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Posted by yesac on June 22, 2003, at 14:30:33
Okay, I'm getting a bit paranoid about this whole name change issue. It seems like there has been a lot of talk lately about name changes and cryptic messages and secretive relationships, etc.
Maybe no one really cares, but I would like to just explain myself... Yes, I did changed my name last week, but I want to say that it really has nothing to do with the board. It's because my old name was a rather obvious name for people who know me to figure out, and I'd rather not have them stumble upon all this info about me. I like the relative anonymity of the board, but being able to share and get support about such deeply personal issues.
Anyways, so I was not trying to be deceptive or anything like that. I'm not trying to alienate people or make anyone feel dumb for not being able to figure out my old name or annoyed if they do figure out my old name!
That's just me. I don't know about other name-changers, but I would think/hope that most people have decent motivations for doing so.
Posted by justyourlaugh on June 22, 2003, at 15:10:42
In reply to I want to clarify something, posted by yesac on June 22, 2003, at 14:30:33
i have no idea who you are?
its pretyy scary when i type my name in a search and "there i am"...you seem worried about toe stepping?
mine are find, as most of us know the drill and how far we want to "share".i have been enjoying (is that the right word?)
your posts and never needed clarifacation:)
j
Posted by Brio D Chimp on June 22, 2003, at 16:31:07
In reply to I want to clarify something, posted by yesac on June 22, 2003, at 14:30:33
ds but it's pretty easy to figure out if youre really wanted to hide out you might want to change it some more
> Okay, I'm getting a bit paranoid about this whole name change issue. It seems like there has been a lot of talk lately about name changes and cryptic messages and secretive relationships, etc.
>
> Maybe no one really cares, but I would like to just explain myself... Yes, I did changed my name last week, but I want to say that it really has nothing to do with the board. It's because my old name was a rather obvious name for people who know me to figure out, and I'd rather not have them stumble upon all this info about me. I like the relative anonymity of the board, but being able to share and get support about such deeply personal issues.
>
> Anyways, so I was not trying to be deceptive or anything like that. I'm not trying to alienate people or make anyone feel dumb for not being able to figure out my old name or annoyed if they do figure out my old name!
>
> That's just me. I don't know about other name-changers, but I would think/hope that most people have decent motivations for doing so.
Posted by noa on June 22, 2003, at 21:22:19
In reply to Nothing wrong with wearing your underwear backwar » yesac, posted by Brio D Chimp on June 22, 2003, at 16:31:07
I didn't mind at all your name change, although I think I agree that it is easy to figure out -- that is, if I'm correct on who you are.
There have been others here who changed their names for similar reasons. Don't fret it. :-)
Posted by yesac on June 23, 2003, at 11:22:20
In reply to Re: Nothing wrong with wearing your underwear backwar, posted by noa on June 22, 2003, at 21:22:19
> I didn't mind at all your name change, although I think I agree that it is easy to figure out -- that is, if I'm correct on who you are.
>
> There have been others here who changed their names for similar reasons. Don't fret it. :-)I know it's easy to figure out... I sort of wanted it that way so that you guys (pb people) could get it but hopefully not my off-board friends/family! Although... I'm sure my family could figure it out with it being their last name too. Less concerned about them than others.
Posted by shar on June 23, 2003, at 19:00:10
In reply to Re: Nothing wrong with wearing your... Brio, Noa, posted by yesac on June 23, 2003, at 11:22:20
Well, I don't know who is old and who is new here. If I know a poster by one name and that person disappears, they are lost to me. I guess for me, I have a relationship with ABCD and when ABCD is gone, that's it. I may establish a relationship with their new identity, or may not. I guess it would depend on whether they are writing in a thread I'm also posting to and we find we have something that connects us.
I am clueless about who the new names are. And, I regret that, it's sort of like losing a friend. But, if someone wants to change their posting name, it doesn't matter to me beyond whatever loss I might feel at losing a friend.
Wait.....I did figure out when dreamerz changed her name. With her very distinct posting style, combined with the absence of posts from dreamerz, it dawned on me one day that it might be the same person.
Shar
Posted by Dinah on June 23, 2003, at 19:59:38
In reply to Anyone join me on the clueless couch?, posted by shar on June 23, 2003, at 19:00:10
((Shar))
I'm sorry. That clueless feeling stinks.
You're right about Dreamer's distinctive style, but she also announced the change. I guess unless you read every post like I do, it's possible to miss an announcement.
Posted by noa on June 23, 2003, at 20:58:25
In reply to Re: Anyone join me on the clueless couch? » shar, posted by Dinah on June 23, 2003, at 19:59:38
OK, shall we vie for the most clueless? I didn't pick up on Dreamerz name change. I thought she was just taking a break from the board. Now I feel like a dolt!
Posted by slinky on June 23, 2003, at 22:11:11
In reply to Re: Anyone join me on the clueless couch?, posted by noa on June 23, 2003, at 20:58:25
Yes..I changed my name because someone knows I use this site, I thought he may be spying on me--I was probably paranoid..better be safe than sorry.
Now I'm not sure who's who , I've think I've worked out 2 posters.
I'm not replying much lately due to lack of energy , so I'm definately lying down lazily on the clueless couch.
Posted by Emme on June 23, 2003, at 22:37:31
In reply to Anyone join me on the clueless couch?, posted by shar on June 23, 2003, at 19:00:10
I'm way clueless about the name changes. Can't keep track....
Posted by Sabina on June 24, 2003, at 0:16:51
In reply to Re: Anyone join me on the clueless couch?, posted by Emme on June 23, 2003, at 22:37:31
It's strange for a newcomer like me to notice how many words are spent on speculation of posters' identities and agendas compared to actual socialising. Not a complaint, mind, just an observation. I'm gearing up to take away the veil and post an introduction on the next day my self esteem isn't on crutches.
Posted by yesac on June 24, 2003, at 11:39:12
In reply to Re: observation from my clueless couch, posted by Sabina on June 24, 2003, at 0:16:51
> It's strange for a newcomer like me to notice how many words are spent on speculation of posters' identities and agendas compared to actual socialising. Not a complaint, mind, just an observation. I'm gearing up to take away the veil and post an introduction on the next day my self esteem isn't on crutches.
I don't know if it's such a usual thing or just happening a lot recently. I've been on the board for almost 3 months and this is the first time it's come up since then (I think).
Posted by yesac on June 24, 2003, at 11:57:43
In reply to Re: Anyone join me on the clueless couch?, posted by slinky on June 23, 2003, at 22:11:11
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> Yes..I changed my name because someone knows I use this site, I thought he may be spying on me--I was probably paranoid..better be safe than sorry.Yeah, exact same for me. I actually saw the person once reading the site, and ever since then it made me really uncomfortable thinking of him reading all of my posts. He still could be, possibly having figured out my new name, but I don't know. Don't want to change it again. Plus, anyone reading any of my posts who was somewhat familiar with me, no matter what my name was, could probably figure it out. I guess I just have to take that chance if I want to stay on the site.
Posted by Brio D Chimp on June 24, 2003, at 14:08:28
In reply to Re: observation from my clueless couch, posted by Sabina on June 24, 2003, at 0:16:51
I don't care who guesses my old name although I don't think I have any obligation to deny or confirm. I had hesitated to change it before because I thought it would be confusing but since it became apparent that it's happening all the time I went ahead. It's kind of like the rules (as I had mistakenly discerned them) had changed but at least it's out in the open now. And it's a good reminder to me that all is not as it seems. And that is a good thing for me-I was becoming too comfortable and forgot how very public and at the same time shadowy these places are. Since Dr Bob never deletes posts I think it also a good idea to change names if you accidentally post info that could identify you to some unknown lurker or acquaintance who happened on to it to prevent them from stalking you by google. I know that sounds a little paranoid but it does happen.
> It's strange for a newcomer like me to notice how many words are spent on speculation of posters' identities and agendas compared to actual socialising. Not a complaint, mind, just an observation. I'm gearing up to take away the veil and post an introduction on the next day my self esteem isn't on crutches.
Posted by yesac on June 24, 2003, at 14:27:59
In reply to Re: observation from my clueless couch, posted by Brio D Chimp on June 24, 2003, at 14:08:28
> I don't care who guesses my old name although I don't think I have any obligation to deny or confirm.
I certainly don't think I have an obligation, but if someone came right out and asked, I would probably answer. BUT! Possibly not if it was in the subject line. I'd rather have it be "hidden" in the actual posting.
Posted by yesac on June 24, 2003, at 14:31:17
In reply to Re: observation from my clueless couch, posted by Brio D Chimp on June 24, 2003, at 14:08:28
> I was becoming too comfortable and forgot how very public and at the same time shadowy these places are. Since Dr Bob never deletes posts I think it also a good idea to change names if you accidentally post info that could identify you to some unknown lurker or acquaintance who happened on to it to prevent them from stalking you by google. I know that sounds a little paranoid but it does happen.
Kind of scary really. It really is so public. We are all basically exposing ourselves to the whole world, anyone who happens to stumble upon this.
Posted by noa on June 24, 2003, at 22:26:37
In reply to Re: observation from my clueless couch » Sabina, posted by yesac on June 24, 2003, at 11:39:12
Been here on and off for 4 years--I've seen some name changes on occasion, but the attention to it and discussion about it seems a new phenom. Not that it matters, I guess.
Posted by noa on June 24, 2003, at 22:28:39
In reply to Re: observation from my clueless couch » Brio D Chimp, posted by yesac on June 24, 2003, at 14:31:17
> Kind of scary really. It really is so public. We are all basically exposing ourselves to the whole world, anyone who happens to stumble upon this.
Yup. This here is a published document that lives on in perpetuity. But it can be "seductive" to feel like it is a private conversation. Have to keep that in mind.
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