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Posted by KB on June 3, 2002, at 14:26:06
I'm one week post-dumping now - it happened last monday night.
I'm still sad and sometimes cry - especially when I see couples. Yesterday was particularly bad since we used to always spend sunday nights together - instead he went sailing with his friends, which about sums up our relationship - I was feeling sad and he was sailing.
I sent him a letter, just saying that I felt like he was never really totally committed to our relationship. I emailed it to him late friday, so he wouldn't have gotten it until today, but I keep checking my email, hoping for a response. I don't even know what I'm hoping for - maybe some kind of acknowledgement at least.
Posted by Kar on June 3, 2002, at 15:43:35
In reply to one week post-dumping, posted by KB on June 3, 2002, at 14:26:06
KB- glad you checked in and that you're hanging in there.
>I was feeling sad and he was sailing.
Yeah, pretty ironic. Good that you see that, though...
>I don't even know what I'm hoping for - maybe some kind of acknowledgement at least.
Try not to feel bad if you don't get what you expect; after all, you didn't really get it while you were going out, right? I remember feeling that way too- to just want something...but just know that you don't really need ANYthing from him anymore...
Chin up,
Karen
Posted by fi on June 3, 2002, at 16:17:34
In reply to one week post-dumping, posted by KB on June 3, 2002, at 14:26:06
Well done for getting thru the first week. It can take a lot longer than that to get over something like this, but it should gradually get less painful, and gradually you'll have spells of feeling OK. Meantime, hang on in there and be kind to yourself.
Dont rely on him for a reply, or to help you sort out the break- he will be dealing with things from his perspective, and some ex-partners would do that by breaking off all together. Its not a civilised or courteous process.
As far as you can, you need to focus on yourself now rather than going over the past- that will get easier to do. Honest!
Fi
Posted by KB on June 5, 2002, at 21:19:08
In reply to Re: one week post-dumping » KB, posted by fi on June 3, 2002, at 16:17:34
He did reply, and was apologetic. He has actually been pretty considerate for someone who is dumping me - I think because he wants to stay friends. He always said that "even if someday we're not romantically involved, I always want you in my life".
I'm actually feeling better - stopped crying, took myself to see the Star Wars movie, and bought the Harry Potter video even though I shouldn't have spent the money.
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