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Posted by cubic_me on October 18, 2004, at 15:45:36
I've been seeing my T for 2 years, in 2 days time it will be my last session with her. All the time I've been going I've said how I don't want to be dependent on her, and I often block out thoughts about our sessions or what I might tell her as it makes me feel like I need her. I don't want to need her.
This is so scary for me. I thought I was ready to leave individual and go into group, but the last few weeks have been a downward spiral back to depression. I want to be able to handle this properly.
Last week she asked whether I was tearful. I said no (i can't cry infront of people), she said that she might expect me to be crying. How do I show her that I am really sad to be leaving her without letting down my guard? She has helped me so much with my confidence and sense of self worth, even though I am still as depressed as I was.
It's confusing, and scary.
Posted by alexandra_k on October 18, 2004, at 18:38:40
In reply to My last session, posted by cubic_me on October 18, 2004, at 15:45:36
When I have stuff that I want to say but I am embarrassed or ashamed or something I try to write it down and post it or email it.
Your T may be thinking that you aren't sad at all, and that you won't miss her at all.
Last sessions are hard. When do you start group?
Posted by cubic_me on October 19, 2004, at 8:26:57
In reply to Re: My last session, posted by alexandra_k on October 18, 2004, at 18:38:40
I start group next week, but only if there are enough people interested in being in the group, there have been a few applications but the T that takes group needs enough people to confirm before she sets up the group for definate.
If the group doesn't happen I'm not quite sure what my next move will be.
I think I will write my T a card and send it after my last session.
Posted by fallsfall on October 19, 2004, at 9:59:19
In reply to Re: My last session » alexandra_k, posted by cubic_me on October 19, 2004, at 8:26:57
>>How do I show her that I am really sad to be leaving her without letting down my guard?
Why do you feel that you need to keep your guard up?
It is very common for people to seem to go backwards at the end of therapy - the post-therapy world is a scary place! As long as you and your therapist feel reasonably confident with your decision to move into group, you probably need to just push through this.
Therapy is special - of course you'll miss it!
Posted by Aphrodite on October 19, 2004, at 15:54:41
In reply to My last session, posted by cubic_me on October 18, 2004, at 15:45:36
I think sending her a card is a great way to keep yourself together and at the same time let her know how hard it is, what you've appreciated, and that you'll miss the sessions. I hope the group is a go and that it is beneficial for you. Good luck.
Posted by cubic_me on October 19, 2004, at 16:19:46
In reply to Re: My last session » cubic_me, posted by fallsfall on October 19, 2004, at 9:59:19
> Why do you feel that you need to keep your guard up?I suppose it's my defence against getting too hurt, and it's deeply ingrained in me. This is probably something I need to change, but I'm not ready at the moment, and currently I'm so busy with work and other things that I can't afford to let how I feel about this overwhelm me.
I'll let you (and everyone) know how it goes.
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