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Posted by noa on April 30, 2003, at 16:49:03
Sorry I haven't posted much lately. I was away, but since getting back, I have been reading all of your posts in the past couple of days and am fascinated, inspired, sympathetic, but just totally out of steam to reply right now.
I'm fine, just tired. But didn't want you to think I was ignoring anyone.
"with you in spirit",
Noa
Posted by Dinah on April 30, 2003, at 16:58:54
In reply to Hi, all, posted by noa on April 30, 2003, at 16:49:03
Take time to take care of yourself, Noa. You give of yourself a lot, and need to replenish from time to time, I'm sure.
Take care,
Dinah
Posted by Greg on April 30, 2003, at 17:00:18
In reply to Hi, all, posted by noa on April 30, 2003, at 16:49:03
Hey Noa,
Glad you're back, hope you're resting, and I REALLY hope everything went well on your trip. Let us know when you're feeling up to it.
Greg
Posted by NikkiT2 on April 30, 2003, at 17:14:37
In reply to Re: Hi, all » noa, posted by Greg on April 30, 2003, at 17:00:18
Hope all went well on your trip, and mum and dad are feeling brighter..
Update us when you have the strength and time
Nikki xx
Posted by shar on April 30, 2003, at 20:15:50
In reply to Re: Hi, all » Greg, posted by NikkiT2 on April 30, 2003, at 17:14:37
Posted by tina on May 1, 2003, at 9:18:43
In reply to Re: Hi, all » Greg, posted by NikkiT2 on April 30, 2003, at 17:14:37
Rest and relax Noa. We'll be here when you're ready.
hugs
tina
Posted by daizy on May 1, 2003, at 15:22:55
In reply to Hi, all, posted by noa on April 30, 2003, at 16:49:03
> Sorry I haven't posted much lately. I was away, but since getting back, I have been reading all of your posts in the past couple of days and am fascinated, inspired, sympathetic, but just totally out of steam to reply right now.
>
> I'm fine, just tired. But didn't want you to think I was ignoring anyone.
>
> "with you in spirit",
>
> Noa
>
>Hi Noa, and everyone else, I have been lingering and not really posting much, hoping everyone is as well as can be xxx
Posted by noa on May 1, 2003, at 19:19:51
In reply to Re: Hi, all(from me too!), posted by daizy on May 1, 2003, at 15:22:55
Hi, all.
I'm here, and have done some posting today. The reading here has been amazing. It is hard to catch up on everything. So much happens so quickly. And this past week, there has been some amazing writing and disclosures, etc. I am touched by it all.
Mom is getting a bit better each day, but with some set backs here and there. Now she is having second thoughts about the operation, as her regular osteo doc came back from vacation and is recommending against it, or at least to delay a bit. She isn't saying no to it altogether, and in fact got permission from my mom to talk to the surgeon to check some things out about it. It is just that she hasn't seen it that successful in her other patients who got it.
In the meantime, I learned the reason the Fosomax failed her after all these successful years. Apparently, it is found to be successful for about 5 years, maybe six. It starts losing effectiveness at that point for whatever reason (boy this sounds familiar to many of us, no?). But apparently there are some new meds coming out. Mom spoke with the son of a family friend whom she just learned works for Lilly and specializes in osteoporosis meds. He explained where things were with new meds and different options she might have. That would hopefully help protect against further fractures.
The doctor has encourage mom to take her pain med more consistently (as I have done) and mom seems to be complying. She is also now getting physiotherapy.
One day at a time.
Thanks for all the kind thoughts and prayers.
On other fronts.....work has been bearable, but I have been feeling tense and pissy there. My friend is handling this amazingly well. I am still very angry. I have to meet with the bosses Monday to say whether I'm taking the position they offered. I guess I am, as I am not situated to just leave without another job lined up, but I think I'll still look for other options as well. But I have some issues to work out with them. We'll see how that goes.
I am now very untrusting at work--I only trust the two colleagues that were in this mess with me. One, of course, will be leaving at the end of the fiscal/contract year (July 1). That leaves the other colleague and me. I am trying to train myself to be wary of even people I like very much and have trusted in the past. Even if I don't have any specific reason to think they have done anything untrustworthy, I am being wary. Such is the environment there now.
I am not so good at separating my thinking and feeling selves. And work is a social environment for me. I tend to be very open, too much so, I now see. So it is hard to learn how to be a good, friendly coworker but not lose the wariness, ie, keep my cards very close in. And it is hard to separate my anger at the decisions made from my need to work with these people. It is both professional AND personal for me. Work is very personal for me. It has always been that way with me. It is a big part of my life. I spend a lot of time there. I develop friendships, always, through work. Most of my friends are from various work experiences in my life. And I am someone who thinks out loud. I like to be able to trust people in this process--where I can think out loud with them, including my honest thoughts about how I feel. But I need to learn, and find myself working at it, to be more discreet and circumspect, to have tighter boundaries. It is for my protection. I have been too trusting.
How sad, no?
Posted by justyourlaugh on May 1, 2003, at 20:35:49
In reply to Re: Hi, all, posted by tina on May 1, 2003, at 9:18:43
hey noa,
thanks for the reply on my previous posts..
i have destroyed my hard drive:(and cant get it back)..i really feel lost without my computer..my friend..
i have to wait a few weeks for a new one..
tina..i have been thinking about you,,i went into cotton j's today with my son to see what setting you are working in now...was told the true"cj's"clothing will not start until september:(
i can now get online at night with c's new laptop..
take care tina and noa
j
Posted by tina on May 2, 2003, at 14:58:49
In reply to Re: Hi, all » tina, posted by justyourlaugh on May 1, 2003, at 20:35:49
Hey jyl
WE have our real CJ wear now. Got back most of the regular merchandise last week. We're getting new stuff every day. I was made stock manager so I get to keep the back room organized according to my liking. Hehe, Oh the power!!! It's been fun. I had my first official shift on the selling floor last night. Wow, I forgot how much my feet hurt after a shift. I was so tired when I got home.
Anyway, looking forward to a busy weekend. We're inheriting a car that needs some work so we'll be out doing some running around for that. I also have plans for painting the bedroom and kitchen this year so I'll be peeking around at paint colors and tiles.
I need a change.
Have a great weekend S. I hope you manage to keep in touch. I'll be thinkin of you.
lv
tina
Posted by WorryGirl on May 2, 2003, at 15:29:31
In reply to Hi, all, posted by noa on April 30, 2003, at 16:49:03
Hi Noa,
I know how it is, answering so many posts sometimes. I'm always afraid I've forgotten to respond to one. It can be more insightful sometimes just to read them.The people on this board are so INTERESTING! The other day I thought of how cool it could be to have a psychobabble party, with everyone wearing their PB nametags. Would anyone show up? Would we appear to each other as we imagined? Would the socially phobic people chicken out at the last minute? Or would we find it to be one of the best social experiences ever since we have been accepted here on this board? Or would it ruin everything, once the reality of our physical presence took over? The anonymity seems to be the main reason this board works so well.
Hope you have a nice, long, refreshing weekend!
Posted by noa on May 2, 2003, at 17:41:56
In reply to Re: Hi, all » justyourlaugh, posted by tina on May 2, 2003, at 14:58:49
Tina!! Congratulations!!!
>I was made stock manager so I get to keep the back room organized according to my liking. Hehe, Oh the power!!!
That was a quick rebound, and it sounds like a better opportunity than before! Way to go! (Now, be sure to wield that power fairly).
Congratulations!
Posted by noa on May 2, 2003, at 17:43:59
In reply to PB Party » noa, posted by WorryGirl on May 2, 2003, at 15:29:31
You said it--People here ARE so interesting!!
Sometimes I read and am just basically blown away at the power of the human spirit.
>Hope you have a nice, long, refreshing weekend!
You too, WG!
Posted by tina on May 2, 2003, at 19:34:55
In reply to Re: Hi, all » tina, posted by noa on May 2, 2003, at 17:41:56
Hey, thanks Noa. It's not really a big deal. It just lets me keep the stockroom the way "I" like it. I've been dying to get in there and properly set things up and starting all over again from scratch with an empty stockroom made it fun and easy.
Glad you're back :)
luv
tina
Posted by Greg on May 3, 2003, at 17:21:09
In reply to Re: Hi, all(from me too!), posted by noa on May 1, 2003, at 19:19:51
Noa,
It's good to hear that your Mom is showing some signs of improvement. I'm glad you decided to make the trip, I know you weren't going to be comfortable, or at least as comfortable as possible, until you could be there to see what was going on first-hand. I believe you said your Mom was 82. I'm thinking that waiting a bit to see if a new med might have some effect is a good idea (I hope I'm reading your post correctly, forgive me if I'm not). At her age, surgery can be very rough, and the recovery afterward even rougher. My grandmother had to have one at age 84 and we were sure we were going to lose her. She was a very tough woman and fought thru it, but it was dicey to say the least. I wish her all the best and will keep her in my thoughts.
I am so sorry that you're having to deal with such a bad situation on the job. Since I lost what I now realize was my dream job nearly two years ago, I've been working as a contracted laborer. The company I work for stresses that contractors are treated exactly the same as regular, full-time employees, but nothing could be farther from the truth. I've even overheard FT employees referring to us in conversation by saying, "But they're only contractors, they don't matter". Makes a person feel real good.
I hope you make the choice that is best for you. With the job market the way it is, maybe it might be best to take the position while you look for something else? I guess I feel it's best to have something, even if it makes you unhappy, than to have nothing at all. But only you know what you can tolerate. I know I would quit in a heartbeat if I didn't have a family to support.
I admire the strength and resolve you're showing thru all this. I wonder if this isn't a quality you've gotten from your Mom as she seems to be a strong lady as well. Whatever you decide to do, know that you have a lot of people in your corner. I hope that someday all of us in bad job situations can find that perfect job where we can grow, contribute, and feel like we're a part of something important. But that will continue to be my dream.
All my best to you and your family. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Be well,
Greg
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