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Posted by susan C on October 13, 2001, at 18:51:29
am i going through 'empty nest' or not? tho it isnt empty, I have been diligently cleaning and keeping one foot in front of the other. Where am I dreamer? I am here, in about an hour leaving for sushi.
The down on this 'new' medication is like the up...last night I just about fell over, and today, multiple spins and rests.
My oldest moved into a 1908 house that has an 'extra' room he doesnt know what to do with...a parlor I said, he and his room mates are thinking of getting a pool table for it...ah, to be 22 again.
Chickadees are flying and perching on my sunflowers as the heads get heavier and heavier and more and more bent. Would they last the winter? Are the seeds just falling out or are they being eatten by the birds? I am still eating like a bird, maybe I will take the suggestions of nikki and akc...I could loose more, but it is odd how I feel, the opposite of cravings, apathy...I eat a bite or two, even to remember to eat or drink...weight is dropping off. I could loose 20 more and I would be at my 'goal' but, it seems to be going so fast. And all the food is staying in the refridgerator...or going into the garbage can.
mouse spinning like a top
susan C
Posted by dreamer on October 13, 2001, at 20:10:13
In reply to Youngest's 18th is Tomorrow, Dinner Tonight, posted by susan C on October 13, 2001, at 18:51:29
> am i going through 'empty nest' or not? tho it isnt empty, I have been diligently cleaning and keeping one foot in front of the other. Where am I dreamer? I am here, in about an hour leaving for sushi.
>
> The down on this 'new' medication is like the up...last night I just about fell over, and today, multiple spins and rests.
>
> My oldest moved into a 1908 house that has an 'extra' room he doesnt know what to do with...a parlor I said, he and his room mates are thinking of getting a pool table for it...ah, to be 22 again.
>
> Chickadees are flying and perching on my sunflowers as the heads get heavier and heavier and more and more bent. Would they last the winter? Are the seeds just falling out or are they being eatten by the birds? I am still eating like a bird, maybe I will take the suggestions of nikki and akc...I could loose more, but it is odd how I feel, the opposite of cravings, apathy...I eat a bite or two, even to remember to eat or drink...weight is dropping off. I could loose 20 more and I would be at my 'goal' but, it seems to be going so fast. And all the food is staying in the refridgerator...or going into the garbage can.
>
> mouse spinning like a top
> susan CGoing with the flow/more like sharp tides.
Today/tonight I was cleaning inside the washing machine ! starting irritating joking in cruel way to flatemate strange things were occuring then I realised I hadn't taken my effexor.
Do u drink much water , I eat v little only when hungry + snack on healthy stuff except pre period.
I never had much appetite cus of nervous energy some would envy that suppose but I smoke too much.well mouse enjoy family get together + savour each moment...............dreamer hungry now.
Posted by paxvox on October 13, 2001, at 20:41:23
In reply to Youngest's 18th is Tomorrow, Dinner Tonight, posted by susan C on October 13, 2001, at 18:51:29
> Mousey, believe it not, sometimes it's best to let them go at 18. My daughter is 18, at home going to college, and her life-style is anathema to me. I understand the empty nest deal, as I wathced my wife go through that when she thought my daughter WAS going awawy to college. Sometimes they have to learn to fly on their own. The longer we provide the safety of the nest, the less likely they are to try those wings....like nautre intendes them to. However, like all nice birds, they will return in a season to show their mature feathers. My world is just a tad more complicated, as I aslo have a 6 year old daughter just starting 1st grade. AAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!
PAX
pulling out his hair
Posted by Krazy Kat on October 13, 2001, at 22:06:49
In reply to Re: Youngest's 18th is Tomorrow, Dinner Tonight » susan C, posted by paxvox on October 13, 2001, at 20:41:23
> My dear Susan:
Will you forgive me for being tipsy tonight? I don't think I have ever been before, but I would like to reply despite that. I picked up a strawberry wine and I embibed too much.
As someone not too removed from 18, (I'm 30 ;)), it is good to let go. BECAUSE, the 18 year old will inevitably seek your counsel/comfort within a certain time frame. Or, did you see this with our oldest?
I had a very difficult time with my mother from 18-23 or so. We are now very close. I'm not sure how relationships with mothers and sons go.
I really do give my parents credit for letting me go at 18. They could have done a much a better job preparing me!!! But at least they gave me my freedom. Without that, I would have been a worse mess. :)
- K.
Posted by Mair on October 13, 2001, at 23:12:23
In reply to Re: Youngest's 18th - - Susan, posted by Krazy Kat on October 13, 2001, at 22:06:49
Susan - my oldest turned 16 a few months. At around the same time he got his first girlfriend (older) and now has just gotten his license. He stopped telling me things a few years ago, but more recently he's become rather hostile. I'm of course constantly looking for signs of depression in him and have a difficult time not internalizing all of his hostility. How do you tell how much of this is typical, and how much of this is to worry about? He's been so awful lately, my husband longs for being an empty nester but I just want to see the sweeter side more often.
Mair
Posted by susan C on October 14, 2001, at 12:47:01
In reply to Re: Youngest's 18th - - Susan, posted by Mair on October 13, 2001, at 23:12:23
> Susan - my oldest turned 16 a few months. At around the same time he got his first girlfriend (older) and now has just gotten his license. He stopped telling me things a few years ago, but more recently he's become rather hostile. I'm of course constantly looking for signs of depression in him and have a difficult time not internalizing all of his hostility. How do you tell how much of this is typical, and how much of this is to worry about? He's been so awful lately, my husband longs for being an empty nester but I just want to see the sweeter side more often.
>
> Mairoh, tough one. not being a professional, and having gone through two male teenage years with relatively little friction (mostly what I call passive agrressive) and having good friends with two boys who really do have major problems...this is not such a scientific response. I would go with the saying that stood by me when my kids were little and they just didn't seem right...mother knows best. I would tell him 'I am concerned, we need to take you in for a check up" and start with the GP? My uoungest is so thin, I was really getting concerned, he is cynical and at times seems depressed...dr gave him a clean bill of health. So, it is a start and you will be talking to him. Isn't there a booster shot, or exam you need for college or something? Anywho...I am off for an early nap...
leeetttle mouse trying to catch bbbbbbiiiieeg kittties
susan C
Posted by sar on October 14, 2001, at 23:24:31
In reply to separation and being a parent » Mair, posted by susan C on October 14, 2001, at 12:47:01
just wanted to say that yall sound like good mommas.
love,
sar
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