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Posted by fayeroe on April 6, 2004, at 18:29:38
In reply to I'm a face man, posted by Bobby on April 6, 2004, at 15:49:40
> the rest eventually gives in to Newton's law.
you're right.....my knees are trying to visit my ankles now!!! i'm an eye woman. he has to have laughing eyes..
Posted by simus on April 7, 2004, at 0:34:57
In reply to Re: All men are breast men, posted by Miss Honeychurch on April 6, 2004, at 12:18:31
Posted by spoc on April 7, 2004, at 1:31:28
In reply to I'm a face man, posted by Bobby on April 6, 2004, at 15:49:40
> the rest eventually gives in to Newton's law.
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Hmmm, if you haven't noticed that the face does too, the woman who gets (or has) you is extra lucky! : )But seriously, nice to look at the titles from women on this thread and then see this one from a man! Bravo! Of course men's parts are all on the move as well, but most of us are pretty good about that! : )
Posted by EmmyS on April 7, 2004, at 9:03:20
In reply to Sorry to eavesdrop, but thanks for the chuckles (nm), posted by simus on April 7, 2004, at 0:34:57
Simus - There is no such thing as eavesdropping here. All are welcome to butt right in. :-)
Emmy
Posted by EmmyS on April 7, 2004, at 9:04:43
In reply to Re: I'm a face man » Bobby, posted by spoc on April 7, 2004, at 1:31:28
Yes, ditto on the face drop. My double chins hit the space bar for me.
Posted by kid47 on April 7, 2004, at 10:18:44
In reply to Re: I'm a face man, posted by EmmyS on April 7, 2004, at 9:04:43
when I leer....er ...look at a woman, I look at the face first (especially eyes and teeth). Then I check out legs, legs legs, butt, and maybe boobs. By then of course she has sprayed me with mace and is screaming for the cops. ;) I like all shapes and sizes of people. So as not to sound completely superficial, I have realized the brain is probably the biggest turn on/off for me.( did I score any points with that cliche'?) I am very drawn to the people here and I don't have a clue as to what anybody looks like. 'nuff said.
peace,
kid
Posted by Tootercat on April 7, 2004, at 10:46:32
In reply to Parts is parts, posted by kid47 on April 7, 2004, at 10:18:44
Kid have I mentioned that I adore you? I say this with no lust or ulterior motive (so calm down KK!) Everytime I read one of your posts I think what a well rounded, compassionate and deep thinking individual you are. Something tells me you have experienced much pain to get where you are. I too believe that the most erotic zone of the body is the brain....well that and the little place where my neck meets my shoulder....
Love ya
Toots
Posted by kid47 on April 7, 2004, at 11:18:54
In reply to Re: Parts is parts » kid47, posted by Tootercat on April 7, 2004, at 10:46:32
> Kid have I mentioned that I adore you? I say this with no lust or ulterior motive (so calm down KK!) Everytime I read one of your posts I think what a well rounded, compassionate and deep thinking individual you are. Something tells me you have experienced much pain to get where you are. I too believe that the most erotic zone of the body is the brain....well that and the little place where my neck meets my shoulder....
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> Love ya
> Toots
No lust?...Dam! ;)You say such nice things!! I think that the stroll through hell most of us here have experienced is why I feel such kinship with the folks at Babble. Thank you for making my day a little brighter!!
Peace, Love, and Happiness
kid
Posted by karen_kay on April 7, 2004, at 12:23:02
In reply to Re: Parts is parts » Tootercat, posted by kid47 on April 7, 2004, at 11:18:54
it's the voice. every time. the way they breathe. the noises they make when they speak. especially the way they say "pillow". i could listen to someone say pillow for hours and hours. and color. and the laugh. i cackle. i know i do. but, i could listen to a man laugh for hours and hours. what is it about the voice? the tone, the inflection, the pronunciation, all of it. even the awkward voices get to me. the kind that kinda crack when they talk. that's charming. i adore them all. i guess i'm a sucker for communication?
i don't have a particular preference in hair or features or any other sort. just a voice, with something (and sometimes nothing too) to say. that's all i'm asking for. oh, and a platinum card with a solid job to back it up. is that too much to ask for?
Posted by simus on April 7, 2004, at 17:38:46
In reply to Re: Sorry to eavesdrop, but thanks for the chuckles » simus, posted by EmmyS on April 7, 2004, at 9:03:20
> Simus - There is no such thing as eavesdropping here. All are welcome to butt right in. :-)
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> Emmy
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Well...truth be told...I am soooo "all that" that it is a little embarrassing to even talk about.
Posted by fayeroe on April 7, 2004, at 17:46:55
In reply to on men, » kid47, posted by karen_kay on April 7, 2004, at 12:23:02
besides liking laughing eyes, i like asymetrical faces........you know the character actor look......now Brad Pitt is really hot, but i'm turned on by the odd-ball rugged look.....but i agree with tootercat about the brain...it is the erotic staging point for me! plus that little place right above my boob by my shoulder~~~~~~~~
Posted by karen_kay on April 7, 2004, at 18:24:25
In reply to Re: on men, » karen_kay, posted by fayeroe on April 7, 2004, at 17:46:55
i like necks. i always look at women's necks. they are rather lovely, aren't they? and the collar bones. i like my neck and collar bones the best, and those are the features i look at on a woman. and, of course, the voice. but, i look at a woman's neck and collar bones first. women are such lovely creatures, aren't they?
and, as for men, i adore billy bob thornton (yes, sling blade era suits me fine). and kevin spacey. as well as mr. paul simon. listen to their voices. i melt.... perhaps i adore voices so much because the voice conveys what's going on in the mind? i just love listening to stories and people talk.
Posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 18:28:19
In reply to on men, » kid47, posted by karen_kay on April 7, 2004, at 12:23:02
I'm an absolute sucker for integrity and honor. The sexiest thing I've ever seen. Next to that I'm a finger woman. I love nice fingers on men.
But if I were to put one together from scratch, he'd have blondish hair (and blonde body hair), crinkly light eyes, tons of intelligence, a great sense of humor, and oodles and oodles of honor and integrity.
By the way, I've just pretty much described my husband. :)
Posted by spoc on April 7, 2004, at 22:25:48
In reply to Re: on men,, posted by Dinah on April 7, 2004, at 18:28:19
> I'm an absolute sucker for integrity and honor. The sexiest thing I've ever seen... tons of intelligence, a great sense of humor, and oodles and oodles of honor and integrity.>
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Boy, I hear you on that Dinah! When I was in my teens and twenties, I was typically susceptible to the hotties. But then I stumbled into my first "accidental" relationship with someone who wouldn't have been my physical type otherwise, but who I got to know only because he was my dorm room neighbor. Exceptional honor and intelligence, and priorities. Knew when to work and when to play, and had friends of all types and was loads of fun when he did play. But whenever his commitment to doing exceptionally well dictated it, in the wee hours of many a Saturday night (morning), he'd be lugging his backpack full of books home from studying in an empty classroom on campus as the rest of us were slithering in from parties.He had such a deep sense of peace from his values, which he didn't need to rub in anyone's face. He could get along with most everyone, accept them and put them at ease; but sometimes later he'd say something that reflected to me the parts of it all that he felt were fine for someone else, but that would feel too empty to him if allowed into his own life. Like things about the love 'em and leave 'em lifestyle all around us, or forgetting your roots, or neglecting family.
I found that after that relationship, my attraction began to truly *follow* making a connection to someone's cerebral, honorable and insightful side (lots of wit and silliness too, mind you). Rather than being physically attracted first and then hoping for the best. No hotties ever got through to me based only on looks ever again (which would sometimes irritate them greatly). All the way around it was a fabulous lesson I learned, but it was luck too in a way because one probably can't set out to change what turns them on on a visceral level. With me, some link was naturally broken and readjusted.
Now, don't anyone who simply enjoys "lite" interactions too be offended, I'm only talking about qualities that may strike as heralding The One (if more foundation and purpose is what you crave, as it was for me). : )
Posted by simus on April 7, 2004, at 23:05:37
In reply to Re: on men, » Dinah, posted by spoc on April 7, 2004, at 22:25:48
C'mon people. I originally "eavesdropped" for the chuckles, and now you are leaving me all emotionally touched and teary-eyed.
Well, since we are going down that road, I guess for me, the "eyes" have it. The eyes are the windows to the soul. There is nothing quite like seeing love in someone's eyes, especially when you know that you know it is for you. Kindness and gentleness show forth through the eyes, as well as strength and integrity. A sweet, shy downward glance is priceless. Bold, direct, fire-filled, flashing eyes can inspire more than words...
Anyway, there is my 2 cents worth.
Posted by spoc on April 7, 2004, at 23:29:54
In reply to Re: on men, » spoc, posted by simus on April 7, 2004, at 23:05:37
Posted by fayeroe on April 8, 2004, at 6:42:43
In reply to Re: on men, » spoc, posted by simus on April 7, 2004, at 23:05:37
There is nothing quite like seeing love in someone's eyes, especially when you know that you know it is for you. Kindness and gentleness show forth through the eyes, as well as strength and integrity. A sweet, shy downward glance is priceless. Bold, direct, fire-filled, flashing eyes can inspire more than words...
Oh yeah!!!
Posted by fayeroe on April 8, 2004, at 6:48:28
In reply to Re: on men, » simus, posted by fayeroe on April 8, 2004, at 6:42:43
Yesterday while driving home from work, I finally remembered the name of the man who could put his shoes under my bed any old night. Harry Dean Stanton. The memory of him dancing with the broom and playing the fiddle in the video that Dolly Parton, Emmy Lou Harris and Linda Rondstadt did several years ago...Alan O'Bryant wrote the song and the video was "oh, so sexy" and sadly sweet........(Alan O'Bryan is the banjo player and sweet harmonizer in The Nashville Bluegrass Band. I was totally blown away by seeing them in Santa Fe in 1999. Even if you've never, ever thought of bluegrass and you get the chance to see this band, do it! It is a musical experience that no music lover should miss...harmony, sweetness, silliness, musicalness beyond anything I've ever seen)
Posted by jay on April 8, 2004, at 9:03:18
In reply to All men are breast men, posted by Miss Honeychurch on April 5, 2004, at 22:26:35
A woman who has a lot of dynamic and especially compassion. Being smart helps too. ;-)
Jay
Posted by karen_kay on April 8, 2004, at 19:39:00
In reply to I like soft, graceful women, posted by jay on April 8, 2004, at 9:03:18
soft, soft you say. i'm jagged as a saw. i have a voice that can tear off wallpaper. it sounds as if i was raised drinking raw eggs (ick!) and smoking since i was born. and that's just my voice. my arms are so long, i look like an ape. monkey arms i call 'em, to match my monkey toes (oh no! back to the monkey toes!) i suppose i'd rather have long arms than short arms, but it gets fairly annoying when everyone (and i mean everyone) asks you "hey karen, can you pull this out behind the washer?" "hey karen, i dropped my book under a train, can you grab it since you have long arms?" "hey karen with the long arms, my sister is in florida, will you reach over and tap her on the shoulder for me?" and another thing, with my height, i'm the "go to girl" for pulling things off of the cabinet. and refrigerator. and saving cats from trees. and when people can't find things, they always assume i can, because "oh, you must be able to see everything because you are taller and therefore have a different perspective." huh? just because i can sometimes see over their heads? why don't you carry around a step-stool and every once in a while hop your short little body on top of it? enough about that... moving on.
grace. you mentioned grace. i lack grace. i embody the complete opposite of grace. i can barely walk without running into walls. in fact, just today i ran face first into the hallway. somehow, i misjudge the angle of the doorway by a good four feet. how is that? i have perfect vision. my feet (very large) are suited to fit my frame. so, why is it that i spend more time on the ground (all done, stop right there) than in an up-right position? and don't even get me started on dancing. sometimes, while i'm walking, if i begin to think about how i should be swinging my arms, i become distracted and confused and trip, as i'm never really sure i developed the correct "coordination" skills that everyone else seems to have developed. does anyone else have a problem swinging their arms while walking? if i think about it, i forget how i'm supposed to do it and i'm sure it looks rather odd. alas jay, i have no grace either.
point number 3. dynamic: oh, but i'm dynamic. give me that.
number 4. compassion. another plus for karen.
smart. hmmmm, in what way? care to ellaborate? i'm no brain surgeon, that's for sure. (or rocket scientist if you prefer), however i'm fairly smart if it suits me to be. i think intelligence can be measured in many different ways. life experiences, iq, perseptiveness, ect, ect, ect. my sister for instance. she's very intelligent (dean's list in a private university, full scholarship). however, she lacks common sense. now, i'd marry this girl, if she weren't my sister, just because i fear she needs someone to look after her. she thought eggs came from pigs for crying out loud. but, she'd kick my butt any day on an iq test. though, she's the most caring person in the world and she's always good for a laugh. (also, she doesn't mind that we poke fun at her either! that's a plus!)
Posted by simus on April 8, 2004, at 22:56:36
In reply to well jay, don't look at me... » jay, posted by karen_kay on April 8, 2004, at 19:39:00
Karen - you are a hoot! Thanks for the laugh.
You certainly make up for the lack of "softness" with your sense of humor! By the way, I have softness in abundance, thanks to nine years on antidepressants. And I'm here to tell you it ain't all it's cracked up to be. Funny, but it seems that theater seats used to be soooo much wider when I was a teenager...
Posted by jay on April 9, 2004, at 2:38:12
In reply to well jay, don't look at me... » jay, posted by karen_kay on April 8, 2004, at 19:39:00
> soft, soft you say. I'm jagged as a saw. i have a voice that can tear off wallpaper. it sounds as if i was raised drinking raw eggs (ick!) and smoking since i was born. and that's just my voice. my arms are so long, i look like an ape. monkey arms i call 'em, to match my monkey toes (oh no! back to the monkey toes!) i suppose i'd rather have long arms than short arms, but it gets fairly annoying when everyone (and i mean everyone) asks you "hey karen, can you pull this out behind the washer?" "hey karen, i dropped my book under a train, can you grab it since you have long arms?" "hey karen with the long arms, my sister is in florida, will you reach over and tap her on the shoulder for me?" and another thing, with my height, i'm the "go to girl" for pulling things off of the cabinet. and refrigerator. and saving cats from trees. and when people can't find things, they always assume i can, because "oh, you must be able to see everything because you are taller and therefore have a different perspective." huh? just because i can sometimes see over their heads? why don't you carry around a step-stool and every once in a while hop your short little body on top of it? enough about that... moving on.
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Oy oy!! Do I have to explain *everything*..lol :) What I mean...is in your actions..your styles...do you yell or are gentle? I mean..most of us yell once in a while...but the voice..see I tend to be a bit quieter, and if you dress me up and take me out, I am a happy-go-lucky kinda guy. I have gentle mannerisms...I believe very strongly in being polite..bada..bada..bada..
> grace. you mentioned grace. i lack grace. i embody the complete opposite of grace. i can barely walk without running into walls. in fact, just today i ran face first into the hallway. somehow, i misjudge the angle of the doorway by a good four feet. how is that? i have perfect vision. my feet (very large) are suited to fit my frame. so, why is it that i spend more time on the ground (all done, stop right there) than in an up-right position? and don't even get me started on dancing. sometimes, while I'm walking, if i begin to think about how i should be swinging my arms, i become distracted and confused and trip, as I'm never really sure i developed the correct "coordination" skills that everyone else seems to have developed. does anyone else have a problem swinging their arms while walking? if i think about it, i forget how I'm supposed to do it and I'm sure it looks rather odd. alas jay, i have no grace either.
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Hey..look...I spent most of my childhood in special-ed, a really clumsy guy. I now have two college degrees. But, that is why I am not hyper-active...I take my time...and I listen to every single word someone says. Being graceful and gentle seem to go hand in hand...so I still don't think you know exactly what I mean. Think...think...think Karen..:)> point number 3. dynamic: oh, but I'm dynamic. give me that.
As in??????
> number 4. compassion. another plus for karen.OK..so you are walking down the street in a busy downtown...would you shell out some change for a kind stranger? (say like a young, non-threatening girl or something?)
> smart. hmmmm, in what way? care to ellaborate? I'm no brain surgeon, that's for sure. (or rocket scientist if you prefer), however I'm fairly smart if it suits me to be. i think intelligence can be measured in many different ways. life experiences, iq, perseptiveness, ect, ect, ect. my sister for instance. she's very intelligent (dean's list in a private university, full scholarship). however, she lacks common sense. now, i'd marry this girl, if she weren't my sister, just because i fear she needs someone to look after her. she thought eggs came from pigs for crying out loud. but, she'd kick my butt any day on an iq test. though, she's the most caring person in the world and she's always good for a laugh. (also, she doesn't mind that we poke fun at her either! that's a plus!)
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Ugghh..by IQ I don't just mean much in the 'smarts' department. What I am talking about is being able to understand your basics...Plato and Socrates and Epicurus and Hedonism and maybe some Skepticism and some Conflict Theorists (like s*rew the greedy, etc.) and Existentialism...in a nutshell. I don't mean you have to *know* what it is all about...but be able to relate to it. That is a part of Emotional Intelligence, which I value more than IQ.So think about these my dear....think really hard. Oh ya..do you like any of those 'electronica' bands, like Enigma, that are now bands like Delerium and such? Or are you too young for that. ;-)
Hehee..
Peace and more Peace...
Jay
Posted by gardenergirl on April 9, 2004, at 8:37:02
In reply to well jay, don't look at me... » jay, posted by karen_kay on April 8, 2004, at 19:39:00
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> grace. you mentioned grace. i lack grace. i embody the complete opposite of grace. i can barely walk without running into walls. in fact, just today i ran face first into the hallway. somehow, i misjudge the angle of the doorway by a good four feet. ... sometimes, while i'm walking, if i begin to think about how i should be swinging my arms, i become distracted and confused and trip, as i'm never really sure i developed the correct "coordination" skills that everyone else seems to have developed. does anyone else have a problem swinging their arms while walking?I thought I was the only only who did these things!!!!! I once was walking carrying a bowl of ice cream with chocolate sauce and turned the wrong way, smashed into the wall, dropped the bowl (face-down, of course!) and took a big chunk out of the wall. My poor husband came dashing out of the office, and I was on the floor laughing til I was crying. Poor guy, he was so confused.
I believe I have inner grace, but outwardly--total Spaz!
gg
Posted by karen_kay on April 9, 2004, at 13:50:16
In reply to K.k...you ain't getting out of this one easy..:-) » karen_kay, posted by jay on April 9, 2004, at 2:38:12
i was trying to turn this back into a sort of humorous post once again but now i somehow feel the need to become serious again. ok, i suppose if i must, i must....
my action, my style (as you call it)... hmmm, i thought and pondered this for about 30 seconds. and i don't think i'm neither gentle nor soft enough. i don't yell. (i do however cackle when something is funny). i'm a 'touchy feely' type of person at times, but mostly to strangers, not to people i'm close to. i like to touch strangers' hands and arms, but not in a flirty way. more in a sort of polite, please get in front of me, you don't have many items sort of way. and yes, i always let people in front of me at the grocery. Always. i'm in no hurry. and i'm never, ever rude to wait staff. and i always talk to my postal carrier. everyday in fact. she tries to guess how much my bills are. my dog loves her, so she must be a wonderful person. and i smile at everyone i pass on the street, why wouldn't you? and telemarketers are my favorite. i like when they call. some people consider them annoying. i enjoy the conversation. if you talk to them, they will talk back. give it a try sometime. i was a telemarketer for a while. i enjoyed it. one lady asked for a cd because her husband was dying and he just loved the artist and she couldn't afford it. i told her to get it and make a copy on analog and send it back, that we'd pay for the shipping. it's amazing how you can connect with people. is this being polite? hardly. it's not nearly enough, compared to what i could be doing with my life dear. wasting time, that's what i'm doing.... (dear me, am i complaining again? :) *i'm good enough, smart enough and people like me!!!!
about grace and listening..... i like to think i listen. i adore listening to people talk. i like to believe that i'm perseptive in that i pick up on what i think people need and want to hear. however, i'm not so great at telling them that. i just love hearing people talk about what they've learned. and what they think and feel. and know. or think they know. i could listen to someone talk forever, without adding in my own input, as i really don't always feel i have much to say. what i don't like is listening to someone beat themselves up. especially when i know in my heart that all people are good people. and i really dislike hearing someone try to tell me otherwise. it just really hurts me to hear someone say that they think bad thoughts about themselves or other people. i almost take it as a personal attack on my character, since i feel that everyone is good, that we are all amazing.
now, i don't take my time when i do anything and i always blurt things out, but not when it really matters. and i think that when i blurt things, it comes from my heart. and since i honestly believe i have a very good heart, i don't fall short. i always have the best intentions. this is very true.
about dynamics: as in energy? or do you mean a dynamic personality, as in changing or have many sides? what's your definition? i'd take that meaning to be that i have many sides. now i could be wrong in assuming that is what you meant. and if so, poor karen has a red face. ok, maybe not. do explain if i'm incorrect, as i'm always up for a little enlightenment as well....
i think that i have many sides to my personality. (i am dx with bipolar disorder, you know) i think that can be seen on the boards and would rather not be boastful about how very wonderful i am here. i wouldn't want to make anyone feel inferior you know :)
about compassion: why would it have to be a non-threatening girl? that's curious you said that. when someone's pulled over on the road, i always offer a ride. no question. call me dangerous, but in the past, people have done the same for me and it's my opportunity to pay it back. and if i have money on me, yes, i'd give it out i a heartbeat. regardless of whether the person asking is male or female. threatening or nonthreatening. is there a such thing as threatening? people are people dear. i wouldn't assume someone is threatening looking because he was male. (i hope this doesn't sound the least bit like i'm at all annoyed with you darling. i'm still madly in love with you)Existentialism you say? now i'm head over heels in love with you.... we should talk more. i'm listening. do you read albert camus? existentialism i grasp, possibly endorse. still questioning though. it's ok to question, isn't it? i don't (regrettably) read much Plato or Homer or Socrates, though i know i should. i've read a few things but only as required for the few philosophy classes i have under my belt. i would love to be a philosophy major, but what in the world would i do with that? sit around and think all the time? that's certainly not healthy for me. and i believe at this point, i'm a good person, (for the most part) so more philosophy classes would only make me question more that what i'm doing at this point just isn't nearly enough, feel me? and i struggle with that daily...
so, emotional intelligence, hmmmm. how'd you rate me on that one? i'd say about a potential to do 10, yet i only do about a 4.... quite sad isn't it?
electronica bands.... nope, must be too young. sorry jay. thanks for making me think about things. now, if i can only put the positive spin on myself like i seem to do with everything else, huh? if we are only here to learn (as i think) what am i missing???? can someone point it out to me???? arg!
Posted by karen_kay on April 9, 2004, at 14:41:30
In reply to jay, can't you let me out just once? » jay, posted by karen_kay on April 9, 2004, at 13:50:16
*and i don't think i'm neither gentle nor soft enough
so, that makes me gentle and soft enough! i knew i had to be wrong..... unless i'm wrong now and this isn't a double negative. any english majors out here? is this or is this not a double negative? or just awkward wording.....
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