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Posted by Angela2 on October 10, 2008, at 18:15:31
Lately things have been going well. I've been getting out more and making a few nice social contacts. I had an interview yesterday, I'm volunteering, and I'm getting ready to enter a craft show. but...
I still can't get myself to go to certain places even though I want to. And this girl who has been my friend for a few years is like...ignoring me. I read her myspace blogs about how "happy" she is with her life right now. Is she avoiding me because she wasn't happy when she was friends with me? What the heck? I don't get it. And it hurts. I emailed her a few weeks ago and told her to stop treating me like crap because like every week she'd ask to do something then something "better" would come up and she'd ditch me. Her response was "sorry" and also..."I guess I just didn't want to spend every weekend with you because I have other friends/things to do." But she was the one contacting me! grr.
I tell myself I should be thankful for what I have. She wasn't even that close a friend. Why do I even focus on it? I am wondering if I am getting paranoid again. Like why can't I just be happy...also,
I keep thinking about my facebook account and how maybe some people don't like me. I don't know why I'm thinking this except that I have a bunch of facebook friends from high school and none of them talk to me. Bleh.
I think my unhappiness might ave something to do with the fact that I really wanted to do something today (not with this "friend" I told you about), and was too nervous to do it, so my day was kinda bla.Any responses or insights would be appreciated!
Angela2
Posted by Angela2 on October 11, 2008, at 9:22:16
In reply to Is something wrong with me?, posted by Angela2 on October 10, 2008, at 18:15:31
But does my post sound paranoid? thanks
Posted by lucie lu on October 11, 2008, at 11:06:45
In reply to Feeling better today..., posted by Angela2 on October 11, 2008, at 9:22:16
> But does my post sound paranoid? thanks
Hi Angela,
No your post does not sound paranoid, but I can see how you might be feeling frustrated. It is not easy to build a "good-enough" social life, and I applaud your efforts! I know you've been working hard at this. Try not to get discouraged. Remind me, are you in therapy now and if so, is your T able to support you through this stage?
Glad you are feeling better today.
Lucie
Posted by backseatdriver on October 11, 2008, at 11:42:21
In reply to Feeling better today..., posted by Angela2 on October 11, 2008, at 9:22:16
Just wanted to second Lucie's post. You don't sound paranoid to me, either, and I admire your social life and the ways you enlarge your social circle. It's not easy ... But you're doing it. That's huge.
Posted by Angela2 on October 11, 2008, at 13:20:15
In reply to Re: Feeling better today... » Angela2, posted by lucie lu on October 11, 2008, at 11:06:45
Thanks Lucie Lu. I am in therapy but don't really know how much it's helping. She's my pdoc too. But she's a resident doctor which means she just got her doctorate and is under supervision. I just don't know if I'm comfortable with her inexperience sometimes. Angela2
Posted by healing928 on October 11, 2008, at 13:21:57
In reply to Feeling better today..., posted by Angela2 on October 11, 2008, at 9:22:16
Angela2,
You do NOT sound paranoid, I think you are just trying to find your way. I am going through similar stuff. I am having a down day phsycially, so that is affecting my emotional state. I am questioning myelf about the things i am doing, and is it really going to make a difference in my life and my daughter's life... I say i am doing it for us because I am rebuilding my network and contacts. I lost so much several years ago and am trying to get it back.
I don't want to make this about me, my point is I think when we try to get our life back, we question ourselves because of our past, NO you are not paranoid.
healing
Posted by Angela2 on October 11, 2008, at 13:23:43
In reply to Re: Feeling better today..., posted by backseatdriver on October 11, 2008, at 11:42:21
Thank you backseatdriver. I don't know how much of it had to do with my boring day or just being kinda obsessed about one thing. I wonder if I'm paranoid though because I have had thoughts like, "she wants me to see how happy I am without her." Anywho, I'm glad I feel better today. Thank you again.
Angela2
Posted by Angela2 on October 11, 2008, at 13:29:05
In reply to Re: Feeling better today... » Angela2, posted by healing928 on October 11, 2008, at 13:21:57
Healing928, yeah I guess I am trying to find my way. Things aren't bad at all. I think maybe if I had more people around I'd feel better. It's weird, because I don't have that many friends, but I think I thrive on being social. I'm not outgoing though. And sometimes I'm downright social phobic. I'm just thinking aloud, lol. But my point is that when I am in a positive social environment, these negative thoughts of mine are kept at bay.
Thanks for the insight Healing928.
Angela2
Posted by Cal on October 12, 2008, at 9:24:34
In reply to Re: Feeling better today... » healing928, posted by Angela2 on October 11, 2008, at 13:29:05
For what its worth, sometimes we cannot see that the other person isn't really emotionally avaliable, but we continue to try and get them because we think that if we accept these people cannot be more then what they are, then that means making a decision that may require we spend some time alone and that can be frightening. Perhaps you need to spend some time alone and begin to see if the "type" of person you are drawn too is really avaliable emotionally or not? A lot of people are drawn to facebook and myspace because they can't do "real" socialising, thats as emotionally available as they can get and the feeling fine blogs perhaps come from only part of the person, the person who hides behind the pc screen whilst in reality their emotional lifes are far from great?
Posted by Angela2 on October 12, 2008, at 19:05:30
In reply to Re: Feeling better today..., posted by Cal on October 12, 2008, at 9:24:34
> For what its worth, sometimes we cannot see that the other person isn't really emotionally avaliable, but we continue to try and get them because we think that if we accept these people cannot be more then what they are, then that means making a decision that may require we spend some time alone and that can be frightening. Perhaps you need to spend some time alone and begin to see if the "type" of person you are drawn too is really avaliable emotionally or not? A lot of people are drawn to facebook and myspace because they can't do "real" socialising, thats as emotionally available as they can get and the feeling fine blogs perhaps come from only part of the person, the person who hides behind the pc screen whilst in reality their emotional lifes are far from great?
Cal, thanks for your response. Yeah maybe I need to spend some time alone. Like away from socializing on the computer. I've thought about that before actually (what my life would be like if I stopped using the computer as a social outlet). But it's so hard to keep it up. I've tried before. And I lasted like a day or two at the most, lol. I really want my life to be full and rich and with many in real life social contacts. that would be great. I wonder if I'm addicted to the computer. o_O
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