toots)))))
gg
Posted by All Done on April 28, 2004, at 1:22:06
In reply to I really need y'all again, posted by Tootercat on April 27, 2004, at 17:54:25
(((((Toots))))),
I am so very sorry. Please go be with your dad if you can. I think it will be best for both you and him.
That's really all I can say right now. Sorry.
Love,
L
Posted by man_oh_man1977 on April 28, 2004, at 2:06:54
In reply to Re: I really need y'all again » Tootercat, posted by All Done on April 28, 2004, at 1:22:06
Hi Tootercat,
My grandmother passed away from alzeihmer's a few years back. I went to visit her in the hospital; I was scared like heck, but I bit the bullet. At first she was lucid, and then as our visit went on, she got confused. I had to leave, cried for awhile and now that I read this, I have remembered how scary that was. Although she was very sick, nothing can take away all the good memories I have of her. Go, it's okay to be scared, and remember no one can take away your good memories. Meanwhile, your pop is in my prayers.
Good luck,
Man-oh-man
Posted by rainyday on April 28, 2004, at 7:12:02
In reply to I really need y'all again, posted by Tootercat on April 27, 2004, at 17:54:25
So sorry about your dad. I too live far from my family.
Posted by Dinah on April 28, 2004, at 8:53:53
In reply to I really need y'all again, posted by Tootercat on April 27, 2004, at 17:54:25
I'm sorry Tootercat. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
Posted by TexasChic on April 28, 2004, at 16:58:01
In reply to I really need y'all again, posted by Tootercat on April 27, 2004, at 17:54:25
I chose not to spend the last days with my father. Selfish or not, I still feel it was the best thing for me. It was just too upsetting to deal with. I can only hope to repay karma by someday being the strong one for someone else. Do what you feel is best. No one can decide that but you.
I'm sending you all the positive energy I can muster.
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