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Posted by jinglebts on September 22, 2003, at 19:42:11
my husband has ADD and has periods of extreme arrogance with me ... been married 20 years, ADD got worse, thus arrogance got worse, and i'm ready to leave now -- REALLY ... we'll get another marriage counselling session (his suggestion), but i don't think it'll do any good ...
i'm 58, on disability, my husband was just laid off from a very lucrative job (computers), he'll surely get another one, but i'm really fed up -- he humiliates me, you know?
because i want some sort of LIFE before i kick the mortal coil, a year ago i gave him two years to get his act together and stop making me sick -- so far, my resolve is steeled even more to leave (altho' no one understands why -- in company, you see, he's so kind to me) ...
i just want to make some sort of statement to the ether, that i'm FED UP, AND WON'T BE TREATED LIKE THIS ANY MORE (the movie Network, if you've seen it)...
Posted by fallsfall on September 23, 2003, at 8:02:20
In reply to Re: husband w/ADD -- he's SO arrogant!, posted by jinglebts on September 22, 2003, at 19:42:11
I remember that movie. Time to rent it again.
I'm sorry things are so hard for you right now. Counseling does sound like the best bet. I'm hoping that the marriage is worth some effort on both of you parts to save it.
Good luck
Posted by jinglebts on September 26, 2003, at 16:31:40
In reply to Re: husband w/ADD -- he's SO arrogant! » jinglebts, posted by fallsfall on September 23, 2003, at 8:02:20
we are so unhappy, esp. after i was banned from healthboards.com and he got angry at me, he's angry at everything i do or say, and i've had to turn to this new board, dr. bob -- i hope it works out, this board, because i have one friend who knows of my truly dire state and that's it .. mum and dad dead, my beloved Nannie gone, i'm so HURT!!
i broke my hip in may, and as soon as i'm able i'll go to my daughter's in another city for a few days, but even SHE doesn't know the seriousness of it ... he slays me with his words, just slashes, with a calm exterior, i can't break thru' the carapace now ... oh dammit-all-to-hell!!!...
Posted by fallsfall on September 26, 2003, at 22:18:48
In reply to Re: husband w/ADD -- he's SO arrogant!, posted by jinglebts on September 22, 2003, at 19:42:11
You might consider individual counseling for yourself in addition to marriage counseling. In individual counseling you can explore how to tolerate his treatment of you, or whether to leave. I have done both individual and marriage counseling. In individual counseling I knew that the therapist was interested in only my best interests. In marriage counseling you have to share the therapist. It sounds to me like you could use someone who is on your side.
Good luck.
Posted by jinglebts on September 26, 2003, at 23:07:07
In reply to Re: husband w/ADD -- he's SO arrogant! » jinglebts, posted by fallsfall on September 26, 2003, at 22:18:48
Subject: banning and urlslast nite i entered a new thread (i thought) because i'd been banned from healthboards.com, and according to their own policies shouldn't
have been ... furthermore i was banned w/o warning for posting what i thought was a perfectly innocent question regarding the use of
non-advertising URLs -- allowed or not?one of the moderators should have warned me, altho' it runs counter to their own policies ... i should not have just been banned w/o a warning, should i?
i can't start a new thread either, altho' i'm running netscape 7.2 and mac os 9.1 ...
a very sad jinglebts :(
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 28, 2003, at 21:57:58
In reply to banned from healthboards.com and i don't know why!, posted by jinglebts on September 26, 2003, at 23:07:07
> i should not have just been banned w/o a warning, should i?
You wouldn't have been here, but different boards have different ways of doing things...
> i can't start a new thread either
What happens when you try?
Bob
Posted by jinglebts on September 28, 2003, at 22:12:49
In reply to Re: banned from healthboards.com, posted by Dr. Bob on September 28, 2003, at 21:57:58
> > i can't start a new thread either
>
> What happens when you try?
>
> Bobi click on the "new thread" button, the button is outlined to show it's been clicked, and the N at the top right of the screen shows no activity, as it should when it's searching for something ... i've tried this many times, not just once, and waited a few minutes each time ...
thanks
jb
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 29, 2003, at 18:18:37
In reply to Re: banned from healthboards.com » Dr. Bob, posted by jinglebts on September 28, 2003, at 22:12:49
> i click on the "new thread" button, the button is outlined to show it's been clicked, and the N at the top right of the screen shows no activity, as it should when it's searching for something ...
You checked your Advanced > Scripts & Plugins preferences in Netscape?
Bob
Posted by yabba on October 2, 2003, at 0:20:21
In reply to Re: husband w/ADD -- he's SO arrogant!, posted by jinglebts on September 22, 2003, at 19:42:11
ADD is hard for someone to cope with. He probobly already beats himself up for not being able to keep his job etc. (people with ADD tend to beat themselves up more then normal) and that might be why he acts arrogantly towards you. He's trying to hide the shame he feels.
Posted by jinglebts on October 2, 2003, at 1:31:30
In reply to Re: husband w/ADD -- he's SO arrogant!, posted by yabba on October 2, 2003, at 0:20:21
you are so right about that, and that's why i stay and keep trying -- he beats himself up about everything (he has family issues too), but sometimes he's great -- the funniest guy alive ... i hope we don't break up ...
thanks for understanding, and for reinforcing what i already knew ...
jb
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