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Posted by cubic_me on February 24, 2005, at 5:00:07
It went ok, I guess. I touched on the subject of the last session, but I was too withdrawn to really say much. No-one really felt like talking.
We sat in silence for what seemed like forever, maybe it was 15 minutes, I don't know. From what I could gather, I think that some of the other group members are finding it difficult that I am not 100% sure about the group - it is unsettling to them, and the last thing I want to do is make things harder for them. I think that this has been compounded by me missing a few weeks this year, and therefore they have not bonded with me as much as the other people.
I'm glad that I have got you guys to fall back on and my boyfriend to give me a hug at the end of the day. When he droped me off for the session he said 'I just want to tell them all to take care of you'. It was really sweet, like when I was in there it was the only time he really couldn't protect me.
Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2005, at 8:22:34
In reply to The session, posted by cubic_me on February 24, 2005, at 5:00:07
Oh, that *is* sweet.
It doesn't sound as if this session led you strongly in either direction?
It is so hard to fight for relationship with one person. I commend you for trying with a group.
Posted by Daisym on February 24, 2005, at 10:32:11
In reply to Re: The session » cubic_me, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2005, at 8:22:34
That guy gets a gold star! Give him an extra hug.
I'm sorry the group didn't go better. But I want to remind you that the interplay between people in a group is what it is about. So if they are uncomfortable with your ambiguity, that isn't your fault. It is probably why they need the group...
It still doesn't sound like you are getting much out of this. If you still feel depressed for a few more weeks I think you should talk to your old therapist.
Posted by Aphrodite on February 24, 2005, at 18:03:45
In reply to The session, posted by cubic_me on February 24, 2005, at 5:00:07
I think it is so admirable that you are doing this and persevering despite so many obstacles. But I think you need to take care of you and not the members of the group, and if it's not helping, you need to go get what you need. Good for you, though, for giving this a chance.
That boyfriend of yours sounds like a keeper! :)
Posted by cubic_me on February 25, 2005, at 16:01:47
In reply to Re: The session » cubic_me, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2005, at 8:22:34
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> It doesn't sound as if this session led you strongly in either direction?
>No, it didn't really. I don't want to judge it really, because we were all in quiet moods, so not much of any substance got said. I feel uncomfortable with silence, but that's not the fault of the group, although it doesn make me wonder whether the facillitator/T could be using th 45mins of the 1.5hr session that we spend in silence slightly better!
I've got a pdoc appointment in 2 weeks time, he suggested CBT, so I might ask him about that as an alternative to group or going back to my old T. Saying goodbye to my T the first time was so so hard that I don't think I can go through it again, especially if there is another option.
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