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Posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 8:55:29
this is freaky.. slept only a few hours, now wide awake. doing my taxes today.. late (yes I'm aware the deadline was APRIL 15) naughty me
What a week. I need to stop my brain for a few hours but it just keeps on keeping on..
Y'all, I have this tax preparation phobia.. every year it's late.. I just filed last year's only a month ago.. did you know nothing bad happens? they just send the check anyway. So if I do it this weekend.. I"m way ahead. It gives me senseless anxiety.. like all simple paperwork
wish me luck.
Posted by IsoM on April 26, 2003, at 9:58:38
In reply to Awake at Dawn, posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 8:55:29
I shouldn't tell you this, Tabby, 'cause it'll only make you put it off even more but...
Unless the law has changed in Canada (I know you're American but it may be similar), the deadline is if you OWE the government money. If they owe you, they don't care so much whether it's late. In fact, one time when it was a few years late (long explanation but my ex-husband's fault - honest), I got my money, GST, & child tax credit PLUS interest on it! It came at a time when I needed money desperately & was going back to school. I got almost $4,000 - perfect!! as I had almost no furniture or much of anything then.
It may be much the same in the States. The government just doesn't want people to know about this much.
Posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 11:41:56
In reply to Re: Awake at Dawn » Tabitha, posted by IsoM on April 26, 2003, at 9:58:38
They pay interest?? that's cool. I don't think U.S. does it. There is some kind of small penalty for filing late even if you don't owe.. they just deduct it from the refund. Taxes...It's just a stupid neurotic procrastination thing with me, one of those things.. I finish it and it's such a relief, and not a big deal, and I kick myself for letting it hang over my head for so long. Dumb. I'm doing great this year. tackling it now. GO me.
IsoM how's your garden doing? snails much? And your sick kitty? My kitty finally broke me down and I'm letting her come inside. Actually I leave the doors open so there's not much stopping her. I just look up and there she is. Put her out, 2 minutes later, look up and there she is again.
Posted by lostsailor on April 26, 2003, at 14:12:04
In reply to Re: Awake at Dawn » IsoM, posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 11:41:56
may I call you that???
Actually, according to an old economics prof., if the gov owes you money you are doing them and in turn the US a favor that, in turn, facilitates our being able to "help" other countries.
All the $$ they owe you collects a ton of interest for your cong. person's next pay raise. or tax write off for Nike. At least in NY, and I know we are talking fed taxes mostly, we have Hillary and I'm ok with her getting more if she puts it in her "war chest" for her< God I might get killed with this one, presidential run in 04.
I find it so sad Chelsie is engaged not to me. What a waste...
~tony
Posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 14:50:44
In reply to Re: Awake at Dawn---tabby, posted by lostsailor on April 26, 2003, at 14:12:04
yes, you may cally me tabby.. see I made a tabby typo.
Chelsea is tres cute.. all that curly hair and pale skin, nicely plump.. I'm sure you'd make a lovely couple
Posted by lostsailor on April 26, 2003, at 14:59:50
In reply to Re: Awake at Dawn---tabby » lostsailor, posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 14:50:44
Posted by lostsailor on April 26, 2003, at 15:20:26
In reply to Re: Awake at Dawn---tabby » lostsailor, posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 14:50:44
I mean it's funny I think she is adorable in an odd (and possible perverse) fashion . But, well, I think all women are adorable.
Friends, two of the few I have left, dragged me out the other night. I sat half the night looking into the eyes of others gazing into their lover's (or nights partner's) eyes.
I had an excellent, new micro-beer and an Anchor Steam (you are from CA, right??). I felt a bit playful and started talking to a girl, sorry woman, on the patio. I swear it took less than (why do I still confuse then and than????) 20 minutes to first get her phone number, she offered although I was going to ask soon. I accepted it and we sat and talked a bit more. She then had to go to the ladies room ( with a group of other ladies---can any female urinate or look in the mirror alone????
She "emerged" a few minutes later and said she wanted to take of and that I should either make use of her number soon or come home with her that night to watch a video (ok, I am a self-absorbed neurotic narcissist...perhaps she really ment watch one and that's it) and kissed extended her hand for me to kiss. This sounds like a Jane Austin novel, I giggled, secretly let the xanax continue to dissolve under my tough, when she then told me we can skip that video if you want and "just figure out something else to do while there).
I was aroused, as I am now thinking of it, but made up some story about how I couldn't b/c....
I kept her number, and this may seem rude, but only to put in journal for potential writing exercise. I am so dam lame!!!
Oh, ever wonder about this, politics aside....why when the Clinton's asked the press to let their daughter grow up not under the public eye, that was respected while they scrutinize every move the Bush kids make...not fair...
~tony
Posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 17:26:55
In reply to Re: Awake at Dawn---tabby, posted by lostsailor on April 26, 2003, at 15:20:26
that's awesome tony. You must be pretty cute. So are you going to call her?
Posted by lostsailor on April 26, 2003, at 18:16:04
In reply to Re: Awake at Dawn---tabby » lostsailor, posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 17:26:55
I highly doubt it. I don't know if I'm cute. I am told so, but what does that mean really mean. I mean I have never told someone who expressed interest in me in person/or describing her to a friend (like setting someone up on a date he/she is ugly, but at the same, don't think I am ugly. @33 I have a full-head of hair, stay in pretty good shape, am honest and kinda witty in a cynical way...but, if I could have gone home that easily with her last night, how many others could have or have.
I should not be a character judge and I am not really judging her, as it seems. "It" just wasn’t there. As silly as this sounds, I am much more a flirt than a lover per se. I want all the things that we have spoke of in bits in pieces over the past few months. Now here's a good one, though...I think one qualification would be a diagnosed DSM disorder. Is that nuts, a sense of self-doubt?? Do I want someone, not to "heal" or nurture, but just to be "eccentric together" with? The last girl I really ,kinda, there’s a bit of ambivalence for you, interested in was on meds, a bit nutty. Doc "sees" what I am saying when I describe this he claims...lol. But this girl was far from med compliant and perhaps the most un-stable person I have ever met, though I still care for her deeply. Honest. It was just that at night we'd "kiss" on the phone, hold hands, whatever and in the am, she would want to call it off. This went on for three months or so. I don't know if there was one sequential day that her feelings swords our relationship did not change. i tried, but could not walk that path for too long. There has been enough heartache in my life to almost self-sabotage it knowing ahead of time this was gonna be rocky terrain. I more than understood but there came a point, which luckily my doc basically drew for me, as may never and usually don’t, where standing on turf that so easily could erode was not healthy for me.
She even had two kids--a plus. Would I totally rule out another chance with her?--not at all. Is it likely, I doubt it.
Oh, why could am I so.... I can't even think of the right words to say it.
~tony
Posted by leeran on April 26, 2003, at 18:40:54
In reply to Re: Awake at Dawn---tabby » lostsailor, posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 17:26:55
Tabitha,
I was thinking the same things after reading Lost Sailor's post:
1) You must be pretty cute
2) Are you going to call her?I'm hoping to hear answers on both (being the voyeur that I suppose I am when it comes to the exciting singles lifestyle).
While reading Tony's semi-erotic Sex in the City style post I had a mental image of that scene in Wayne's World (no, Tony, I don't think you look like Mike Myers, I was just picturing the setting) when Wayne is sitting on the rooftop deck of the bar speaking in Chinese to Cassandra and says (with subtitles): "Was it Kierkegaard or Dick Van Patten who said, 'If you label me, you negate me'?" That's one of my favorite movie lines.
Tabitha, I filed tax extensions, for my personal as well as my (miniscule) corporation, nearly every year until I married my husband. He is the dream guy for an A.D.D. (old) girl like myself. Now, my role in this process is trotting the envelopes off to the the post office and bringing home the certified mail receipts. Of course, I end up feeling guilty that I don't make very much money anymore, and that I don't even think I could handle my taxes by myself these days, etc.
I read something (probably a pipe dream) on a message board the other day regarding a representative who is proposing (or has already proposed?) legislation to abolish income tax. Here's the link: http://www.rumormillnews.com/cgi-bin/config.pl?read=31353
This would be excellent for so many reasons, including the anxiety about filing them in the first place.
Lee
Posted by IsoM on April 27, 2003, at 1:34:53
In reply to Re: Awake at Dawn » IsoM, posted by Tabitha on April 26, 2003, at 11:41:56
Garden? Garden? What's that? I won't be able to do much this year but it can always wait for another year - it won't go anywhere. :-)
Between work, my sick Medusa, other responsibilities, I seem to have little spare time & I've been so tired & worn out these last couple months. It takes a lot of time each day to look after Medusa & because her kidneys can't concentrate urine, she pees a LOT. I feel like I'm cleaning litter boxes all the time. She needs to be hand-fed too, like many of these kitties. I think their sense of smell diminishes & then their ability to taste foods go down. Plus her meds & supplements needed - it's not overly expensive, cheaper generic versions are available but there's so much to do & I'm feeling burnt out.
We had the warmest & sunniest February & then 2 months of rain & cloudy drizzle to punish us for our cocky attitude while the rest of Canada froze. On the weather forecast, it said we've had 22 days of rain this month (out of 26 days so far). We've had double the amount of precipitation too. Yuck! But the last two days have been beautifully sunny & all next week is 'supposed' to be nice. I won't hold my breath though.
I had to work outside in the rain last week & was putting together garden equipment for display purposes - in the rain! Crappy job. The tools provided were so flimsy, they were bending so I bought a set of sockets wrenches for myself to put them together. And yes, I took the set home too. But it was fun putting it together with my other co-worker - we laughed lots & decided we'll make extra money offering to put what the customer buys together for them.
Don't forget to water your snails & slugs with caffeine! I've seen some pretty big ones out snacking on my new plants. Gotta get out & give them the "coffee jitters" myself. When people come & ask for slug bait, I tell them we don't carry poisons or herbicides any more. Then I explain about caffeine on the snails & slugs & tell then how to use it instead. I have a loyal following at the store that come in to seek my advice. It gives me satisfaction to help others as opposed to selling something that doesn't work well.
Now, Tabbytha, why wouldn't you want your kitty inside? She knows another kitty when she sees one & just wants company. You'll be happy you did. They make great company. My other little girl, Morgana is my living teddy bear. When I'm getting down & stressed out, I scoop her up, snuggle like mad (she's a total body contact type kitty - loves it) & feel myself calm down. She purrs so hard, she trills as she purrs.
And taxes... Yes, I need to do mine too - for this year AND last. What a procrastinator I am. I HATE paperwork of any kind except writing.
Thanks for asking, sweetie. I spend little time on the computer now as I'm too busy & try to get as much sleep as possible. Tell me about your snail adventures when they emerge agai. What state do you live in? And what's the gardening/climate zone where you are?
Posted by lostsailor on April 27, 2003, at 4:01:56
In reply to Kitties, Snails, and Weather » Tabitha, posted by IsoM on April 27, 2003, at 1:34:53
poor Medussa. Aurora, who is asleep and I am fianlly able to use the comp., and zorra have pused lil' medussa out of the limelight a bit. I am glad she is doing better and in such good hands....
~tony+
Posted by Tabitha on April 27, 2003, at 19:05:34
In reply to Kitties, Snails, and Weather » Tabitha, posted by IsoM on April 27, 2003, at 1:34:53
IsoM, I'm in zone 10 or 11, I forget. I worked in the planter bed all day today. Pulled weeds, put out fertilizer and mulch. I did toss a couple snails out into the street, but there aren't too many in those beds..
This is my 2nd year working this patch of ground, and much of what I put in last year is doing well. I've got lavendar, daylilies (they died all the way down to the ground, but now they've come back, and one has a big bud-- yay!) martha washington geraniums, lace ferns, jasmine, butterfly iris, and carnations all doing well since being planted last year. It gets to be a battle against summer heat and drought here, but there's been so much rain this spring everything is pretty green.
I forgot how to use caffeine for snails.. do you actually just water your plants with coffee?? I have some of the non-toxic slug bait, but it doesn't look too attractive since it's bright white pellets.
Your kitty is lucky to have such a nurse as you. Mine is jealous. But she's got it pretty good here, and obviously has the skills to find a soft-hearted person to take her in. I still consider her a free agent, not quit completely "mine". But she is trying on a new name lately.. we'll see if it sticks. My artist friend came up with the name 'Untitled' for her, since she's been nameless so long. It's a step.
Posted by IsoM on April 28, 2003, at 10:19:14
In reply to Re: Kitties, Snails, and Weather---isom, posted by lostsailor on April 27, 2003, at 4:01:56
I do feel sorry my my poor Medusa. When she doesn't feel too good, she turns into a real bitch, but I know why she's so nasty then. Few of us can consistently stay pleasant when we don't hurt - crf isn't a painful disease but it does make a cat )or human) feel really, really crappy. What she particularily gets nasty about is when she feels crappy & I have to start syringe(or assist) feedings, but with her it's "force" feeding. She's all claws then. It must exhaust her too as her energy level goes down & then she expends so much fighting me.
I can take all that. What DOES get to me is her copious peeing. I don't want litter boxes in every last room of the house. I don't understand why she can get to the litter box & then pee beside it!!! It's not because it's not clean - I clean them out a couple of times a day - I have no idea why she does it. I went on Google & crf forums to see if there may be a reason & tryied to make sure everything was okay but she still does it. Not all the times, but often enough that I'm always washing floors & spraying enzyme cleaners around. Last night after finding a new one, I said "damn that cat!! No one else would put up with such stupid behaviour from her. I'm so sick of it!" & felt like crying.
But I have no idea why she acts like she does. She was a previously abused kitty who adopted me. Maybe she has a version of PTSD for cats. I want to be kind to her & am, but there are times, I'm really pushed to my limits.
Aurora & Zorro & Tabby's "no-name-yet" all desire their limelight too. Kitties are amazing creatures. I wonder why most humans find kittens far more endearing than human babies??? I know I do.
Posted by IsoM on April 28, 2003, at 10:21:08
In reply to Re: Kitties, Snails, and Weather » IsoM, posted by Tabitha on April 27, 2003, at 19:05:34
When I get home from work today, I'll have to post more about your garden (& what there is of mine) & how to water snails. :-)
Posted by IsoM on April 29, 2003, at 23:32:26
In reply to Re: Kitties, Snails, and Weather » IsoM, posted by Tabitha on April 27, 2003, at 19:05:34
I'm sorry, Tabitha, but I'm exhausted. Worked 9 hours today & it was hard - unloading a 2000 shrub shipment - just me & one other girl. I know there's no obligation to post but I do want to ask questions about your garden. Expect my post when you see it, okay?
Posted by Tabitha on April 30, 2003, at 14:04:23
In reply to Re: supposed follow-up post... » Tabitha, posted by IsoM on April 29, 2003, at 23:32:26
that's a lotta shrubs! IsoM, I enjoy your posts whenever they happen.. there's no need to pressure yourself.
Posted by Medusa on May 4, 2003, at 3:44:56
In reply to Kitties, Snails, and Weather » Tabitha, posted by IsoM on April 27, 2003, at 1:34:53
Ah, gardening. Maybe that's what I should try to get me out of this 22-hours/day sleep cycle. It's worked before ...
> Don't forget to water your snails & slugs with caffeine!
I dump the grounds onto the soil, too, and work them in a little bit. Coffee grounds function as a buffer (balancing either acidic or basic tendencies) in soil. And worms love them.
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