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Posted by B2chica on March 27, 2006, at 13:52:46
what words describe my mother
crazy
manipulative
fake
controling
wrong
emotions are a tool to her
how does she make me feel
angry
overpretective
sick
scared
hurt
damaged
ashamed to be alive
Posted by madeline on March 27, 2006, at 14:05:31
In reply to words to describe your mother, posted by B2chica on March 27, 2006, at 13:52:46
one word - B*tch.
Posted by Dinah on March 27, 2006, at 14:12:17
In reply to words to describe your mother, posted by B2chica on March 27, 2006, at 13:52:46
My mother has a temper, and she's stubborn as all get out. But mainly she's like Harold in Harold and the Purple Crayon. She creates her own reality to suit her purposes, and it bears only the vaguest resemblence to the real thing.
Posted by Veracity on March 27, 2006, at 15:22:10
In reply to words to describe your mother, posted by B2chica on March 27, 2006, at 13:52:46
BRAVE (she left my father, who abused her, when she had nothing but me and the clothes on her back)
DETERMINED (she worked full-time and went to school nights to become a nurse when I was little)
DEMANDING (she expects a lot from herself and others, including me)
TOUGH (she doesn't take crap from anyone)
HUMAN (much as I'd like her to be perfect, she's not)
Posted by fairywings on March 27, 2006, at 19:43:25
In reply to words to describe your mother, posted by B2chica on March 27, 2006, at 13:52:46
Cold
manipulative
vindictive
callous
narcissitic
exploitive
insincere
self involved
angry
martyr
mean
victimbut my dad abused her, so a lot of her behaviors were learned as defenses I suppose.
how did she make me feel:
hurt
sad
guilty
shameful
bad
angry
selfish
used
unimportant
worthless
fat
ugly
stupidnow it's my job to get over it.
Posted by Poet on March 27, 2006, at 23:12:56
In reply to words to describe your mother, posted by B2chica on March 27, 2006, at 13:52:46
Angry
Bitter
Stubborn
Unforgiving
Enables my brother's dependence
Refuses to listen to any criticism of himbut she buys me lunch or dinner when I take her shopping, so that's one good quality.
Poet
Posted by pegasus on March 28, 2006, at 9:08:32
In reply to words to describe your mother, posted by B2chica on March 27, 2006, at 13:52:46
anxious
fearful
worrier
defensive
ridiculing
judgemental
too busy
superficial
self-protectiveand on the positive side
brilliant
affectionate
brave
creative
warm
concernedI have to say that she tries really hard to be a good mom. I think I'm pretty lucky. It's just a really hard job.
peg
Posted by Dinah on March 28, 2006, at 9:41:07
In reply to Re: words to describe your mother, posted by pegasus on March 28, 2006, at 9:08:32
Your attitude is what I'm trying hard to cultivate. There was no abuse in my situation. Well, my therapist says there was, but I say that there were a handful of times when she lost control and did things she shouldn't have. But it wasn't an ongoing thing. If there was abuse I'd feel differently about trying to think of her in a better way.
I'm trying so hard to improve my relationship with her, because I look at the old home videos and realize that at one time I really loved her. But it's hard. As she's gotten older, her less stellar qualities have gotten more entrenched. And of course, she's been causing me major practical problems for the last few years. And as the most practical member of the family (which is a very scary thought) I'm responsible for trying to keep her out of trouble.
But, in an effort to be more balanced and fair like you were...
My mother is also always open to fun and an adventure, was very supportive of anything I tried to do, treated me with respect from a very young age and always explained why she was telling me to do what she was telling me to do, loved me very much, and she's absolutely wonderful with very small children. She was the best mother she could be given who she is. And in my years before age ten, she may have been the best mom a kid could have.
Posted by milly on March 31, 2006, at 6:32:04
In reply to words to describe your mother, posted by B2chica on March 27, 2006, at 13:52:46
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