Psycho-Babble Social Thread 22426

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Not doing well

Posted by Katt on April 22, 2002, at 15:36:08

No shrink, meds are running out, and there are no services out there!! I am frantically in need of a connection. I miss my old Dr....he called me twice a week, kept my head above water, made sure I was still able to go on, but I can't do this alone. It's driving me crazy. CRAZY!!!!

 

Re: Not doing well » Katt

Posted by Zo on April 22, 2002, at 16:42:16

In reply to Not doing well, posted by Katt on April 22, 2002, at 15:36:08

Where are you? (Sorry, I'm the last to know everything.) What can we do?!

Zo

 

Re: Not doing well

Posted by Katt on April 22, 2002, at 16:51:24

In reply to Re: Not doing well » Katt, posted by Zo on April 22, 2002, at 16:42:16

I guess I'm at home...going nuts!! Wanting to rip my head off. I feel like no one is answering to my needs. No one is out there to help. I feel like the whole profession is a failure. I feel crazy about the things going on overseas, and the fact that I only work part-time and will soon get laid off, crazy about not having my Dr. to call or call me because he doesn't want to deal with me. So!!! I don't want to deal with me!! He was getting paid to do it...maybe it just isn't worth it. And friends?? Where? Who? How come I have none?? cuz i ruin everything. Everything!

 

Re: Not doing well » Katt

Posted by Krazy Kat on April 22, 2002, at 18:05:25

In reply to Re: Not doing well, posted by Katt on April 22, 2002, at 16:51:24

katt:

you can make, and have, some great friends here. please keep posting. one of the best things i've found here is others who have experienced similar things and can offer help and hope.

- krazy

 

Re: Not doing well

Posted by JohnDoenut on April 22, 2002, at 18:30:30

In reply to Re: Not doing well » Katt, posted by Krazy Kat on April 22, 2002, at 18:05:25

Hi! Just wanted to say hi.

 

Re: Not doing well

Posted by Phil on April 22, 2002, at 18:50:10

In reply to Not doing well, posted by Katt on April 22, 2002, at 15:36:08

Katt, What you just said sounds like a replay of my pdoc appointment an hour and a half ago! I'll give you a hint; I was talking.
This may not be as good as a warm body (sometimes it's better)but there are a whole bunch of people here that are eager to help.
Let us know more when you feel like talking.

We will be here for you...ain't no doubt!

Phil

 

Re: Not doing well :(

Posted by Katt on April 22, 2002, at 22:12:04

In reply to Re: Not doing well, posted by Phil on April 22, 2002, at 18:50:10

I cried, I screamed, I yelled, I kicked. I had a tantrum and then, finally, I cut. LOSER

 

Re: Not doing well :(

Posted by trouble on April 22, 2002, at 22:39:36

In reply to Re: Not doing well :(, posted by Katt on April 22, 2002, at 22:12:04

> I cried, I screamed, I yelled, I kicked. I had a tantrum and then, finally, I cut. LOSER

Katt,
I don't know you, my name is trouble and all I do is push and lecture, so feel free to tell me to SCRAM if I get to close to the bone.

I want to ask about the loser feelings, did they come after the cutting? Cause I've heard that cutting can help people end the tantrums, and calm them down, that's what I've heard, I don't know first-hand not being a cutter myself.
But if the cutting makes you feel worse about yourself I've heard of a technique that is almost as good as cutting, w/out all the self-hatred that can result from it.
Red ink, or red paint, anything that looks like blood, pour or paint it on the areas you want to cut, I HAVE tried this and it helped, just walking around the house dripping this ersatz blood all over my environment as evidence of my pain. I've heard bona-fide cutters say similar things, so it may be worth a try. I know the times I did try to cut myself I felt so bad about myself afterwards I couldn't go thru w/it. So sometimes I hold ice cubes in my hands, (IT HURTS!) or even plunge my head into a sinkfull of ice cubes and refrigerated water (UNBEARABLE!!).

Also if you feel comfortable telling us where you are, physically, in the what city/state you may find some people on the board who are familiar w/ the social service resources in your area. In most large U.S. cities there are places for indigents to go who need fast professional help, just an idea, but no pressure if you don't feel safe revealing anything more than you have about your situation.
This is a nurturing place, filled w/ tireless and truly useful folks who will stick, come what may.
take care,
trouble

 

i like trouble's suggestions...

Posted by Krazy Kat on April 22, 2002, at 22:50:19

In reply to Re: Not doing well :(, posted by trouble on April 22, 2002, at 22:39:36

and, katt, for now anyway, try not to feel bad about cutting. i felt bad for years until i learned that many people do it, people older and more "mature" than myself (i'm 31). it freaks my husband out, but when whatever is going on gets Really bad, it can provide a release. for one thing it appears to release pheremones that qualm the pain, so to speak.

- kk

 

Not doing well -- Katt

Posted by Angel Girl on April 22, 2002, at 23:51:12

In reply to i like trouble's suggestions..., posted by Krazy Kat on April 22, 2002, at 22:50:19

How about going to the ER at a hospital. Wouldn't they give you immediate help and hook you up with a new pdoc??? Sorry if this doesn't help.

Angel Girl

 

Re: Not doing well -- Katt

Posted by Katt on April 23, 2002, at 19:15:14

In reply to Not doing well -- Katt, posted by Angel Girl on April 22, 2002, at 23:51:12

Actually, the hospital hooked me up with the pdoc that suggested I go to a bar. I live in Chicago.

 

Re: Not doing well -- Katt

Posted by Angel Girl on April 23, 2002, at 20:17:17

In reply to Re: Not doing well -- Katt, posted by Katt on April 23, 2002, at 19:15:14


A bar???? WTF kind of advice is that????? Why don't you go to a different hospital or is there a mental health facility in Chicago???? They would probably have a ER that you could walk into.

Sorry, if this doesn't help.

Angel Girl


> Actually, the hospital hooked me up with the pdoc that suggested I go to a bar. I live in Chicago.

 

Re: Not doing well -- Katt Angel Girl

Posted by Katt on April 23, 2002, at 22:58:59

In reply to Re: Not doing well -- Katt, posted by Angel Girl on April 23, 2002, at 20:17:17

Yeah, when I onc called him and said I was lonely that evening and felt worried and that I needed to be around people, he said that I might want to go to a bar.

Trouble with Chicago is, it's huge. So, mental health facilities are divided up by the neighborhood you live in. I was able to get an appt with my community center, but its through the same hospital I was at that referred me to that last pdoc.

This site/list is apparently moderated through Chicago, but it does not seem to provide any resources for the Chicago area. Maybe I should email dr bob?

I actually had an appt with a pdoc for meds this morning at 11am. Unfortunately I missed it and she's going to charge me, but there I was at 10:40am, vomiting and curled up in pain due to what seems to be a return of migraine headaches. I always hated therapy, but honestly, I think that it prevented them for five years.

 

Re: Not doing well -- Katt

Posted by Angel Girl on April 24, 2002, at 9:25:50

In reply to Re: Not doing well -- Katt Angel Girl, posted by Katt on April 23, 2002, at 22:58:59

Sorry about your migraine. YUCK!!! Hope it's gone now. I get them too so I know what you're going through. Do you take meds for them? Is that why you missed your appt??? I think it is standard to bill you for appts you miss unless you call 24 hours in advance. :(

I think emailing Dr Bob would be a great idea. He should know where you could go. I also live in a huge city and I went to a facility way outside my area to avoid having to deal with the hospital where my pdoc is. You could try that too. But I would def email Dr. Bob. Good luck!

Angel Girl

 

Re: Not doing well » Katt

Posted by Shar on April 24, 2002, at 14:07:19

In reply to Re: Not doing well -- Katt Angel Girl, posted by Katt on April 23, 2002, at 22:58:59

Katt,
what's done is done. You made it through alive. I think the next step is to get set up with whatever you can stand--if you can stand therapy, I recommend it. Even if you are stuck with a doc who recommended a bar as an evening out...it is possible that he can still do therapy well enough to get you through a hard time.

While you are in therapy with him as a last resort, you can ask for a change of doc...is that right? Or is it required you stick with him?

You have my deep, total and complete sympathy for your migraine, and I hope it will leave you soon. I don't know how people stand them. I had a brush with one once and I was ready to about....oh well...basically I didn't know what to do except cry in pain.

I think in your next moments of relative calm, it would be good to figure out something to do in advance of when you need it. Like, (ok this will sound dumb) I used to go to the mall. It was AWESOME! Just a little valley-girl kidding there. But I did go, and look at stuff (too broke to buy stuff), used my senses more than my brain (touched fabrics, smelled perfumes, looked at beautiful sparkling evening gowns, listened to people talk (eavesdropped)), and maybe would get a small coffee or something and sit and people watch for a while. Being out among people really did help me. I think more than anything it broke the continuing pattern of isolation, keeping myself inside, and got me moving a little.

Also, sometimes I go into these 99 cent stores and tell myself that there has to be one cool thing in there, at least, and set out to find it.

Even a walk around the block helps, imo.

Oh, I think emailing dr. bob is a good idea. Plus, I believe there have been others who talked about therapists in the chicago area. A search of the archives might help.

Weirdly yours,
Shar

> Yeah, when I onc called him and said I was lonely that evening and felt worried and that I needed to be around people, he said that I might want to go to a bar.
>
> Trouble with Chicago is, it's huge. So, mental health facilities are divided up by the neighborhood you live in. I was able to get an appt with my community center, but its through the same hospital I was at that referred me to that last pdoc.
>
> This site/list is apparently moderated through Chicago, but it does not seem to provide any resources for the Chicago area. Maybe I should email dr bob?
>
> I actually had an appt with a pdoc for meds this morning at 11am. Unfortunately I missed it and she's going to charge me, but there I was at 10:40am, vomiting and curled up in pain due to what seems to be a return of migraine headaches. I always hated therapy, but honestly, I think that it prevented them for five years.

 

Re: Not doing well - Shar

Posted by Katt on April 24, 2002, at 16:33:41

In reply to Re: Not doing well » Katt, posted by Shar on April 24, 2002, at 14:07:19

Well, I've already stopped seeing that pdoc. I emailed Dr. Bob and hope to get a response.

I've gotten migraines since I was 5. They stopped when I was about 20 or 21 - when I started therapy. Haven't had once since...til yesterday. And yes, the ONLY thing you can do is cry...and vomit...and cry. Trouble is...I hate therapy.

Read my ranting and raving about the mental health profession lower on the board. I think a lot of people have some of the same responses.


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