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Posted by PrincessDi on May 15, 2010, at 19:20:44
I went on Thur. and my T had the gift sitting on the side table next to my chair with the gift bag next to his chair. I told him I would like further explination on him returning the Christmas gift! He stated he was sorry and again said he didn't know it was a gift (even in gift bag and written in the front of the book). We again spent the whole hour on the gift and how he thinks the gift mean I want him to see me...OK, whatever! I fell playing tennis Thur night and called Friday morning from the ER while getting my x-rays. It's hard not at all feeling connected and yet have to call for a question. I told him I didn't feel connected on Thur...no reply! I'm worn out...I thought therapy would be more supportative!
Posted by sigismund on May 15, 2010, at 20:40:28
In reply to T's gift still hot topic!, posted by PrincessDi on May 15, 2010, at 19:20:44
Years ago I read a book by Leslie Farber in which he talked about a bitter dispute between an analyst and a patient about a borrowed pen.
What he drew from this was that therapy generally (maybe?) tends to encourage over-focus on volition and motivation (if those are the right words) and thus adds to the willfulness that is so overdone in (at least) western society.
Your experience brought this to mind. There's something to be said for not overdoing the analysis of these things and just trying to do it (accept or decline) with a little grace.
Posted by PrincessDi on May 15, 2010, at 21:33:18
In reply to Re: T's gift still hot topic!, posted by sigismund on May 15, 2010, at 20:40:28
Very interesting :)! It would have been nice if he could have willfully and gracefully accepted the gift and not made it a theraputic example (of which I'm not sure). Thanks for your input :).
Posted by rnny on May 17, 2010, at 13:50:35
In reply to T's gift still hot topic!, posted by PrincessDi on May 15, 2010, at 19:20:44
I am sorry you hurt yourself playing tennis. I fell once and slid on the court and wow, it rubbed skin off and my knees felt as though I had burned them. It really hurt. Your description of this T is a description of someone who is hurting your feelings and or disappointing you. At least the last two sessions. If you want to keep seeing him, talk to him about the kind of relationship you need in a T and ask him point blank if he is someone who believes himself capable of fulfilling that role. Without knowing your complete backround with him, I am really just speaking in generalities.
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