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Posted by fallsfall on July 16, 2003, at 21:35:23
I am feeling flat and unmotivated. I don't quite know what to do about it.
My daughter is away at camp, so I am home alone. I have been known to isolate. I'm trying not to. Today I went to a movie with a friend. Tomorrow I see a different friend. But, I am not thinking of things that I *want* to do, nor people I *want* to see.
I have done a little cleaning - my kitchen is clean (BOTH counters). I vacuumed 3/4 of the first floor today (first time I've done that in 1 1/2 years). I had hoped to have more done by now, while she's not here to mess it up.
And, of course, I've changed therapists. The new one is very different (Psychodynamic instead of CBT, male instead of female, Him instead of Her). I think he's fine, but it is different. I'm starting to miss my old therapist - I miss her comfort, I miss knowing what the rules were, I miss her knowing what things meant to me (or at least I thought she did - my fantasy says she did).
Maybe there are just too many things that are different this week.
Posted by Tabitha on July 17, 2003, at 1:07:18
In reply to Flat and Unmotivated., posted by fallsfall on July 16, 2003, at 21:35:23
Dunno, Falls, that sounds like a lot to me. To do a social thing, clean the kitchen and floor, and change therapists. Maybe you don't feel very motivated, but you're accomplishing things anyway.
Posted by Dinah on July 17, 2003, at 8:34:12
In reply to Flat and Unmotivated., posted by fallsfall on July 16, 2003, at 21:35:23
Tabitha is right. It sounds as if you're "doing" fine. But I'm not a huge fan of change either. Not even good change. But your daughter will be back soon, so home won't feel different anymore. And grieving your old therapist is only natural. I keep going to the same hair stylist because I know where the shampoo women are, and how payment is expected to be made. The shift to a different therapist, and one with a different orientation at that, is bound to be a bit disconcerting at first. But it'll quickly become routine.
Posted by Penny on July 17, 2003, at 8:45:35
In reply to Flat and Unmotivated., posted by fallsfall on July 16, 2003, at 21:35:23
(((fallsfall)))
It does sound as though you are accomplishing quite a bit despite a seeming lack of motivation. Try to not be too hard on yourself. A great deal of change at one time can throw us completely off kilter and send us spinning.
Boy, do I know about grieving the loss of the therapist, even though my leaving wasn't like yours. It just takes time, like any other grieving process. Certainly fodder for your current therapy sessions, especially with the conflict over how you feel now versus why you left her.
Much love to you.
P
Posted by yesac on July 17, 2003, at 9:28:46
In reply to Flat and Unmotivated., posted by fallsfall on July 16, 2003, at 21:35:23
I agree with everyone. It seems like you're getting a lot done. I think you should congratulate yourself for that, you know, focus on the positive and all that.
Do you usually feel motivated - is this unusual to feel the way you do right now?
And, as you probably know, I'm where you are with the changing therapists thing, so I'm not even gonna get into it for now.
Posted by fallsfall on July 17, 2003, at 17:32:51
In reply to Re: Flat and Unmotivated. » fallsfall, posted by yesac on July 17, 2003, at 9:28:46
OK. I'll try to be positive and patient.
I'll accept that the stuff I am doing is good.
I'm trying to accept that the reason I chose Him is that he's different than She is.
I shall try.
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