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Posted by paxvox on May 7, 2003, at 20:41:50
OK, so yesterday, after 8 years of trying to get my wife to agree to marriage counseling, she comes home and says "I made an appointment next Monday at 4:00". Then she handed me a card with some therapist's name on it ,and I said "for what?" and she answered "marriage counseling". Well, I had an appointment with my counselor already scheduled at 3:00 on Monday, but it took me about 4 seconds to run all that through my mind, and to make sure I heard her correctly. Of course, I then quickly said "sure". I called my guy today to reschedule. Soooooooo..........anyone who knows me here, or has read my posts, PLEASE keep your fingers crossed for me that nothing happens between now and 4:00 Monday afternoon to change my wife's mind. Now, as to that other shoe.......hope it doesn't drop.
PAX
Posted by justyourlaugh on May 7, 2003, at 20:58:06
In reply to Other Shoe...and assorted shrubbery, posted by paxvox on May 7, 2003, at 20:41:50
pax,
best of luck at changing into two pairs of fuzzy warm bunny slippers.
j
Posted by Dinah on May 7, 2003, at 21:02:13
In reply to Other Shoe...and assorted shrubbery, posted by paxvox on May 7, 2003, at 20:41:50
Posted by mair on May 7, 2003, at 22:10:54
In reply to Other Shoe...and assorted shrubbery, posted by paxvox on May 7, 2003, at 20:41:50
Posted by ~Alii~ on May 7, 2003, at 23:02:16
In reply to Other Shoe...and assorted shrubbery, posted by paxvox on May 7, 2003, at 20:41:50
Paxorama,
As always you are in my heart and I will send energy your way for a positive outcome for this current loop your wife threw ya.
Fingers and toes crossed. Keep taking care of yourself and your daughter(s) through all this. You first, A. second, other daughter third and lastly wife. That is how I see it. If you aren't taking care of yourself then you won't be able to take care of the rest of the family.
So Paxster first and then onto the rest on your plate.
My prayers are with you and your family dear Pax.
~A.
Posted by shar on May 7, 2003, at 23:13:04
In reply to Other Shoe...and assorted shrubbery, posted by paxvox on May 7, 2003, at 20:41:50
Posted by leeran on May 8, 2003, at 0:51:44
In reply to Other Shoe...and assorted shrubbery, posted by paxvox on May 7, 2003, at 20:41:50
Paxvox,
I'm so happy to hear that your wife made this move back toward your marriage!
Best wishes between now and Monday (and beyond).
Lee
Posted by noa on May 8, 2003, at 20:17:02
In reply to Other Shoe...and assorted shrubbery, posted by paxvox on May 7, 2003, at 20:41:50
WOW! Good luck. Keep us posted.
Posted by paxvox on May 9, 2003, at 16:48:34
In reply to Re: Other Shoe...and assorted shrubbery » paxvox, posted by noa on May 8, 2003, at 20:17:02
Thanks for that great support, ya'll. It's good to know that there's "somebody" out there to cheer me on during this turbulence. I'm happy to be associated with you fine folks!
PAX
Posted by ~Alii~ on May 12, 2003, at 11:47:39
In reply to Re: Other Shoe...and assorted shrubbery, posted by paxvox on May 9, 2003, at 16:48:34
> Thanks for that great support, ya'll. It's good to know that there's "somebody" out there to cheer me on during this turbulence. I'm happy to be associated with you fine folks!
>
> PAXStax of Pax, Paxola, Paxster...shall I go on? ; )
Am thinking of you and your family today dear Pax. Even with the unreal situation I have to go deal with today you are in my heart. I pray this is a positive healing step for you and your spouse.
Lovingly and with hope for you,
Alii
Posted by paxvox on May 13, 2003, at 16:21:00
In reply to Please let us know how today goes » paxvox, posted by ~Alii~ on May 12, 2003, at 11:47:39
Ya'll,
Seems like we MIGHT have a winner here! Had our first meeting, and things went pretty well. We are looking at once-weekly appointments. I hope that she decides to stick with it. It was an emotionally draining experience for her to say the least. The counselor said I was "right on" as to my evaluation of my wife's psychological disposition, but said that it was NOT GOOD to try to analyize her myself. Well, OK, I can see that, but it was good to have my feelings validated in some off-hand sort of manner. This could be a major change in our life direction if I can keep her going to the meetings, and if she applies what she "discovers" about herself and her interactions with me. Thanks to all for your concern and support. I can't believe it has taken me 8 years to get to this point. Hopefully, it won't take that long for us to move ahead. So much wasted time, so many wasted joys, so much suffering and pain. But I have to stay focused now on the present and the future, the "past" is just that.
Cheers,
PAX
Posted by shar on May 13, 2003, at 22:10:14
In reply to Re: Please let us know how today goes, posted by paxvox on May 13, 2003, at 16:21:00
Posted by Greg on May 14, 2003, at 6:53:49
In reply to Re: Please let us know how today goes, posted by paxvox on May 13, 2003, at 16:21:00
Pax,
Been following your posts and this is definitely great news! It took time for things to get where they are now, and it will take time and hard work to make them better. Baby steps Pax, baby steps.
My thoughts and good wishes are with you.
Greg
> Ya'll,
>
> Seems like we MIGHT have a winner here! Had our first meeting, and things went pretty well. We are looking at once-weekly appointments. I hope that she decides to stick with it. It was an emotionally draining experience for her to say the least. The counselor said I was "right on" as to my evaluation of my wife's psychological disposition, but said that it was NOT GOOD to try to analyize her myself. Well, OK, I can see that, but it was good to have my feelings validated in some off-hand sort of manner. This could be a major change in our life direction if I can keep her going to the meetings, and if she applies what she "discovers" about herself and her interactions with me. Thanks to all for your concern and support. I can't believe it has taken me 8 years to get to this point. Hopefully, it won't take that long for us to move ahead. So much wasted time, so many wasted joys, so much suffering and pain. But I have to stay focused now on the present and the future, the "past" is just that.
>
> Cheers,
>
> PAX
Posted by wendy b. on May 14, 2003, at 7:52:36
In reply to Re: Please let us know how today goes, posted by paxvox on May 13, 2003, at 16:21:00
I am so relieved, Pax. You are so special, and the hopes you have had for her and for her relationship show what a good man can be; you're an example to all of us, really...
I think the therapist said that more for your wife's benefit than for yours... Of course you are right about the situation, but the therapist cannot seem to be taking sides. So rest assured that you are on the right course. Does the therp seem to be skilled at these kinds of problems? It's a very delicate situation, and your wife may try to turn and run away from it eventually (when the going gets tough, as it will get), so I just cross my fingers and light some candles, and hope you are going to see real results, and that your wife can get to the other side of her trauma-filled past...much love,
W.
Posted by Dinah on May 14, 2003, at 16:06:40
In reply to Re: Please let us know how today goes, posted by paxvox on May 13, 2003, at 16:21:00
Posted by leeran on May 14, 2003, at 16:50:28
In reply to Other Shoe...and assorted shrubbery, posted by paxvox on May 7, 2003, at 20:41:50
Posted by noa on May 14, 2003, at 17:57:44
In reply to Re: That's a promising start. I'm happy for you. (nm) » paxvox, posted by Dinah on May 14, 2003, at 16:06:40
Me too.
Posted by paxvox on May 14, 2003, at 20:13:27
In reply to Re: That's a promising start. I'm happy for you. , posted by noa on May 14, 2003, at 17:57:44
Thanks all for your warm wishes and thoughts for my family and me, it is appreciated. It will be a long road, and it may have some u-turns and dead ends. It's my hope that my wife will stick with it even when the going gets rougher. It's been 8 years to this, so I can be patient as long as she keeps going to the sessions.
PAXVOX
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