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Posted by happyflower on March 10, 2006, at 19:55:37
I normally NEVER cry in public. My style is more like crying while taking a long bath listening to sad music so nobody has to see me.
But the day of my concert, I was working out at the gym and one of the instructors could tell I wasn't my usually self and asked me what was wrong. I told him I was nervous about my concert, but then I started to well up in tears.
Then today at my trumpet lesson I was talking to my teacher about what happened before my concert, and how I just wanted to quit. Then I got tears in my eyes, which caused him to tear up too.
I have never let this emotion show in public, and now I am afraid I am going to lose it in therapy because it is so hard to even think about the hole I fell into without tears forming. I have never let him see me cry either, but i feel it coming on. But I know he will be really stick on time on Monday, because he has a meeting right after my appointment. So I am scared.
Why now? What does it mean?
Posted by muffled on March 10, 2006, at 22:00:57
In reply to Why tears, why now? Why can't I hold them back?, posted by happyflower on March 10, 2006, at 19:55:37
I dunno, must be something comming up inside I suppose. Glad you got a good T. ((((((Happyflower))))))
Muffled
Posted by Daisym on March 10, 2006, at 23:43:06
In reply to Why tears, why now? Why can't I hold them back?, posted by happyflower on March 10, 2006, at 19:55:37
My therapist would ask why isn't it OK to cry in therapy? What better place to do it? And he would tell you that it is OK for a therapist to see your tears...more than OK, it is necessary sometimes.
Seems to be that you are working hard to let new experiences in. That includes all these feelings, including being sad and crying. I suspect that some of this may be about ending therapy soon. That would make me cry too. And there is a lot of unfinished business about your feelings for your therapist. So of course you are conflicted.
Hang in there. I have lots of tissues to share.
Posted by Gee on March 11, 2006, at 1:54:48
In reply to Re: Why tears, why now? Why can't I hold them back? » happyflower, posted by Daisym on March 10, 2006, at 23:43:06
Maybe you're feeling again? New emotions are always scarey. I don't cry in public either. I always wait until I'm alone. I hate people to see my weakness.
Why would it be so horrible if he saw you cry?
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