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Posted by catlady on September 28, 2007, at 21:37:28
I am usually just a lurker. I don't usually post. I found out on Thursday that my therapist is leaving. I am so upset and devastated by this. I got so close to her and could talk to her about anything. I have 2 more appointments with her and that is it. I really thought she was going to be there for the long haul. I really didn't want to start over with a new therapist. I am so sad right now.
Posted by Dinah on September 29, 2007, at 8:44:21
In reply to T is leaving, posted by catlady on September 28, 2007, at 21:37:28
I'm so sorry, catlady. Two sessions for termination doesn't seem very long. How long have you seen her?
I wish therapists wouldn't do that. A good termination is so important to clients. It's amazing how many don't understand that.
Posted by Maria01 on September 29, 2007, at 9:55:57
In reply to T is leaving, posted by catlady on September 28, 2007, at 21:37:28
Oh, wow! Did she say under what circumstances she is leaving? She does have a responsibility to help you locate another therapist before she leaves..not just a knee-jerk referral, but an honest-to-goodness well thought out referral. Even if you don't feel you can start over with someone else just now, circumstances may change and a good referral from her will eliminate some of the "shopping around".
I agree that only two sessions for termination is too short. Is she leaving under emergency circimstances? Regardless, this is really sad. Be sure to let her know how you feel about her, and about her leaving...you want to have as little "unfinished business" as possible...
Best of luck to you.
Posted by pegasus on October 1, 2007, at 12:29:08
In reply to T is leaving, posted by catlady on September 28, 2007, at 21:37:28
Hi catlady,
I'm so sorry to hear this. Two sessions is no where near enough for a good termination. I can't imagine how painful this must be for you. Did you at least get a decent explanation for why the rush? I hope you also have a chance to express how crushed you are. Most Ts would not terminate so quickly. It's bordering on unethical. The professional literature on termination recommends much more attention to termination than that.
Although, sadly, most professional codes of ethics require only that the T not "abandon" you, by which they mean that they offer you references to other Ts.
Please lean on us here, if that is helpful for you. I know, from personal experience, how difficult this kind of loss can be. I encourage you to use whatever resources you have available to help you cope.
peg
Posted by JoniS on October 1, 2007, at 14:40:24
In reply to T is leaving, posted by catlady on September 28, 2007, at 21:37:28
So sorry for you. I would be crushed. I hope you are able to tell her exactly how you feel. You deserve to be heard.
Hopefully she will give you some good referral options (although I know that doesn't take away the hurt feelings)
Take care of yourself. I wish you well.
Joni
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